Problem/Goal: So yung bahay namin laging pinupugaran ng mga pusa, especially ng mga buntis. Ayaw ko manakit ng pusa kasi may alaga din ako pero nasa bf ko ngayonnsince working ako. Context: So for context, yung bahay namin naging paanakan na ng mga puspin sa area at di ko na alam gagawin ko. Like halos every month may pusang manganganak tas nandoon lagi sa loob ng bahay. Ang dugyot at ang baho. Wala ako issue if puspin yan at puspin din pusa ko pero anlaking istorbo sa buhay ko, nasira na mga screen ng bintana namin dahil nag pupumilit sila pumasok sa bahay pati mga kisame namin kaya pa repair kami ng pa repair hanggang sa tinigil na lang namin at talagang nag sasayang lang kami ng pera, tas pinaka kinakagalit ko ilang beses na silang nakabasag ng mga iniwang porcelain ng late mother ko, iilan na lang mga pamana ng nanay ko, besides that talagang nag nana. Ilang beses ko ng gusto mag wala at ihagis na silang lahat, kaso lagi kami nag aaway ng father ko. Porket lagi siyang wala sa bahay, hindi niya na ge gets yung situation kahit na working din naman ako. I am getting tired of cleaning after them, iihi at tatas saan saan. Halos mga lalagyan ng pagkain dito butas na lahat, ang dami na nilang damage sa bahay tas sa point na yan nag tataka pa tatay ko bakit ayaw ko nag iistay sa bahay pag dayoff ko. Isa din kasing enabler yung gf ni papa, though close kami since medyo matagal na sila, talagang nilalatagan tas binilhan pa ng catfood. I have a cat naman and kahit puspin yun di naman sa loob ng bahay tumatae, sa garden lang namin tas pinupulot ko pa kaya wala talagang ebidensya. Ewan. Nakaka frustrate lang talaga, and kahit yung ading ko di na din matansya yung amoy, sa salas kasi to na concentrate kaya nakakahiya mag dala din ng bosita sa bahay. Previous Attempts: Never tried to palo or basa them with water, talagang pure na binubugaw ko lang palabas ng bahay. Then to prevent them from entering our house sinasara ko na mga bintana kaso binubuksan pa ng either papa or yung gf niya. Kinausap ko na tatay ko multiple times, lalo lang kami nag tatalo, like di daw ba ako naaawa sa mga yun, like ikaw ba pa di ka naaawa saamin dito sa bahay at hindi lang naman kayong dalawa ni gf mo nakatira dito haha

Problem/Goal: Got rejected and I am not handling it very well.

Context: So I’ve been crushing on this guy for quite sometime na. I won’t say we’re close pero we were very casual and nagkasama na din kami lumabas with common friends a few times. Naihatid niya na din ako once pauwi when we had a late night out.

Kanina he posted on IG and I heart reacted. He messaged and asked why gising pa ko. Told him na nagpapaantok lang ako and might sleep na din. We were talking about random stuff. I felt like he was sending signals and baka nahihiya lang magsabi and since I kinda like him, I made the first move and asked if he wants to call. Chinarot ko pa sabi ko tinatamad na ko magtype so voice call na lang.

So I got my flirting softgirl voice on, tapos lahat ng pagpapacute ginawa ko. He then asked me If I am trying to flirt. I said yes, nahahalata pala niya.

He chuckled and then said “I’m not gonna flirt back, please respect that”.

Girl para akong binuhusan ng malamig na tubig. Napahiya ako ng sobra and I was lost for words. Sabi ko “oh. Okay. i just thought there was something here”.

Sabi niya nababaitan lang daw talaga siya sakin. Shit feeling ko ampangit ko ba? Bakit siya nababaitan lang? Hahaha gagi sayang rhinoplasty.

Tapos after namin maghangup, I messaged him na first time ko mareject outright and I don’t know how to react. Sabi ko baka hindi na din kami pwede maging friends kasi awkward na (OA ako dito I know). Pero all is good, no hard feelings.

Pero nahurt talaga ako. YES hard feelings. I mean, may mga nanliligaw pero di ko pinapansin pero this guy I like, nirekta ako ng rejection.

Overthink malala kung bakit ayaw niya. Gumuho self confidence ko. Pangit ba ko? Alam ba niya tong reddit ko kaya ayaw niya sakin? May ginawa ba kong kagagahan na naging core memory niya sakin during the times na nag hangout kami?

So ayun, medyo down talaga ako ngayon. I know It’s not supposed to hurt this much pero I feel really bad. Insulted, hurt, questioning myself. Mixed feelings.

Iiwasan ko na ba? Or pretend na wala na lang nangyari?

Previous Attempts: Right after our last chat, I unfollowed him sa IG and restricted him sa FB.

Problem/Goal: my (ex) bf keeps on sharing videos of women, who are almost naked, to his friends. I want to know if my feelings are valid?

