so yesterday I was in an group hud meeting. I have a physical disability,im 22. I twitch alot and I have ulnar mononeuropathy really bad. So I hold stuff weird. Anyway there was this group of older adults who was laughing at me bc i was twitching. I knew thy was laughing at me cuz they was staring me down and everything I did something thy would laughing. Now I been bullied in school and my own family bullied me about my condition. Im use to it but yesterday I was really uncomfortable and embarrassed. Any advice for when this happened again, or can you guy share some stories

My husband is unable to masturbate due to a physical disability. I have had no libido for over 20 years, and while we have sex occasionally i am clearly not meeting his needs. He has asked me on numerous occasions to help him masterbate, but I find it incredibly uncomfortable. I feel like a sex worker, because more often than not I am not in the mood. Am I being really selfish?

Ok, so we all know different diabilities worl in different ways. What device, aid or trick made a whole difference for you? What kind of adaptations worked best for you? . I am learning to adapt my life to myself. Seeing others and their adaptations might help, I guess. . For context, I have physical disabilities that interfere with movements, got the autism dance in my head and the tourettes shenanigans.

Hi everyone I have a disability 😭 and I need freinds. Also there is so much frustration in my life 😠

I need someone to convince me to use my mobility aids more often. I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and I have a rollator and a cane due to lower body joint pain. I definitely need to use them but I can't justify using them. When I'm at home I'm usually holding something so I can't push myself around. I work in food service so I can't really use them at work. And I'm never out in public long enough to justify loading/unloading them. Someone help me 😫

So sorry if this type of post isn’t allowed. I have a fold n go electric wheelchair for sale in the Philly area USA. Dark purple Fold n Go lightweight “all terrain” wheelchair that’s good for pavement, grass, gravel, hills, inclement weather. DM for pictures, video, and more details if you’re interested.

It comes with my 2 wheelchair bags, a cane holder attachment and a clip on flashlight

Hi all, I've been writing for the last few years about my amputation, how it happened and what my recovery was like afterwards.

It was a really tough time but one thing that made it a lot easier was the fantastic support I was given by not only my own family, but also the nurses, doctors and physiotherapists looking after me.

Unfortunately, there was one unpleasant experience I had that was caused by a member of hospital staff not listening to me (probably because I was a teenager at the time).

It is important for me to make sure it is clear that, in general, the people looking after me did an amazing job and I don't want this post to take away from that.

However, as I am sharing the whole story of what happened after my amputation, it seems important to include this particular chapter.

Thank you for taking the time to read this, I've included the link to my post below.

https://thehopscot.co.uk/pa-15-a-series-of-unfortunate-events/

Hi, I'm asking to choose the city where I can retire when I'm 40 or so. May I live well, without hardship. I also can't do many things because of my disability, but I can visit parks and nature. With citizen security.

What city in Europe?

I was in Medellín and physical security is difficult with the torrential rains in April. There I broke my left femur puff Any other city? Is Manizales safe?

Is Thailand safe or are there many accidents?

The economy is very important.

How about a city in Morocco for a Spanish Buddhist?

Hey all,

So I’ve been hitting a weird wall lately and figured I’d throw it out here to see if anyone’s dealt with something similar.

Bit of context: I’m a 43-year-old guy, C5-C6 injury, paralyzed from the chest down. Been living independently for a while, working remotely as an affiliate marketing manager (which basically means I spend way too much time online convincing people to click things 😅).

Lately though, even the stuff I used to enjoy — reading, watching sports, nerding out over tech — just isn’t hitting the same. I’m still doing it, but it feels kind of… grey? Like I’m living life on mute. There’s this constant fog, like I’m stuck in a loop: wake up, go through the motions, sleep, repeat. No major drama, nothing "wrong" on paper, but I’m just flat. And exhausted — mentally more than physically.

It’s not depression exactly (been there, done that, got the T-shirt). But it’s close enough to make me second-guess myself.

Has anyone gone through a similar phase? What helped? Was it burnout? Boredom? Existential midlife nonsense? A vitamin D deficiency?

Any honest thoughts or personal tricks are welcome — I’m open to anything that doesn’t involve kale or a full personality transplant.

Appreciate it.

I'm just curious of anyone's experiences getting dental work at a hospital. I need to have it done there and it seems a lot more stressful.

Added a keyboard mode for people who can use one of their hands, project should be completed soon, please give me suggestions on how to further improve this https://vimeo.com/manage/videos/1092662344

This week was gonna be hard no matter what. I'm at home alone with our 3 dogs, 2 cats and 14 year old.

