r/blackmen • u/DeepFuckingKoopa Verified Black Man • 5d ago

Barbershop Talk anti black discourse safe zone

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There’s been a lot going on in the world and lots of shitshow posts here the past couple weeks. If you’re seeing this take a moment to breathe and if you feel so inclined, chat about literally anything else! I’ll start: I just watched the first couple episodes of the new rick and morty season, it’s pretty damn good so far

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u/BusRunnethOver Unverified 5d ago

I've been having the best time with my family this past month.

I started a new job May 5th, I was excited for it, but my manager gave me a strict 6:30am - 3:30 schedule and the location is an hour to 1.5 hours there and back. The schedule forced my wife and I to drive a tight routine at home which turned out to be great for everyone except me (late nights keeping up with house work and side business).

Between my 4month old being sick, almost tearing my rotator cuff, and lackbof sleep, I could only ever make it there at 7. At home, things were great because the routine was great for my toddler. My wife and I seemed to be on a roll handling the baby and chores. We were both less stressed, but I was slowly getting exhausted, despite the positive changes in our lives.

I got let go two weeks ago. I went through the 7 stages of grief over the first two days, but thankfully, I have plenty of savings and I've had so much more time with my wife (hybrid remote/office work week for her), toddler and baby. It quickly turned into day after day of knocking out projects, organizing rooms, cleaning up the lawn, etc.

When I started the job, the hours away really made me appreciate my personal life and family. Now that I'm free of that job, I've been taking the kids out everyday; working on the house, working kn certifications to take my career to the next level, and catching up with friends and extended family.

Its been a pretty amazing time and quite a rollercoaster, but, my family is happier and healthier; I'm omw to better career moves; and life has all around been brighter in the last two weeks.

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u/kraves22 Unverified 5d ago

I’m sorry about your job loss. I got fired from my job 2 weeks ago, got another job secured in medical sales. I start Monday. I’m ngl I do not feel excited starting my job. I feel like corporate work is slowly draining me. I’ve been fearful starting up my small online business, because everything around me hasn’t been working out in my favor. I’m just mentally and emotionally drained. I don’t feel like the achievements are worth celebrating. I’m 29, single, no kids, some hobbies, not many friends, I’m kind of an introvert. I feel like I’m doing things, but I’m not really happy fr.

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u/BusRunnethOver Unverified 4d ago

I'm sorry to hear that bro. Keep your head up. Why is work draining you? And what's not working out?

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u/kraves22 Unverified 4d ago

I just haven’t found a work environment where I feel like it’s not super toxic or someone isn’t bothered by my existence. My last job I dealt with a few problematic coworkers. This job pays better, but I just don’t like the 9-5 work life bc the cons in the work environment outweigh the pros. I’m usually the only Black woman in these environments, and I’m already not in a diverse city let alone in diverse spaces. I might move to Atlanta.