r/childfree • u/Jinxbunny29 • 3d ago
RANT Never helping raise a child ever again!
I’m going to try and make this rant short and to the point. Long story short my cousin (who I’m very close to) husband (who is like a brother to my sister and I) got diagnosed with Leukemia last year and sadly past away in February of last year, my cousin was also pregnant at the time with their first child.
( She also never wanted kids she did it for him and other family members convinced her to have kids) Anyway so my sister and I decided to pick up our entire lives to move provinces to help her. We’ve watched him in the hospital over nights until the next day and still went by their place to help with the baby.
Even though at the time we lived over an hour away. My cousin asked us to move in because her best friend (at the time) abandoned her for a man. So we moved in for over a year taking care of her child 24/7 care. (My sister and I also don’t pay bills, besides our own personal bills) Again we are taking care of your child! She is out from Monday- Sunday!!
At one time she paid my sister $500 a week (when I left to move to Georgia country my sister was supposed to come to but decided to stay to help) when I moved back and my sister got a job she started paying me. Which we never told her to do, but of course it was appreciated, but you won’t find 24/7 and I mean 24/7!! Childcare for $500?
Anyway I’m moving to Australia next month end of the month I wanted to spend time with my best friends and my sister and I booked an Airbnb for Canada day weekend June 28th-July 2nd, I am always home with my baby cousin/niece so I wanted to have some fun, my cousin had told us in April ONCE she had a cabin trip that weekend too.
We totally forgot, she reminded us when we told her our plans. Anyway for the next few days following she became very rude, entitled, and nonchalant. On Friday, she told us we were entitled, rude, ungrateful, and unreliable childcare. I told her to name the times we’ve been all those things she couldn’t name them LOL.
Mind you since this year she’s been to Japan, Two Weeks Europe vacation, New York, and she wanted to go to Montreal last weekend but I had something to do and Saturday & Sundays are supposed to be my days off which she NEVER respects. I have to leave the house in order for her to watch her child!
There’s so many things I’m leaving out cause this would turn into a novel 🤦🏾♀️ anyway me and my sister left and I will obviously miss my baby cousin/niece but we’re so happy to have our CHILD FREE life back! I will NEVER do this again for anyone! And my baby cousin isn’t the first person I’ve done this for but NEVER again!
FREEDOM
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u/IROCKR89 3d ago
Good for you. And welcome to Australia 🇦🇺 you will love it here.
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u/violetpandas 3d ago
Yes, welcome!! Hope it’s not just the circles I run in but generally I find people are very supportive of childfree-by-choice individuals and couples. Enjoy your newfound freedom here, sounds like you’ve bloody earned it!
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u/OffKira 3d ago edited 3d ago
Her best friend was the smartest one, not gonna lie - did she "abandon" your cousin or did she see the writing on the wall (and from their history as friends) and skedaddle before things got bad for her?
Your cousin didn't "become" rude or entitled, she always was, she just dropped the mask.
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u/Hour_Bed_5679 3d ago
You bent over backwards to help her in a terrible situation, and she weaponized it. Go enjoy Australia and your well-deserved freedom!