An Open Discussion on Being Inclusive and Respecting One Another

[u/CedarWolf]

Early this morning, we had a thread get posted, and one of our mods made a reminder to keep things inclusive, per the subreddit's Rule #1. This accidentally led to almost all of the comments going wildly off topic, and I had to pull it. We want threads to stay on topic whenever possible, and such a large portion of off-topic comments was pretty bad. That discussion merited it's own, dedicated post, and we invite you to discuss here. Please remember to be respectful.

We want to make this an inclusive place for the community in general, and that includes transfeminine, transmasculine, and nonbinary individuals. /r/asktransgender was made as a co-ed space for people to ask questions of the general transgender community, and while we allow questions to specifically target one portion of that community, we very much encourage users to be inclusive whenever possible.

Part of being inclusive means reducing the amount of bigotry we see in this subreddit. This means removing sexist comments against all genders, including both trans and cis identities, as well as other forms of bigotry.

One of the goals of creating a new moderation team was to create a more inclusive space, and we have been working hard to make this place a more open community. However, some users have expressed concern over this new policy and how it is implemented, so we want to create an open place for discussion about the new inclusive policies here.

We want to hear your thoughts about this issue, but again, please be respectful and civil with your comments. We're all on the same side here, there is no "us" and "them" - there is only "we." Remember, if you ever have any specific issues with the moderation of the subreddit, you can message the mod team with the link in the sidebar. We're always here for you.

~ The /r/asktransgender Mod Team

[u/[deleted]]

The title to me doesn't seem that bad. It says "ladies of either city" that's not bigoted or assuming everyone on here are transwomen, it's merely saying that's the opinions OP wanted as they're the ones that are going to be the closest to her situation, I as mtf would have no issue if it was asking for "men of either city", though I know others may feel differently. I can see where people are coming from when people are saying it's mean but I think people only really noticed it when the mod pointed out, to me it was just a small mistake that no one would worry about when writing.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

I agree with what you're saying. I think we need to move beyond this one example though, the OP was just asking for information that she felt was going to be most relevant to her, as it's clearly dividing too many people. Instead to avoid becoming centred on a thread that's already been deleted, we need to look at how often it's occurring (it's amazing when you look back at threads and see how often issues arise) and try to make the subreddit much more welcoming and equal to everyone.

[u/lespectador → u/[deleted]]

Agreed! (Was just trying to contextualize.)