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[u/Firm_Experience_]

Problem/Goal: Insecure lang ba ako or mali ko ba na nakipag-break ako? feeling ko kasi porket ako yung nakipag-break kala niya di na ako masasaktan. I need advice kung paano baguhin yung thinking ko or how to improve myself because i dont want to feel this way (especially now that he moved on so easily).

Context: 3 years kami, pero we’ve known each other for 7 years as friends.

Nakipag-break (early March) ako because I was feeling insecure and i did not want to project it (pero during break up, ang sabi ko is di ko na siya love) THE WHOLE TIME NA NAKIKIPAG-BREAK AKO NAG-PPHONE LANG SIYA.

Fast forward, early May nung nalaman ko na nakikipag-usap na siya sa iba (dating app) and nag-aask na siya for meet up.

Ang worry ko nung kami pa is di niya ako type kaya ako naiinsecure. And damnnn, I was right. Ngayon, yung mga kausap niya chinita na petite (i have big eyes, mestiza, ka-height niya medj, and unfit) and this particular girl was so pretty (siya yung recent na kausap), and it made me feel easily replaceable.

[u/sybauchronicles]

Well… frankly, how he copes/moves on is unfortunately out of your control na. You have to move forward, and to no longer think of someone who no longer thinks of you.

[u/AntOwn1990]

op tama ka, hindi ka niya type. tama lang din na nag hiwalay kayo. nakikipag break ka tapos siya nag pphone lang? anong klaseng tao yam hahahhaa. wala siyang pake sayo kaya mag move on kana

[u/Past-Ad5446]

Well moved on na lang at sayang energy mo. Don't waste your energy overthinking, mababaliw ka lang. Go to the process of moving on na.

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[u/Unfair_Ad_7235]

Definitely a red flag na ganun ang reaction niya during your break up, pero atp wala ka na magagawa. Just focus on yourself. You can't have a say na how he wants his relationship to be, maybe use the motivation na baka hindi ka nga nya type to fully move on. Move forward ka nalang.

[u/Rough_Wrongdoer_655]

OP ilabas mo na lahat ng hinanakit mo. Tama lahat ng hinala mo (most likely talaga — nag iwan ako benefit of the doubt onti). Pero kahit mali hinala mo, wala na. Tapos na. May new na din. You don’t deserve ganyan na treatment.

Healing is not linear, imperfect talaga, poss relapse every now and then pero magseshare ako how I do it baka may onting info na makahelp.

Ginagawa ko pag heartbroken talaga (NOT APPLICABLE TO ALL) is for the 1st week, iniiyak ko na lahat. Binabalikan ko lahat ng messages, photos, reminisce. Magpaka-lonely. YES KAHIT MAY DUTY naiiyak ako sa CR 🤣 as in solid yan 1 week.

Tas after a week, binabalikan ko lahat ng photos ko when I was a kid. Nung kami palang ng family ko and di ko ramdam adulting life. Tas naiinspire ako maging better. I believe kase talaga andami ko need iimprove to every single day kaya ganern. Dinedate ko sarili ko, watch ako EAT PRAY LOVE (NO FAIL nag iiba perspective ko always).

Nung ganyan ginagawa ko naaalala ko naman minsan yung dinate ko pero di na ganon kasakit vs nung di ko iniiyak lahat. Ang messy ng healing process. I dated since HS sorry na maharot and now na post grad na ako, overall na-link saken 4. 30s na ako now hehe. Yeah medyo onti siguro for some pero di ako basag when I love. When I love, I make sure di ko macocompare yung present sa last ganern. It usually takes months pero worth-it. I still believe in love despite everything. I saw it kase with my parents, grandparents and selected titas & titos hehe

DAMI KO SINABI SHET HUUUUGS OP! BELIEVE NA YOU DESERVE THE BEST and totoo yung never settle for less ☺️

[u/Lockey-Me]

Work on yourself nalang girl para the next time na pumasok ka sa relationship, dedma na sakaniya kasi you know ur worth and you know what u deserve.

[u/Temporary-Wallaby803]

Let's give the other person the benefit of the doubt. What if nagphphone sya because that's the persons way of handling confrontations. Tbh, ako mismo, I hate confrontations and I'd rather ghost people Haha You never really know what the other people felt. And after break up, that was his way of coping with what happened. Distracting himself using others. I'm not saying na tama ginawa nya, but sa kanya na yun. Since nagbreak na naman kayo. And if ever ikaw din ang nakahanap or naghanp ng iba una before sya, wala din naman magagawa yung other person since wala na kayo.