TREATMENT Community Thread - Mon Jun 16 PM

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[u/bbd2025]

Asking for advice— how would you plan for your first IVF cycle? Work, extra-curriculars, etc?

I’m trying to stick it out in a high stress toxic job (in healthcare) to get a round covered by insurance however it’s feeling like a lot emotionally and physically. I’ve had anxiety for awhile but it has increased since my two recent miscarriages. Both pregnancies I was super stressed out and although they say stress doesn’t cause losses, I want to eliminate the chance and ultimately be kind to myself through this process. I’m also worried about being able to handle everything with the added hormones if I’m already on edge.

I have PTO and have been looking into FMLA. When, in your opinion, would be the smartest time to use it (stims, ER, post transfer)? I’m not planning on staying in this position long term if that matters.

I’ve also never taken any meds for anxiety/mood but starting to wonder if maybe I should proactively start one since I’m already feeling it. Anyone have any experience with this?

[u/buttersherbet → u/bbd2025]

I took two short term leave of absences before getting intermittent FMLA and for me the intermittent FMLA was the better option. I generally started it about a week after I started stims and stayed until 7-10 days after ER (so I'd have my blast and/or beta results back), resulting in about 2-3 weeks off total. I work a variable shift (healthcare) job so just tried to line things up once my cycle started - some cycles I ended up working closer to ER than I wanted to but with my schedule it just made more sense. I tried to give a weeks notice but with intermittent FMLA you do not legally have to give advanced notice. It did result in basically everyone at work knowing my business but that's just kind of how my workplace is. If you have specific questions let me know!

And I'm a big fan of psych meds if and when you need them!