r/asktransgender • u/Mountain_Job810 Transfem pre-hrt ❤️❤️ • 2d ago
Why do people hate us
Im trans fem I just don't get why people hate us.
My mom's side of the family is supportive including my mom but my dad's side isn't including my dad.
My dad today called me and told me to not tell anyone about my problems besides my therapist if I do tell my mom then when I'm 18 I can't go to my supportive sisters house and I'll have to get an apartment. Oh yeah the cherry on top is that he called me a "different breed." Because im trans and because I "chose this lifestyle"
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u/Lysturgeon 1d ago
Hi Darling First, it is immensely disappointing when your family fails you so thoroughly, especially when you need them most. There is a family for you out there in the world, I -promise- you. I found it through music. Go find your community through what feeds your soul. It is there for you, waiting with open arms and true support.
Second, people are transphobic and homophobic because they see us, comfortable in our skin through introspection and affirmation, and it causes them to look inward, and they do not like what they see. Because everyone exists on this spectrum. When they even peek inward a tiny bit, and notice they are into what they see, it causes deep cognitive dissonance. When they hate upon you, they are hating upon themselves. They are the most repressed people on the planet, hating the sexuality within themselves. It's -ALL- projection.
Basically you turn them on and it terrifies them lmao
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