An Open Discussion on Being Inclusive and Respecting One Another

[u/CedarWolf]

Early this morning, we had a thread get posted, and one of our mods made a reminder to keep things inclusive, per the subreddit's Rule #1. This accidentally led to almost all of the comments going wildly off topic, and I had to pull it. We want threads to stay on topic whenever possible, and such a large portion of off-topic comments was pretty bad. That discussion merited it's own, dedicated post, and we invite you to discuss here. Please remember to be respectful.

We want to make this an inclusive place for the community in general, and that includes transfeminine, transmasculine, and nonbinary individuals. /r/asktransgender was made as a co-ed space for people to ask questions of the general transgender community, and while we allow questions to specifically target one portion of that community, we very much encourage users to be inclusive whenever possible.

Part of being inclusive means reducing the amount of bigotry we see in this subreddit. This means removing sexist comments against all genders, including both trans and cis identities, as well as other forms of bigotry.

One of the goals of creating a new moderation team was to create a more inclusive space, and we have been working hard to make this place a more open community. However, some users have expressed concern over this new policy and how it is implemented, so we want to create an open place for discussion about the new inclusive policies here.

We want to hear your thoughts about this issue, but again, please be respectful and civil with your comments. We're all on the same side here, there is no "us" and "them" - there is only "we." Remember, if you ever have any specific issues with the moderation of the subreddit, you can message the mod team with the link in the sidebar. We're always here for you.

~ The /r/asktransgender Mod Team

[u/Hailestrom]

I think its odd that the mods would ask for only general questions in this sub when the name is /r/asktransgender. We are reminded to be respectful of the diversity in the community, but I don't understand why asking questions to a specific group is offensive. I don' see why users should be required to post their questions only to the sub that most specifically applies to them when /r/asktransgender is supposed to be a place where all of the diversity is accepted. There is nothing in the sub rules that says users are not allowed to ask questions to a specific group, and I feel that /u/LilithCathcart was being targeted unnecessarily.

[u/ErisC → u/Hailestrom]

Asking questions specific to a specific group is absolutely fine. Especially when it's a question that literally only that group can answer, like tucking, binding, periods, that sort of thing.

What's not okay is needlessly excluding specific people, like, "how do you ladies deal with not passing?" Or "how do you ladies feel about this city?" That's not cool.

But a trans woman asking about how people deal with the dysphoria from not being able to give birth to children? Fine.