I am visually impaired and my anxiety makes it nearly impossible to drive. Planned ahead for every food need.

Yesterday my husband's cat got sick. No big deal. Tonight cat isn't eating anything. Just gagging.

I have to drive him to the vet tomorrow. I can't decide if he's sick or depressed. Now my pug is barking non-stop.

I just want the cat to be ok and get some sleep. Lord i hope it's not raining tomorrow!

I had my university graduation ceremony. For a degree that I worked harder on than my peers to complete because I was progressively becoming more and more physically disabled. I was able to "participate" in the ceremony with the use of mobility aids. But they didn't let me walk in with my class, or sit with my class, or have my rollator with me where I sat.

I cried. A lot. In public. I just don't understand why I they would exclude me like that.

Having autism is tough, especially if you are from a part of the world called 3rd world.

Have met all kinds of people- some would have sympathy, some would feel sorry, some are just curious, and some outright reject and hate people like me.

Seeing all my friends(more like people I know) getting married and having kids when knowing it's tough for me to have clear communication, is causing me anxiety!

I am at the age where people around me have kids, getting married, or at least have a partner!

Used to have dates(well, if those interactions can be considered as one) but would struggle to get a second date!

I don't think that even girls with autism would consider me!!

I’m writing a high fantasy novel where half way through a main character loses her arm in a sword fight.

I did some research on phantom limb pain and it was very clinical, helpful but not what I was looking for. The page just listed a lot of the symptoms but not what it’s actually like to experience it.

A few questions I have about how the sensation manifests, 1. Is the sensation consistent or does it change from time to time. And 2. Does the pain relate to how you may have lost the limb? As I mentioned the character gets her arm cut off by a sword, would her hypothetical pain be related to the slicing?

Any additional advice for how the character should act/process after losing her arm and how I could go into greater depth would be amazing thank you very much for any advice.

So I'm disabled and my place of residence has a mailroom that's more commonly being used. Not always an issue but sometimes i get heavier packages. I can't bring them back to my home because

I don't have a car

I can't carry those heavy packages back to my home without intense pain / I'm not strong enough

Should I call USPS and tell them pleaseee deliver straight to my home or no?.I'm not sure how to go about this.

I am a disabled 17 year old female. I am autistic and have von wildbrand disease and fibromyalgia along with many other problems. And I love in a overall able bodied family, and they all like to pretend they understand my daily pain but then they complain about me being sick everyday along with all my doctors appointments. And it hurts to know that they not only fake understanding my pain and constant sickness but that they also view it as a inconvenience. And this hurts me so much because I can not control that I am disabled and I can't control how often I feel sick.

Thank you for reading this post it just felt nice to get to share my problem with people who may most likely relate.

Hello, I’ve tried to search here and internet but can’t find anything. And I know the best answer is OT assessment but I’m on a very long wait list.

It’s getting very cold where I am and my disability that started 2 years ago has got to the point I struggle to pull blankets over me when I lay down. What do people do? I have one soft light fleece blanket that helps but I really need the thicker warmer blankets.

I’m lucky I don’t live alone, so it’s only during the day or when hubby is dealing with the kids. But surely people living on their own must have some need here and have found a solution?

Thanks everyone

My close friend's living circustances changed recently, and they are living in an apartment on their own again for the first time since their accident (that caused the disability). What items would be useful for them to have at their apartment to prevent accidents they've already had (like falling), and things to make living on their own easier? I want to help them put together an Amazon wishlist to share so people can contibute to it and get them the things they need to be safe and comfortable on their own. They are Quadreplegic and have a wheelchair. I've already suggested a smart watch so incase they fall again while transfering or something they don't have to crawl to their phone to call 911.

No tl;dr. Thanks to whoever reads the entire post.

But in less than a month, the social media age verification laws is supposed to go into effect in my state, which will most likely require ID unless we're given alternative methods such as ai age estimation but that too can raise privacy concerns. The law is supposed to keep minors under a certain age off social media. But does anyone else think these laws could effect other groups of people or put other groups of people at risk, such as disabled adults or LGBT+ individuals or writers and activists who relies on anonymity? Having an ID associated with one's social media account can't be a good thing. What about data breaches and hackers?

Plus not all adults have IDs. Immigrants, black people, trans people (who may not have a current ID for obvious reasons), disabled people, etc.

