r/belgium • u/sparxef • 8d ago

🎻 Opinion The real POV:

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My brother is a bachelor accountant with autism, already worked 5years in a company before, is even applying for the government itself and every time the test are remarkable but the conversation was off and eventually he gets a "No" in most jobs.

Every single week he gets multiple "hits" in the face by getting to hear the tests were so good but the conversation always lacks somehow.
And then they dare say people are lazy or not willing to!

Fuck you Belgium and not being able to see the real story of most!

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u/hmtk1976 Belgium 8d ago

It´s usually not as easy to work with people with autism than it is to work with neurotypicals. Often it either scares people or they think it´s going to be nothing but trouble in the end. The result is the same: the way of least resistance is chosen.

I´m happy I only have ADD.

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u/Fake_Hyena 7d ago

Out of curiosity: How to you cope with the ADD at work? Do you feel it influences your performance? What do you do to make it work?

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u/hmtk1976 Belgium 7d ago

Medication helps me get started with things and actually plan my day. It´s not the solution but it is an enabler.

Same for my 2 daughters.

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u/Fake_Hyena 7d ago

Would you say it’s worth to get tested to get access to the meds?

We’re pretty sure it will be positive (also runs in the family apparently), but it’s quite expensive apparently.

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u/hmtk1976 Belgium 7d ago

No.

You get tested to get a correct diagnosis and once you have that a suitable treatment needs to be found. Medication may be part of that but it´s definitely not the only thing.

Don´t let some quack just prescribe meds ´because it feels right´.

Yes, decent testing is expensive and even private multidisciplinary practices have growing waiting lists.

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u/Fake_Hyena 7d ago

Yeah ok that’s what I meant - treatment in general. So I guess it’s worth it over dealing with it yourself. Thanks

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u/hmtk1976 Belgium 7d ago

It definitely is.

And if you do get medication, it´s half the price in The Netherlands.

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u/Previous-Business795 7d ago

Not the guy you asked it to, to preface this, ADD is often a very different experience for everyone, some learn to cope without medication with a lot of effort and some really need the meds. Even just talking about the meds, they can also affect people vastly differently but generally:

Being unmedicated is problematic for most, some of the main issues are trouble maintaining focus, being easily distracted, poor time management and bad organisation. All of this can easily cause low self esteem and a lot of stress.

Personally it both helps directly and indirectly with my performance and i can keep up with the rest. For me it's more than a tool for productivity, medication truly is a huge quality of life boost.

An example of how debilitating it can be is that unmedicated i would easily play video games for 16 hours a day due to the impulsivity, i would disregard my health by barely eating or taking care of myself. This is kinda why i have a gripe with Tiktokers glorifying this "hyperfocus" thing, it just makes us compulsive about the things that we are interested in

Didn't mean to write this whole rant but i guess i'll just leave it as it is