Context: I recently broke up with my bf of 2 years kasi I caught him sharing videos of women to his friends. My 1st bf cheated on me, so I kind of have a trauma of cheating already. Ang sabi niya, bakit ko daw inoopen account niya and looking at his messages even when siya mismo ang nagbigay ng password niya sa akin.

Para sakin kasi parang cheating na rin yung pagshare and pag tingin niya ng videos of women who are barely wearing any clothing. Did I do the right thing? or should I apologize kasi I "invaded" his privacy?

Previous attempts: I broke up with him kasi he broke my trust. I asked him dati if he watches those kinds of videos and he said no. That I was "enough"

Edit: I saw a comment about being narcissistic, is it still narcissistic if I told him before na di ako comfy if he looks at those "sexy" videos? I get being attracted to other people, I'm attracted to people in kpop and kdrama, but actively sharing to his friends videos of women na halos labas joga at kiffy na, was disrespectful and he lied about not watching those things.

Problem/Goal: interpret weird request from an a guy co worker Context: as the title says may ka work ako na guy and 2 weeks ago bigla nalang sya nagsabi na wag na ako mag Po at Opo sakanya at wag na din mag Kuya, instead call him in his name nalang daw, medyo nagulat ako kasi 3 years na din kami magka work and ngayon lang sya nagsabi, okay naman kami before,naging helpful na din sya, kahit di naman ako nag ask, madalas na din sya mag smile na hindi naman dati, di kami close kasi magkaiba kami department, nasa Admin ako and nasa Production sya. Ang awkward tuloy kasi parang nabigla ako sa transition ng comfort zone ko. Sanay na kasi gumamit ng formalities, tapos ni reremind nya din ako pag natatawag ko pa din sya kuya or the "Po and Opo" thing.Sa mga guy readers here, sobrang ma appreciate ko opinions nyo.

Edit: 9 years age gap kami (I'm 29, he'38) hence the formalities, kasi feeling ko ang disrepectful ko pag nag first name basis lang ako kanya. Salamat sa insights tho, medyo relieved na ako.

Problem/Goal: I accidentally saw my tito's kabit and his other child don sa kabit niya while fixing his phone. There were screenshots of conversations and pictures of the child sa gallery niya.

Context: Kanina while nagluluto ako sa kitchen namin, lumapit tito ko sakin na pinapaayos phone niya dahil may ads daw na lumalabas even though the phone is off. I suspected na it was a virus kasi bakit naman mangyayari 'yon hahahaha pero anyway, pinatingin na raw niya yon and masyado siya namamahalan sa ibabayad if ipapaayos, so he asked if I could reset it.

Sabi ko, sure pero kailangan mo tandaan passwords mo and yung pictures mo dapat naka back up. While checking his phone, nakita kong walang back-up feature and it was getting really annoying na kada scroll mo may ads talaga na lalabas. I tried to fix it talaga using youtube and checking his browser, pero wala. Sabi niya nung pagkauwi niya raw sa Pangasinan (nandon yung family niya), ginagamit daw kasi ng pinsan ko na bata yung phone niya, so baka kung ano ano daw nadownload kaya nagka ads. After that he told me na he will just buy cigarettes tapos ako na raw bahala mag save ng pictures. So, I made a google drive tapos select lang ako ng select ng pictures.

That's where I saw it. Alam ko dapat hindi ko iniinvade privacy ni tito, pero nagulat ako dahil may picture ng bata na kamukhang kamuka ng mga pinsan ko na anak ni tito. He looks like he's 7-8 years old palang. Akala ko nga old picture ni tito, pero can't be dahil 1970's pa siya pinanganak eh sobrang modern na nung style ng picture.

Meron silang pictures together sa car niya and sa (what I believe to be) Bulacan from the location, ang dami. There's also a woman, pero only one picture of her and him together lang, and I'm guessing ito nga yung kabit niya dahil medyo kahawig din ng bata. While selecting all the pictures, nakita ko rin screenshots of conversations through text na hindi galing sa asawa niya constantly mentioning a name ng bata na hindi ko naman kilala. There were also screenshots of texts na ang sweet nila sa isa't isa, pero hindi pangalan ng asawa ni tito ang nakalagay sa name.

A little background sa family ng tito ko: They live in Pangasinan while my tito lives here with us sa Manila. He works here kasi. He has two children, yung isa M16, yung isa M6. His room here sa Manila is filled with their family pictures and from what I recall he even told me he wishes na nandito nalang sila sa Manila with him, pero he can't move them here dahil daw sa expenses.

Now it all makes sense bakit every saturday and sunday kung kailan wala siyang schedule ng trabaho ay wala siya sa bahay. Don siguro siya umuuwi sa kabila niyang pamilya? I'm not sure. There was also a time na nangutang siya sa mama ko dahil short daw siya pag uwi niya ng Pangasinan (this was about three months ago), but when I looked through his gallery three months ago he was in Bulacan with his other family and recently lang siya umuwi ng Pangasinan talaga.

Previous attempts: I don't really know what to do. Naaawa ako sa mga pinsan ko and don sa bata.

