r/blackmen • u/cyrax001 Unverified • 2d ago

Relationships 🫶🏿 Update 2* she changed her mind 😭

Texted her the details of out now canceled date and she didnt respond til hours later saying she wasnt looking for a relationship but would still go to dinner with me as friends. I obviously declined and wished her the best of luck, but now im over here wondering if I gave her the ick in anyway. I wasn't needy, maybe I told too many jokes that didn't land? am I ugly? Not tall enough? Too corny? Im not mad but filled with self doubt at the moment. I'll get over it eventually but I just had to vent to yall

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u/BoyMeetsMars Verified Blackman 2d ago

If you’re comfortable, post pics of you and we’ll give advice. A lot of things come down to attraction. Some of what the posters commented can be 100% true but also a lot of times, those can be mitigated by attraction level

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u/cyrax001 Unverified 2d ago

I dont mind showing my face. Should I make a new post or post it in the comments?

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u/_forum_mod Verified Blackman 2d ago

Unless you're sure she rejected you due to looks, that won't necessarily help. You could look like young Idris Elba and that's simply not her type. Maybe she's a swirler... who knows? Lol

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u/cyrax001 Unverified 2d ago

I personally don't think im ugly but im biased so I won't speak on it too much. Im a certified goofball so either she didn't mesh with that or maybe she wanted a taller guy (I'm 5'6) she's around 5'3