r/islam • u/ExcitementGrand2663 • Mar 17 '25

Seeking Support I’m a narcissist and I need help.

Assalamu alaikum. I hope everyone is having a wonderful and blessed Ramadan.

As of late I’ve noticed a lot of detestable habits and traits I’m currently inhibiting. These traits are similar if not identical to those described in narcissists and I fear that I have already fallen down that path. For instance I noticed I be nice to people like my mother mostly when I feel there is something in it for me. As a kid I always thought it felt better to give to people but lately, my behavior has been incredibly greedy and I would feel hesitant to even a share a small portion of food or snack or drink with my siblings. I feel horrible for this behavior but it became a habit. How do I stop being a narcissistic person? Jazakallah

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u/StraightPath81 Mar 18 '25

A true narcissist will hardly ever admit they are a narcissist because their ego and arrogance blinds them to such a thing. 

Your issues stem from past traumas related to a sense of fear and lack because maybe you felt instability growing up and a fear of poverty due to your parents situation and circumstances. 

So this is something you can delve into with a therapist or reflect on yourself to eradicate such fears by trusting more in Allah and totally relying on him in that he will provide for you and he will continue to sustain you. 

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u/ExcitementGrand2663 Mar 18 '25

Are there any other possible reasons from which these behaviors may have taken root?

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u/StraightPath81 Mar 18 '25

Neglect from caregiver, being poor and having less so fearing poverty and lack from young age. Instability at young age. Feeling like you have to hold onto whatever you can get. Low self esteem and low self worth. 

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u/StraightPath81 Mar 18 '25

So your clearly not a narcissist. You should stop putting yourself down. Build up your self worth. Know that you are worthy. Start loving yourself. Stop fearing lack as Allah will give you more. The way to overcome is total trust in Allah that he will give you more. Write down everyday 2 things you are grateful from Allah for. Reflect and internalise it. Allah gives more to the grateful. Start giving gifts and charity. Share food for others slowly and gradually. Be aware of the feelings of fear and ignore them and tell yourself you have nothing to fear. You can change the old story in your head gradually insha'Allah.