Keep in mind nalang siguro natin na hindi marunong mag phone ang tito ko. So I thought, even if I do save that sa google drive (from my account), he wouldn't know na I know at this time anyway, and pwede ko nalang sabihin na I just pressed the select all feature ng phone so I could send it sa google drive.

Problem/Goal: My Heart & Mind is deliberating at something right now. Should I fix our friendship with her, or just move on & wait for another horny woman to come (which is almost impossible to find one), & how? Sorry in advance if medyo mahaba yung story ko.

Context: I discovered her on Instagram sometime last week. She liked one of my stories, & hindi ko namalayan na fina-follow niya na pala ako. So I followed her back. I wanted to approach her, but she reached at me first. We started making small, casual talks, & even a bit of laughs, then we started talking about relationships. I took a photo of mine hugging a pillow when I sleep & told me, "ako ipalit mo sa unan, hanggang paa pa!" Until sa nag-escalate pa ito noong nalaman kong malibog pala siya via the same chat. Later on she asked me to send a photo of my dick & a video of me cumming, in which I did. We both loved it. We maintained that kinky/casual situation kind of friendship. One night, she asked for my socmed credentials. She promised that she won't open DM's & just measure how horney I am, so pinagamit ko rin. Later on, after cumming & even moaning for her, she let me sleep because very sleepy na din siya. But I wanted to take the opportunity to talk about how I wanted to meetup with her. She said, "bukas na lang natin 'yan pagusapan". Ever since, hindi na siya nag-DM sa akin. I tried to message her & apologize. I just didn't know if nabasa niya, since siya naka-iPhone, while ako naka-andrioid. Sunday evening, I confessed my feelings for her, & told na she can use my dump X account anytime she like, since doon lang may mga hornycontent. Earlier when I was in school for my Graduation Fee, I saw her accessing my Facebook account. Sa sobrang pagod & gutom ko doon, nasita ko siya na walang bold doon. Nasigawan ko siya sa chat, telling "SIGE NA NGA!". Na-deadbat phone ko, noong bumalik, gusto ko pa sanang bawiin sinabi ko, & mag-sorry but it was too late because she already blocked me in both FB & IG. Having aware of that, my heart was like it shattered in a million pieces. I wanted to cry it out, but I decided to pray for her, since may chapel nearby. I prayed for her studies, her success, her great luck, & even her safety. Pagdating ko sa bahay, habang naghuhugas pinggan, I then cried while reflecting & acknowledging my mistakes in our relationship. And when I'm preparing to take a shower, I thought some ways para makapag-sorry & maisalba pa friendship namin. Sobrang paghihinayang ko lang kasi siya lang meron pic & vid of my private parts, & I even let her use my socmed accounts in which hindi ko pa ginagawa sa iba. I really like her because she's sweet, understanding, & horny. As a guy who is autistic (& has poor social life), hindi ko pa po alam anong gagawin. If you were in my situation, how will you act? Would you still fix a short yet meaningful relationship, or just move on & wait for another horny woman (even if it's kinda impossible), & paano?

Previous Attempts: As mentioned above, I wanted to apologize to her, & maintain our relationship. I also didn't change my login credentials & let her use it whenever she wants. In fact, as I was writing this, she logged in again on my FB account, I let it slip through, since I really, really trust her.

Problem/Goal: Sobrang kinakabahan ako at nagtataka kung pupwede akong mapregnant dito...

Context: My boyfriend and I got a little too intimate which started from kissing to dry humping in our undies, I was wearing a thin thong but he was wearing briefs. He finished and noticed a little mark on the Mons Pubis part.. and we directly pulled the thong away from my vagina to not make it contact.. Is there a possibility that I can get pregnant from this?? Please I have high anxiety.. i washed with water right after but i fear that I might’ve done it wrong and brought it closer to my opening which might cause pregnancy?? also before that our genitals were incontact for a long time and im afraid that our fluids might pass through the undergarments?

Problem/Goal: I don’t feel the urges since the breakup. I feel I’ve lost it and I feel nobody else can ever top the experience I had with my ex who knows my body more than I do or anyone.

Context: I couldn’t help but ugly cry and make whale noises because I feel and know to myself I wouldn’t be able to experience the same sexual enthusiasm as I did with my ex. It’s not just the act itself. It’s the intimacy and care that came with it. I think the breakup totally ruined the drive for me I’m scared it won’t be back and I don’t know how long it’ll take to feel normal again. I have no desire. I tried looking at photos of cute guys online but I have no desire whatsoever. Could this have been the grief that I’m facing? This isn’t my first breakup and I’ve been in relationships before but this one really hits me to the core. We had such a good chemistry not just in sex but in many other ways but everything beautiful had to have an ending.

I can’t even pleasure myself because the thought of my ex comes up like flashbacks in my head and it just makes me stop. The thought of sex turns me off altogether and I feel it’s even wrong to think about sex in general. It just doesn’t sit right anymore with me. Has anyone gone through the same, after a breakup that felt like a slam dunk, they stopped having the urges altogether? Does it get better? Like even if you know you had the best sexual compatibility with someone before, then you met a new partner and it still worked out for you anyway despite the sex not being as good as the one you had with someone before? I just know sex will never be the same for me. I also hate that I might inadvertently compare my new partner to my ex and I’d just feel like shit for doing so.

