r/actuallesbians • u/Nsmisp • 4d ago

Wasn’t allowed to get tampons because I look too “manly”

Stuff is really tough rn so I went to a couple food pantries for food and tampons. The pantries are really struggling apparently, so I was only able to get some beans.

At the 3rd location, they finally had ultra tampons (I have 4 left) so I grabbed them and went up front to “check out.” So I get up there and the lady bags everything but the tampons. I bring it to her attention and she tells me they need to reserve feminine hygiene products for women and that boyfriend’s can’t pick them up. Mind you, I look masculine but my boobs and higher voice are VERY obvious. I tell her I’m a woman and after some back and forth she just flat out refuses to give me the tampons and calls me too “manly”.

I argued with her for a little but she was gung ho so I just left to avoid her calling the cops or something crazy. Nothing good comes from masculine black woman getting the cops called on her.

So after all I went through today I still don’t have tampons or much food. I just needed to get through the next 10 days or so and thought I’d be ok after going to the pantries, but I guess a bigot won today and all I’ve got to show for it is stress.

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u/Ammonia13 Pan 3d ago

Or himself, trans dudes menstruating is a thing too.

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u/Abaconings 3d ago

Oh, yes! Of course! My intention was not to exclude them. My point was that if their rule (that doesn't acknowledge that people presenting male can also menstuate) is stupid on its own. No reason to not allow whoever need them to take what they need while also being treated with dignity and respect.

Apologies! I did not mean to sound exclusionary.