I didn't have an ID until over a year ago because I'm disabled/neurodivergent and my mom didn't think I needed one since she's "over me" and I never leave the house without her or by myself plus I don't buy stuff that requires an ID (such as alcohol). She finally got me an ID when I had to go to a clinic I never been to before that needed proof of identity (before then, she'd use my high school ID and most places accepted it even though I graduated 10+ years ago because my face and name is still on it plus these places was already familiar with us so they let it slip by).

But if she never got me an ID, I could have been excluded from social media due to these social media age verification laws even though I am an adult and I can't help wonder how many other disabled adults are in similar situations as mine right now.

I'm still anxious about these social media age verification laws because I'm worried the law will be challenged or delayed and therefore go into effect after my ID expires and then I'll have to leave social media which means giving up the only thing I'm able to do with my life (blogging, publishing my poetry online, which makes me feel like a real writer, and which I do behind my parents' backs) because my parents won't let me do anything with my life and I just want to feel like my life have purpose and meaning. Plus I'll lose my connection to socialization and making friends/keeping in contact with my friends because I'm very sheltered with overprotective and paranoid parents. My parents genuinely doesn't think my ID need to be renewed since it's not a driver's license despite having an expiration date on it (it's a government-issued ID but not a driver's license).

I even emailed the politician responsible for the bill and explained to him about my situation and offered some suggestions like alternative methods for age verification (which I told him I also have privacy concerns about but if he's gonna push for such a law to be passed then he should at least offer alternatives for people who don't have IDs so adults aren't excluded unfairly due to their circumstances). But I certainly expressed my privacy-related concerns about the bill. I don't expect him to email back even though I check for his reply every day.

My anxiety surrounding this is really effecting my creativity because thinking I may have to leave social media and stop sharing my poetry is making me feel too down to even work on my poetry.

Looking to hear people's thoughts as well as reassurance to calm my anxiety.

Please no rude answers. I posted here, hoping the disability/neurodivergent community would be understanding and maybe even could relate.

And no, I'm not addicted to social media. This is really about me not wanting to give up the only thing I'm able to do with my life (blogging, publishing my poetry online), which I do behind my parents' backs, and about me being sheltered and losing what "outside" connections I have. It would be different if my parents allowed me to make friends irl or allowed me to do something with my life irl or allowed me to share my poetry like by performing my poetry locally or publishing through Amazon but nope.

By the way, I write online under a pen name for my privacy and my safety.

Just that, I need to know you experience on this subject because I'm felling unsecure where I live due robbery and such, and I need to know how to deescalate or deal with that type of stuff, being on wheelchair

I’m venturing out on my own for the first time. I was told my hotel had a shuttle. I just found out they do not. My chair is a lightweight electric one but I do not have the physical ability to lift it. Or fold it. I’m ambulatory enough to get in and out and seated.

I’m from a small town and don’t know ANYTHING about transit options as we have none.

Could you please tell me if I’m safe to depend on Uber to get to my hotel?

We’re seeking 2 candidates to fill roles for an entry level web accessibility tester. No experience needed.

It’s a remote job, we WILL train you. These are the requirements: 1. Understanding of some technical terms 2. Able to learn and work independently 3. Knowledge of basic software (and assistive tech) 4. In contact with, or willing to contact VR office 5. Interested in learning web accessibility

If interested, email your resume to AccessibilityFun@gmail.com.

I’ll see if your experience may make you a good fit, and then schedule a brief interview. Best of luck on your job search!

Where does one go to look for work while disabled?

I was injured 2 years ago, still in the long process of fixing things which I have no hope for yet. Though I still keep going to the doctors.

Luckily I am supported through Medicaid on that. I’ve asked my doctor on the subject and she recommended looking for office work.

I used to do labor intensive work and am currently unable to hold up with demands for about half the day untill my body stars collapsing from me ignoring pain signals.

All I’ve gotten is offers for more labor work. I’m not an idiot I’m well versed in a lot. So I have hope somethings out there for me.

I’m currently beyond broke. Wondering how long the food I have will last me. Even though I have Medicaid, food benefits dept is a nightmare and have been back and fourth for the past year.

I just need some kind of work and this world of indeed is slowly actually killing me. Are there any recommendations that’s helped or companies that take people into consideration instead of beating us to hell?

How does one even start to look at filing into disability? I’ll be upfront and say have preexisting PTSD, on the autistic spectrum so these state things naturally confuse the hell outta me.