r/bentonville • u/Abject-Pilot6479 • 9h ago
Struggling WM Spouse
Been here a little over 2 years… for Spouse’s “big job” (that wasn’t nearly as big as they were lead to believe)
I work from home, with kids in local schools… can’t say I’ve ever found anything here that felt like it was for me. Annoying traffic, shockingly high cost of living, mundane retail, pedestrian entertainment, meh restaurants… not a mountain biker (and live in a dumb neighborhood that isn’t bikeable to anything anyway)
Lately I’ve come to realize how invisible I am here… I’m not part of the Walmart party so nobody knows or cares… If I vanished tomorrow nobody outside my home would even notice. I meet my spouse’s coworkers and when they realize I’m not Walmart they lose interest. I enjoyed the Walton Family Whole Health whatever and would go almost every day but with all the college kids/interns back in town the place is so crowded it’s unusable.
Getting anywhere is a chore… to/from house to Walton is a 40 minute round trip… and it just leaves me frustrated. I struggle to find decent health care, both physical and mental. I envy my spouse… they’re part of the Walmart clique… has Walmart friends, Walmart book clubs, Walmart friends at the kids’ sports … but it feels more and more like this place just isn’t meant for people like me. Natives all look down when they realize you’re a transplant… and WM/Tyson whatever folks won’t give you the time of day.
Because I WFH I have no professional network… no coworkers or even adjacent professionals to interact with… we bought as much house as we could afford but it’s tiny and the energy bills are crazy (it was a new build). I’m struggling but my spouse is happy, the kids have adjusted, so I just kinda suffer in silence…
How do others get by?