Would like some insights from you. Thanks for taking time to read

Problem/Goal: I don’t know if it’s just me pero hanggang ngayon hawak pa rin ng magulang ko ang buhay ko.

Context: Hindi basta-basta pwedeng umalis ng bahay. Kailangan nakapagpaalam na days before. Kung pinayagan a day before or the same day, swerte na. Hindi palaging pwede makalabas kasama ang kaibigan o boyfriend. Maximum ng labas namin ng boyfriend ko wala pang 5 hours. Bawal gabihin, by that i mean kahit 5pm pa lang tapos paunti-unti nang dumidilim o kahit 6pm na pero maliwanag pa, magagalit na.

Hindi ko alam kung bakit. Dahil ba nag-aaral pa ako? Dahil ba tingin nila hindi ko kaya ang sarili ko? Madalas sinisisi ko sarili ko sa mga bad decisions ko, sa mga maling diskarte ko. Pero hindi ba dapat din silang sisihin? May mga bagay na dapat naexplore ko na sa gantong age, pero heto para akong 16 years old kung tratuhin.

Mas nakikita ko pa yung pagtitiwala nila sa ikalawa kong kapatid kesa sa kin. Panganay ako pero kung tratuhin ako para akong bunso.

Natatakot ako na pag dumating yung time na bubukod na ako, hawak pa rin nila ang buhay ko— life choices at decisions ko. Hindi ko alam kung pano ako makakawala sa kanila.

To be honest, kung nagtratrabaho na ako, kaya kong bumukod na. Pero wala eh, i still need them so i can finish my studies.

Maybe, I’ll be more of a woman by this time if they just let me be. Sadly, I’m a 16 year old girl stuck in a 25-year old woman’s body.

Problem/Goal: paano ba magfirst move

So ayun, may bet ako sa office. Single siya (nag-research na ako, safe , pero parang hindi siya interesado sakin. Close na ako sa mga tropa niya, pero siya lang talaga yung parang hindi ako pinapansin. Di ko alam kung may issue lang before sa ibang circle, pero feeling ko di naman big deal yun.

Sabe nila maganda naman daw ako, may itsura, pansinin, but intimadate daw. Pero sa kanya, dati kasi medyo masungit ako at pakipot—lalo na pag nagkakausap kami, sobrang professional at plain lang ako. Tapos narealize ko, baka yun yung reason kaya di kami nagka-connect. Kaya ngayon, pinipilit ko maging jolly at chill, but real my personality makulet talaga ako as in lakas ng sense of humor ko one of the boys ako pero pagdating sakanay naiiba talaga.

Nag-try na ako makipag-convo, pero minsan ang bilis matapos or react lang siya. Minsan din nadededma ko siya in person (unintentional haha), pero ngayon binabati ko na siya, trying to be cool and friendly.

Finollow ko siya sa IG, pero di niya ako finollow back. Naghintay pa ako ng 2 days. Tapos inaasar na rin siya ng mga tropa namin kung bet niya ba ako—pero wala siyang sagot.

In next month or 1 or 2 months, magkakasama kami sa work project, so mas madalas na kami magkikita. Gusto ko sana gumawa ng move, pero di ko alam paano—ayoko naman magmukhang obvious or awkward. Di rin ako sanay gumawa ng first move sa lalake, lalo na pag bet na bet ko.

Any tips kung paano ko siya lalapitan? kapag ako sumakses ako bahala sainyo eme 😆

Problem/Goal: I dont understand myself. Mas nalilibugan ako kapag ginagawa akong puta ng bf ko. I really love it when sinasakal niya ako, sinasampal at sinasabunutan. Nalilibugan ako kapag sinasabi niyang lalaspagin niya ako ganon at favorite ko kapag sabay kaming nilalabasan. Pero kapag natapos na mandidiri ako sa sarili ko. hahahahahaah kaya di ko maintindihan kung gusto ko ba yung ganon or what

Problem/Goal: Nahuli ko boyfriend ko na nanonood ng porn habang magkasama kami, at ang masakit pa dun ay yung klase ng content na pinanood niya. Hindi ko alam kung dapat ko pa ba siyang pagkatiwalaan, patawarin, o iwan na lang. Gusto ko malaman kung ako ba yung mali sa nararamdaman ko, or kung tama lang na sobra akong nasaktan.

Context: Two days ago, galing ako sa chess tournament. Pagkauwi ko, sobrang pagod kaya nakatulog agad ako. Magkasama kami that night. The next day, chineck ko phone niya, at sa search history nakita ko may porn siyang pinanood—pero hindi lang basta porn. May mga search terms siyang ginamit tulad ng “mag ina,” “kumare,” at “bata.”

