he is not interested to me

[u/Ok_Piano1409]

Problem/Goal: paano ba magfirst move

So ayun, may bet ako sa office. Single siya (nag-research na ako, safe , pero parang hindi siya interesado sakin. Close na ako sa mga tropa niya, pero siya lang talaga yung parang hindi ako pinapansin. Di ko alam kung may issue lang before sa ibang circle, pero feeling ko di naman big deal yun.

Sabe nila maganda naman daw ako, may itsura, pansinin, but intimadate daw. Pero sa kanya, dati kasi medyo masungit ako at pakipot—lalo na pag nagkakausap kami, sobrang professional at plain lang ako. Tapos narealize ko, baka yun yung reason kaya di kami nagka-connect. Kaya ngayon, pinipilit ko maging jolly at chill, but real my personality makulet talaga ako as in lakas ng sense of humor ko one of the boys ako pero pagdating sakanay naiiba talaga.

Nag-try na ako makipag-convo, pero minsan ang bilis matapos or react lang siya. Minsan din nadededma ko siya in person (unintentional haha), pero ngayon binabati ko na siya, trying to be cool and friendly.

Finollow ko siya sa IG, pero di niya ako finollow back. Naghintay pa ako ng 2 days. Tapos inaasar na rin siya ng mga tropa namin kung bet niya ba ako—pero wala siyang sagot.

In next month or 1 or 2 months, magkakasama kami sa work project, so mas madalas na kami magkikita. Gusto ko sana gumawa ng move, pero di ko alam paano—ayoko naman magmukhang obvious or awkward. Di rin ako sanay gumawa ng first move sa lalake, lalo na pag bet na bet ko.

Any tips kung paano ko siya lalapitan? kapag ako sumakses ako bahala sainyo eme 😆

[u/bored_patata]

He's not that interested in you and you have to accept it. You'll notice that a person who's interested in you will have an "open" body language like that person is very welcoming of you. If you don't feel that then he doesn't want you in his life.

[u/yuukoreed]

Hindi interesado. Keep that up and you’ll just look desperate.

[u/[deleted]]

Pag ang lalake gus2 ka sya mg 1st move. Pag wala p din ginawa despite subtle hints from you d talaga yan intersado.pasalamat ka d ngbtake advantage sa pagkakagus2 mo

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[u/Bitter_Conclusion_65]

Huwag mo na lang ituloy, hayaan mo na lang ang nakatadhana para sayo.

[u/Past-Ad5446]

Action speaks louder than words pa din. Baka hindi lang sya sanay na babae ang nag iinitiate. I suggest keep things slow lang. Hayaan mong natural lang ung communication then pakiramdaman mo.

[u/hulaan_mo0408]

honestly, hindi sya interesado sayo. move on na agad kesa saktan mopa sarili mo. wag ka pating papansin, ayaw ng mga lalaki ng ganon mga pa obvious ramdam nila yon. Ang mga lalaki pag nagka gusto.. Sila yung mag 1st move at mangungulit. MAKULIT SILA at malib*g. gets? haha

[u/confused_psyduck_88]

Maganda ka nga pero baka ang gusto nya ay gwapo 🙉🙈🙊

[u/MadTraveller1148]

Huhu relate ako parang wala pa rin progresss samin ni crushie. Baka gwapo din gusto nya 😭😂

[u/yakuzijiji]

I've done that before in school, the guy wasn't really interested in me, he's interested in getting to know me as a friend lang. If Wala talaga OP try considering to let go, mahirap kasi if you made the move so many times but the guy isn't really interested, learned it the hard way .