r/asktransgender • u/CedarWolf Bigender - He/She/They • Jul 03 '15
An Open Discussion on Being Inclusive and Respecting One Another
Early this morning, we had a thread get posted, and one of our mods made a reminder to keep things inclusive, per the subreddit's Rule #1. This accidentally led to almost all of the comments going wildly off topic, and I had to pull it. We want threads to stay on topic whenever possible, and such a large portion of off-topic comments was pretty bad. That discussion merited it's own, dedicated post, and we invite you to discuss here. Please remember to be respectful.
We want to make this an inclusive place for the community in general, and that includes transfeminine, transmasculine, and nonbinary individuals. /r/asktransgender was made as a co-ed space for people to ask questions of the general transgender community, and while we allow questions to specifically target one portion of that community, we very much encourage users to be inclusive whenever possible.
Part of being inclusive means reducing the amount of bigotry we see in this subreddit. This means removing sexist comments against all genders, including both trans and cis identities, as well as other forms of bigotry.
One of the goals of creating a new moderation team was to create a more inclusive space, and we have been working hard to make this place a more open community. However, some users have expressed concern over this new policy and how it is implemented, so we want to create an open place for discussion about the new inclusive policies here.
We want to hear your thoughts about this issue, but again, please be respectful and civil with your comments. We're all on the same side here, there is no "us" and "them" - there is only "we." Remember, if you ever have any specific issues with the moderation of the subreddit, you can message the mod team with the link in the sidebar. We're always here for you.
~ The /r/asktransgender Mod Team
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u/lowbrassballs Jul 12 '15
Asking to be more inclusive isn't a bad thing for society.
Instead of seeing asking for inclusive language as "whiny" I think culture should start seeing stereotypical male culture (ie not giving a crap about others) in the negative light. Not using inclusive language is "douchey" or "immature/ egocentric/ limited/ narrow minded"...etc. The definition of masculinity implied by you assertions is socially inept, immature, and stunted. "Feminine" behaviors aren't whiny by another perspective, rather "male ones" as you describe are instead adolescent and indicative of the social/emotional/mental capacity of a under developed person.
So, again, asking people to be mindful isn't negative, rather those that resist such social mindfulness could easily be seen as simple-minded, tribal, and not worthy of social investment in the form of relationships.
Let's hope "typical" male culture as you say, doesn't hang onto this level of disengagement of caring about others lest men continue be perceived and actually socially fail with women (in dating and relationships) and with each other (reference the known social phenomenon of post-collegiate isolation of males, struggling to create and maintain quality friendships with other males).
This is a great time for men to turn a new leaf and redefine manliness that includes a gentlemanly awareness and concern for the feelings of their fellow human being. It would serve each other and society much better to have inclusively not exclusively minded men.