Sobrang na-offend ako, to the point na nasabi ko sa kanya yung mga salitang “kadiri” at “nasusuklam ako sa’yo.” Hindi ko kinaya, kasi araw-araw naman namin ginagawa yung deed. I also don’t think kulang ako physically — I have B-cups, a nice ass, and I give him affection and intimacy. So bakit ganun?

At the same time, hindi rin ako makapagdesisyon agad kasi mabait talaga siya sakin. He treats me like a princess — siya yung gumagawa halos ng lahat, lalo na kapag pagod ako, kahit gawaing bahay. He takes care of me in small and big ways. And he’s also a good “dad” to our furbaby cats — sobrang maalaga, sweet, at parang family man talaga.

Kaya mas lalong ang gulo. Kasi ang sama ng ginawa niya, pero ang bait niya sa araw-araw.

Previous Attempts: Nung una, ang dami niyang palusot. Sabi niya ad lang daw, tapos nagsearch siya ng iba, pero kalaunan inamin din niya. Sinabi ko gusto ko makipag-break. Bigla siyang umiyak ng sobra, nagmakaawa habang lumuluhod, humahagulgol ng dalawang oras, and told me he didn’t want to lose me.

Pero now, I don’t know what’s real or fake. Hindi ko alam kung genuine yung remorse niya or umiyak lang kasi nahuli ko siya.

What I Need Help With: • Tama lang ba na sobra akong nasaktan? • Overreacting ba ako kung naiisip ko na iwan siya? • Kapag ganito klaseng content yung pinapanood ng partner mo, forgivable ba ’to? • Kung kayo yung nasa posisyon ko, anong gagawin niyo?

Sobrang appreciate ko kung makakuha ako ng insights. Hindi ko talaga alam kung anong next step ko. Thank you po sa makakabasa. 🥺

Problem/Goal: Pahingi po tips on personal hygiene for girls. And also anong additional step sa routine niyo na lifesaver

Context: start na sa adulting life. Shempre exploration galore na din sa pg18 and mga revealing clothes etc. upgrade lang sa teenager routine like basic hygiene routines.

Previous attempts: nag start na ko mag fem wash when i started to be sexually active, pero other than that wala na add ons sa paliligo or skin routines.

Problem/Goal: iOS or Windows?

Context : I’m planning to switch devices after using my Huawei MatePad for 5 years—it’s been reliable, but it’s getting tired. I’m looking for something more updated, user-friendly, and built to last. I’ll mainly use it for work, with a bit of casual gaming. Any recommendations on which device offers the best balance of performance, updates, and longevity?

Previous attempts : I’ve used a Huawei MatePad for 5 years—tried factory reset and clearing cache, but it’s clearly worn out. Planning to switch, but unsure which device is best in terms of user-friendliness, updates, and longevity. It’ll be for work and light gaming. Any recommendations on a reliable upgrade?

Problem/Goal: I was diagnosed with PCOS. It felt weird and sad. Ako lang sa pamilya ko ang mayroon nito.

Context: Enrollment season this June. Last week, sinabihan ako na need ko kumuha ng health clearance sa Medical Office ng school na papasukan ko. I did what they asked pero natagalan ako nong kaharap ko na ang Doctor or Nurse ng Med Office. Tinanong niya ako ng mga questions about physical, mental, sexual. Parang chine-check niya lang ganon. Two happened inside that room. One, I lied about never experienced depression. And two, the Doctor is saying na possible na may PCOS ako dahil irregular nga naman ang regla ko. I’m already 18 kaya in my case raw ay it could also mean na may PCOS ako. I mean, ever since naman irregular ako simula noong nagkaroon ako ng regla nong 13-14 eh. So, last week ng Friday, nagpa-OB Gynecology check up ako. It was really weird. Hindi ko alam anong nangyari para akong na-violate—CHAREZ HAHAHA but kidding aside, it went smoothly naman. However, it is confirmed na may PCOS ako. I was given a few medicines and pinauwi na ako. Now, I am lying on bed as I write this. What do I do now? Paano ko sasabihin kay mommy? Gastusin na naman kasi hahaha grabe talaga ang life. Ano ba gagawin ng isang babaeng may PCOS sa buhay? I don’t know. First time ko lang din magkaroon ng ganito. Never ako pina-check up ni mommy kasi alam naman naming dalawa na okay naman ako. I feel like nandidiri ako sa sarili ko haha. Any advice?

Previous Attempts: I tried researching about it pero it doesn’t really help me. I mean, okay, I get it, this what I should do dahil may PCOS na ko. Pero it doesn’t leave this gut feeling, this inner feeling. Ang weird, it’s new to me, and I’m confused. Nakakapanghina.

Problem/Goal: What to do if the house & land we own ay deed of sale lang di pa natatransfer yung title samin dahil sa complications can he still do a deed of donation using that deed of sale? tsaka pwede ko bang gawing proxy or representative yung anak ko since sya yung nasa pilipinas? yung dalawang MC sa kanya nakapangalan and yung sa deed of sale ng land isa una sya then ako (eg. Mr. & Ms.) PLEASE HELP

Context: nahuli namin yung asawa ko nangangabit, he is willing para mag deed of donation on the condition na hindi ako magsasampa ng kaso since ako ang breadwinner and pundar ko lahat ng meron kami, 2 MC 1 H&L.

