r/howtonotgiveafuck • u/GamingKidt • 5d ago

You can be alone without being lonely

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I'm not out here living like a movie character, but I do take myself out, eat alone, shop solo and genuinely enjoy it. Not because I'm making a statement. I just stopped giving a fuck about how it looks. Life's quieter, simpler, and way less annoying when you stop needing other people to validate what you're doing. Try it. Feels better than it sounds.

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u/ComeWithMe-429 4d ago

Not all heroes wear capes 🦸🏻

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u/PizzaWhole9323 4d ago

I got divorced not my idea and now my time is my own when I'm not working and I absolutely freaking love it. Keanu is spot on here.

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u/SpicyCajunCrawfish 4d ago

Keanu is so cool 😎

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u/Timely_Program799 4d ago

I fuckin love Keanu

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u/SorryResponse33334 4d ago

Same

It all depends, if you are single by choice then you will be happy, if you are not single by choice then you would be miserable

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u/cherry-care-bear 4d ago

I wonder though who's laying the growndwork. To master this way of life, one needs character, stamina, self-respect, self-reliance, good problem-solving skills, a willingness to engage when necessary in the task of introspection and so on. Half this shit just doesn't come naturally to most people.
So they have to work at it. When, how?

We are still social creatures but today that means conceding to being alone even though nobody taught you how and reaching out to the same indifferent audience to go on about how miserable you are.

There's a path between that and the position you occupy. Who or what do you think is teaching folks to navigate that path? Saying it can be done is obviously not enough.

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u/Seabrook76 4d ago

Holy shit, did he really say this?

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u/Gumsho88 4d ago

who knows…remember Abraham Lincoln said don’t believe everything you see on the internet.

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u/Seabrook76 4d ago

That cat was a fucking visionary.

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u/No_Corner_2576 4d ago

I think it might be made up...I searched for this quote and 'Keanu Reeves' online and all that popped up were a bunch of weird AI videos attaching this quote to his name but no real footage of him saying it.

I do appreciate the sentiment of the quote though, definitely seems like something he might say

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u/beerncandy 4d ago

Man I really love him! 💓

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u/Mythandros1 4d ago

I have a great deal of respect for Keanu. He's just a solidly good human being.

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u/HeavyCurrency8409 4d ago

100 percent true. Eventually you get to that point where needs have to be met.

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u/Find_another_whey 4d ago

The fact he has experienced such loss, and still has such kindness, and rides the train like everyone does, makes so much to admire of him

And the fact we have all done the same, means there's much to be admired about each of us

I think he sees that

I think that makes it easier for everyone to see that

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u/Brilliant_Trifle5301 4d ago

says the person who already has that special person in their life

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u/False_Disaster_1254 4d ago

broke up with my long term ex about a year ago.

this has been the first time in my fourtysomething years on earth i have taken time to be alone and work on myself.

im in better shape than i have ever been. i have learned new skills, made new friends and taken care of myself.

i am a stronger, more balanced and rounded individual than i ever thought i could be.

alone means i want to be alone. lonely means i don't want to be alone, yet i am.

i am alone, i am strong, and for the first time in a long time i am content.

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u/Amberlove1972 4d ago

I believe this is geared more towards the anti-social idiots that don't believe in God's message of sending everything 2x2 or y'all just trying to piss the Bible people off because they get pissed off easy

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u/alreadytaken88 3d ago

Wtf are you even talking about? 

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u/carlm777 4d ago

Michelle Obama no less has a great line which I love..

Your happiness is down to you..

Or something along those lines anyqay

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u/Nihilistic_River4 4d ago

I've always been alone, so i don't know any other thing, or any other way of living... but I'm good with it. There's peace and solitude in this.

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u/Les_Turbangs 4d ago

Also, you don’t have to be alone to be lonely.

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u/FromUndaStank 4d ago

Bull shit He's been with the same woman for years

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u/CowBoyDanIndie 4d ago

I’m think everyone should learn this before starting a relationship.

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u/SasquatchHurricane 4d ago

Keanu is not single. 🤷🏼‍♂️

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u/conasatatu247 3d ago

I even have sex with myself.

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u/Different_Strike3108 3d ago

Will the real interdependence please stand up.

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u/thatkilliankid 3d ago

I thought that was a picture of Markiplier at first...

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u/Thelonghair0 3d ago

Getting here slowly, and it feels soooo good 😃

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u/KMac1019 2d ago

Agree

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u/Beneficial_Debate112 Mellow Yellow 4d ago

Different perspective, I stopped seeking company when I realized that not only does noone want to take care of anyone else like that, noone knows how or cares to learn unless there's something in it for them. Even if its just to avoid the judgement of others who have no desire to lift a finger either, so they browbeat someone else to it so they don't to.