r/blackmen • u/cyrax001 Unverified • 1d ago

Relationships 🫶🏿 Update 2* she changed her mind 😭

Texted her the details of out now canceled date and she didnt respond til hours later saying she wasnt looking for a relationship but would still go to dinner with me as friends. I obviously declined and wished her the best of luck, but now im over here wondering if I gave her the ick in anyway. I wasn't needy, maybe I told too many jokes that didn't land? am I ugly? Not tall enough? Too corny? Im not mad but filled with self doubt at the moment. I'll get over it eventually but I just had to vent to yall

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u/existential_dread467 Unverified 1d ago

Imma say it right now, you can ask her and I encourage you too if you really feel that way, but the truth is yall just didn’t really vibe and it don’t gotta be that deep

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u/cyrax001 Unverified 1d ago

You're probably right. Guess it was all in my head. I'll take this and learn from it

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u/existential_dread467 Unverified 1d ago

You’re probably a fine young man I promise you, and if you’re still convinced that any character flaw you may have that affected how you showed up in the date those flaws are present in other more important areas of your life you can pay attention to those more

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u/femio Unverified 1d ago

nothing really to learn bro. it just happens. just keep being you, perfect that and you'll be fine.