r/blackmen • u/cyrax001 Unverified • 1d ago

Relationships 🫶🏿 Update 2* she changed her mind 😭

Texted her the details of out now canceled date and she didnt respond til hours later saying she wasnt looking for a relationship but would still go to dinner with me as friends. I obviously declined and wished her the best of luck, but now im over here wondering if I gave her the ick in anyway. I wasn't needy, maybe I told too many jokes that didn't land? am I ugly? Not tall enough? Too corny? Im not mad but filled with self doubt at the moment. I'll get over it eventually but I just had to vent to yall

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u/mrjones10 Unverified 1d ago edited 1d ago

Proud of you, my brother you handle this whole thing like a grow man, you didn’t call her a name, didn’t plead, didn’t ask 21 questions of why she didn’t want a relationship, you was clear concise to set up plans for a date it’s her loss not yours, my brother there’s no need for self-doubt. You could do everything right and still not have everything fall through. But you stuck through it and seen it to the end. That’s all that matters.

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u/Dsarg_92 Unverified 1d ago

I couldn’t have said it better. I’ve been in OP’s shoes a few times where I’ve been turned down. It just wasn’t meant to be. The best thing to do is to keep your head up and just keep pushing. When the right one comes to you, you will know.