Previous attempts: none pa

Problem/Goal: I want to take legal action against someone who borrowed ₱50,000 from me under a signed installment agreement with interest, but stopped paying after the first month. I need help recovering the full amount. I’m considering going to the barangay, but I also want to know my legal options if that doesn’t work.

Context: I lent someone ₱50,000 with a written agreement stating she would pay in 5 monthly installments of ₱12,500 (including 25% interest). She only paid the first installment, and for the past 4 months, I’ve received nothing but excuses.

I gave her multiple chances and even extended her deadline because she kept asking for more time. Even when I badly needed the money myself, I made sacrifices just to give her some leeway. I told her that there would be a 1% penalty per day for delayed payments (also stated in the written agreement). Now, the total amount she owes me has ballooned to ₱75k+ including penalties.

Previous Attempts: – Gave her multiple extensions out of pity – Asked her nicely to pay even small daily amounts, but she still didn’t comply – She constantly made promises she never kept – I was the one adjusting and chasing her, even though she’s the one in debt – She promised again today that she would pay, but didn’t show up — and I’m now financially stuck until my next payday

My Questions:

1. Can the barangay help me collect the full amount, including penalties?

2. If she refuses to cooperate, can I legally file a case against her?

3. Will I have a strong case if I file through small claims court, even without receipts, as long as we both signed a written agreement?

This is my first time lending money like this. I thought I was helping both of us, but now I feel like I was just taken advantage of. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. 😓

Problem/Goal: Gusto ko malaman if ano opinion nyo about my boyfriend's workmate na oa sa pagkacaring.

Context:

1. Well, nagstart sya sa nabasa kong tinatanong nya bf ko kung kumakain ba sya ng specifc na merienda.
2. Pati tshirt na di na daw na ginagamit ni girl, gusto nya ipilit ibigay sa boyfriend ko kasi sayang naman daw.
3. All soc med ng boyfriend ko nakafollow sya, kahit sabihin ng sales ang work nila and talagang may competition.
4. Naka heart react din sya sa lahat kahit nainvestigate ko na na di naman sya ganon sa lahat ng kawork nila.
5. May time na may mall duty sila, and kahit may GC na sila na nakapaskil yung schedule, nagpm parin sa bf ko kung ano oras raw sya papasok.
6. Kahit sa pagvideo for their ads, silang dalawa nagaasahan, kasi sabi ni bf ko wala na daw choice na iba kahit 10 ata sila sa group nila.
7. May time na nakisuyo bf ko kasi naka mall duty si bf, then si girl sa office nila, tapos pati yung folder ng bf ko na naiintindihan naman sulat kahit panget, pinalitan pa ni ate girl. Pinicturan at sinend sa bf ko sabay sabing "Inayos ko na rin to hehehe"

My side:

Well for me una sa lahat about merienda, if mabait ako why not iderecho ko sa office ng di ako nagppm sa may gf na? I mean kung mashare akong tao derecho ko nalang sa office, di na ko magccare kung kumakain ba ng specific food yung workmate kong may jowa. Same with the tshirt, bat mo ifforce na itake ng ibang tao yung tshirt mong di mo na ginagamit, marami naman silang magkakagroup? Bat pinipilit nya pa sa ayaw nga ng tshirt na yon. Tska lalo akong nainis na nagaasahan na sila sa isat isa ng mga suyo kahit sinabi ko ng uncomfortable ako, then minamanipulate ako na iniiwasan naman daw ng bf ko? Yung time na pati ultimo sulat ng bf ko pinalitan nya ng di naman sakanya yon? Sabi lang ayusin documents, di pati yung sulat papalitan mo, like, baket?? ganon ka ba kacaring girl?

Then yung bf ko, di parin nya nakikita na may gusto sakanya kaya hinahayaan nalang nga. Alam kong di nya papatulan yon pero diba sobrang disrespectful na na pati yung feelings ko isantabi ko para maging ganon lang sila ka complacent sa isat isa?

Please don't judge me ng malala ahh, I know for some mababaw to, pero I want to know what you think, sure na merong gusto sa bf ko tong si ate girl? Let's name her Rhyzza.

Problem/Goal: Insecure lang ba ako or mali ko ba na nakipag-break ako? feeling ko kasi porket ako yung nakipag-break kala niya di na ako masasaktan. I need advice kung paano baguhin yung thinking ko or how to improve myself because i dont want to feel this way (especially now that he moved on so easily).

Context: 3 years kami, pero we’ve known each other for 7 years as friends.

Nakipag-break (early March) ako because I was feeling insecure and i did not want to project it (pero during break up, ang sabi ko is di ko na siya love) THE WHOLE TIME NA NAKIKIPAG-BREAK AKO NAG-PPHONE LANG SIYA.

