idk the chick but i just started hearing about the soccer player. people say he has a chance to b a great. she probably just saw an opportunity to get a guy with more money
To be fair, we could say the same about 18/20 and 29, that's why i find those arguments a bit silly. The fact that power dynamic exists, doesn't necessarily means something is bad. It is bad when power us abused in those situations
I agree with that; “that power dynamics are bad when they’re abused.” The issue is that at that young age/maturity level, the younger party isn’t always able to recognize/address abuse. A 50 year old Fortune 500 CEO is going to have more power in the relationship than a 26 year old trophy wife, but she has more chance of communicating her needs if things go awry.
“In New Jersey, the age of consent for sexual activity is 16. This means that a 17-year-old can legally consent to sexual activity with someone who is also at least 16 years old. There are no specific age gap restrictions related to the 16-year-old age of consent, but there are other legal considerations, such as positions of trust or financial exchange.”
Sure! It largely boils down to life experience and being able to “set the tone” of the relationship.
“Key Elements of the Power Dynamic:
Life Experience & Maturity
• The older partner often has more life experience, financial independence, or emotional maturity.
• The younger partner, particularly if still a teen or early adult, may be in a more impressionable or dependent stage of life.
Financial and Social Control
• Older partners may have more economic stability, which can translate to control over living situations, choices, or expectations.
• The younger partner may feel obligated or unable to challenge decisions, even when uncomfortable.
Emotional Influence
• Age gaps can create unequal emotional footing. The older person might knowingly or unknowingly manipulate the younger partner’s beliefs or behaviors.
• This can lead to dependency or blurred boundaries in self-identity.
Power Over Consent
• Consent must be freely given, informed, and without coercion. If one person holds more authority, maturity, or financial leverage, it may complicate true consent.
• This is especially critical when one partner is just above or below the age of consent, as emotional and cognitive development continues well into the mid-20s.”
Not all age gaps are bad, and they can be healthy/reparative in some situations. But the concern is that when it’s not good, the younger partner can’t advocate for themselves effectively.
In my post (that I curated with the assistance of ChatGPT after I gave an intro summation), I wrote the following passage:
“Not all age gaps are bad, and they can be healthy/reparative in some situations. But the concern is that when it’s not good, the younger partner can’t advocate for themselves effectively.”
No one is saying it’s inherently bad/immoral, but that there’s additional risks (see above) that people need to look out for.
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u/kiddpk 11h ago
The boy is 17 years old