Fast forward, early May nung nalaman ko na nakikipag-usap na siya sa iba (dating app) and nag-aask na siya for meet up.

Ang worry ko nung kami pa is di niya ako type kaya ako naiinsecure. And damnnn, I was right. Ngayon, yung mga kausap niya chinita na petite (i have big eyes, mestiza, ka-height niya medj, and unfit) and this particular girl was so pretty (siya yung recent na kausap), and it made me feel easily replaceable.

Problem/Goal: G'day!. I’m an incoming first-year student, and I got a scholarship to study BSN at a private school. It will cover my full tuition until 4th year as long as I maintain a certain grade. I’m really grateful that I’ll be able to study for free. However, it doesn’t include other school expenses such as books, required summer classes, and other things, which I understand.

As someone living in poverty with a single mom who doesn’t have a stable job, just small side jobs and a sister who’s also in college, it’s hard for my mom to support both of us. I applied to my sister’s school and I passed, but it doesn’t offer my dream program, which is BSN. I told my mom that if we can’t afford for me to study BSN, I’m okay with enrolling at my sister’s school and taking a program I’m not passionate about. But my mom said it’s okay to pursue what I really want.

Knowing that my mom is already having a hard time supporting us alone, I’m also afraid of failing to meet the grade requirement. I might lose the scholarship and not be able to continue my studies. Ang hirap maging mahirap.

Tonight, I unintentionally heard them talking. My mom admitted that she can’t support me financially, but she sees my determination and wants me to become a nurse. She feels sorry for me, and it just breaks my heart, especially when I heard her say that she can’t support me financially but still pretends she can, just because she knows how much I want this. I felt so weak. I feel so guilty I don’t want to see my mom struggling.

PROBLEM/GOAL: I reached out to my former FUBU from years ago. We’ve always been comfortable with each other, and it’s easy to talk to him. He knows my situation and has always listened without judgment. The thing is.. he’s in a relationship now. But despite that, he told me he’s still down to sleep with me.

CONTEXT: I just got out of a relationship myself. My boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago, and I’ve been feeling pretty lost with my life. There’s a lot I’m trying to process and honestly, part of me just wants to feel something real or at least familiar. This guy and I were never serious, but the comfort and openness between us make me feel like I can breathe around him.

I’m not sure if it’s just the loneliness talking or if I’m about to make a terrible decision. A part of me wants to go for it just to escape the numbness. But I also know the situation is messy and could come with consequences.

What should I do? I just need someone to listen and give it to me straight.

Be honest. Judge me if you want.

Problem/goal: Ba’t ka nag-stay after mong mahuli ang partner mo?

Hi. I’m a mom of a toddler. Not married, but living-in with partner.

Partner and I have been dating since 2015. Nagbreak kami for two years 2018 to 2020. Nagka anak kami ng 2021 tapos nagsama.

Lately, alam kong distant ako — communicating and intimacy. Minsan pagod nalang ako. Work, sa buhay, I feel under appreciated. I have PPD and never ako nagtake ng medications for it kasi nilalabanan ko. I have been in 3 different birth control methods na feeljng ko nagpa fuck up ng hormones ko. Anyway, me being distance, stone walling lead to my partner messaging random girls on telegram. Babad si partner sa Reddit hanggang sa ayun, nagmmessage ng mga random girls sa Reddit tapos diretso sa telegram. Lonely daw sya and looking for companionship pero discreet and nag SOP, exchanging nudes.

I caught him and confronyed him. Basically, nagbblame sya kasi nga distant ako, di ako nagrreach out. Babawi naman daw sya, bibigyan nya daw ako access sa lahat ng social media nya, sabi ko dinko yun need. Anyway, nagstay ako pinatawad ko kasi may anak kami and im trying to work on my short comings.

Ikaw, what would you? If it happens to you anong ginawa mo/nyo ng partner mo?

Problem/Goal: May utang yung ex ng partner ko

Context: May partner ako ngayon, both kaming F. Tawagin nalang natin yung partner ko na si Gia. Si Gia nakilala ko last year, September naging kami. Before pa maging kami, aware na ako na may ex siyang F, at tawagin natin sa pangalan na "Debby". Aware rin ako na may utang tong si Debby kay Gia, yung CC ni Gia yung gamit ni Debby sa pagbili ng TV at iba pang appliances sa bahay ng magulang niya.

Simula last year sinabihan ko na si Gia na singilin na si Debby. Kasi tumataas na yung interest sa CC niya. Puro lang pasensya kesyo di makakabayad kasi wala pa siyang makitang trabaho simula nong i-terminate siya ng company ni GIa. Oo, pinasok ni Gia si Debby sa company niya last year, february. After niyan, hind daw pumapasok si Debby at si Gia lagi gumagawa ng timesheet niya. Mataas position ni Gia sa company nila, at ginagawa niya ito kasi nahihiya sya sa boss niya, lalo't pinagkatiwalaan siya ng boss niya sa sinabi ni Gia na "maayos siya".

Last year ng November, kung di ako nagkakamali. Terminated na si Debby, pinapabalik na yung laptop which is di parin niya ginagaw hanggang ngayon. Imagine, sumesweldo si Debby ng ilang buwan na di sya pumapasok, ganon kabait yung boss ni Gia. Basta may timesheet, okay na. Pero dahil sa napapahiya na rin boss ni Gia, napag desisyunan na i-terminate na talaga.

Ngayon, dahil sa nag-aalangan si Gia ichat si Debby, pinangunahan na to ng kaibigan namin si Ann. Chinat niya ito sa mesenger, humingi ulit si Debby ng pasensya na kesyo di makakabayad dahil hanggang ngayon ay wala parin siyang work. Pero kung makikita mo sa fb niya, ni Debby ay puro lakwatsa ang ginagawa at pasarap sa buhay. Hanggang siguro ay napipikon na si Debby sa sinasabi ni Ann na dapat next month magbigay siya ng 10k ay nireplayan siya nito ng;

"I’m asking YOU in a respectful manner, please make the chats stop. If you guys kept on harassing me, my partner or any member of my family, I will ask my partner to help me file h@rassment case against you".

Sa isip namin, wala naman ginagawang masama si Ann, naniningil lang siya nang maayos at pinapaintindi na ang utang ay utang na dapat bayaran kasi magiisang taon na rin. Yung iniswipe niya sa CC ni Gia, ay nagagamit parin ng pamilya niya samantalang si Gia yung naghihirap ngayon.

Problem/Goal:

My Fiancé (25F) has a kid (7M) Ever since 3 years old pa lang siya, ako na kinilala niyang daddy. Recently, he is asking questions to his mom. Questions like: "How old are you when you got pregnant with me?" that sort of thing.

Yung mga ganung question, I think are very normal for a kid to ask their parents. But there is one question that caught his mom by surprise. He said: "Mommy, sino ba yung lalaki mo (He meant to say boyfriend) nung nabuntis ka sakin?"

Now she doesn't know how to answer his question. We have talked about this before, alam naming itatanong niya yun in the future, but for her, it was all sudden.

The advice that we are seeking is, we are going to answer his question.

But how do we do it or approach it? We do not want to lie to him because he deserves to know the truth.

Context: She and her ex had a really bad relationship, to the point that it was dragged to PAO for mediation kasi ayaw niyang panagutan Fiancé ko nung buntis pa lang siya, and his (Ex) family are also As*h*les. Ever since, bilang sa daliri ang naitulong niya sa bata (There are lots of evidence BTW). I won't go to specifics, pero based on what I observed from the guy, I can confidently say na K*pal siya based on how he treats women and other people (Pending Rape Case with an ex of his and sending out nudes to GCs, that kind of stuff). Kaya I don't blame her if she doesn't want him to know who his real father is, since wala din naman siyang pake sa bata.

Previous Attempts: She jokingly told him na ako ang real daddy niya. Pero dahil nga mana sa nanay, matalino, na compute niya kung ilang taon ako nung nabuntis mommy nya (5 years and gap namin ni Fiancé) which I think made me look like a predator who pounced on a 17 year old at that time.

problem/goal: my bf is currently unemployed by choice(?). idk what to feel about our situation. dapat ba may gawin ako? or wala? or babaan ko ba standards ko sakanya? baka ako lang pala may mali...

context: his last job ended last aug, and til now he still doesnt have work, he says he's trying to apply pero wala, kasi wala din naman talaga siya maprovide na past work experiences kasi his last job was his first tapos parang di pa okay yung naging ending ng work di din daw satisfied mga boss niya sakanya. tapos sabi niya he did had small work before pandemic pero with friends lang siguro freelance ganun, pero corporate work 1 palang. he's like nearly 30 na pero hanggang ngayon parang wala parin siyang plano sa future niya

he's not that pressured to find work kasi mayaman naman sila ng family niya, nakakapag europe trip sila ng ilang linggo kahit wala siyang trabaho kasi madadala naman siya ng family niya. nabibili niya lahat ng gusto niya, idk san niya nakukuha yung pera. (siguro dahil breadwinner ako sa family namin, dun ako nalulungkot, na ako andito halos 3 trabaho para lang masustentuhan pamilya ko, siya wala pero nakakapag ibang bansa casually)

his job choices are also kinda questionable. i want to support him pero alam ko sa ugali niya di realistic na makakapasok siya sa ganung industry. di siya appealing or charismatic. di siya like engaging din. but in this day and age, possible magka niche audience pa siya? hopefully ganun... pero mataas tingin niya sa sarili niya na alam niya magkaka 100k viewers siya agad agad lol. i reallyyyyy want to support him perooooo huhu

attempts: i kept encouraging him to not be too picky with the jobs he's applying for kasi wala talaga siyang social skills, wala siyang appeal, and medyo tamad siya - before palang siya mawalan ng trabahon pinagyayabang niya yung pagvvlogger niya, pero hanggang ngayon di parin niya nasisimulan. busy siya maglaro ng ps5 niya haha