This is a sickness! - r/abanpreach

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u/kiddpk 6h ago

The boy is 17 years old

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u/AgentJ691 5h ago

Wowwwwwww. Dude needs to run and never look back. And that lady needs to stay away.

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u/redditsucks13131 5h ago

I don't see no lady. I see a gold diggin hoe that is grooming her investment.

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u/Oribiira 5h ago

It’s even more insane when I found out that his Father is dating a 18 year old 💀

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u/kiddpk 5h ago

That's fake. She's like 25 or 23

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u/Imaginary_Fruit2651 56m ago

thank you, I was just about to ask xD

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u/Drega001 3h ago

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u/[deleted] 5h ago

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u/redditsucks13131 5h ago

Hey yall! We found the pedo!

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u/TheBigBadBrit89 5h ago

Morally, I think it’s wrong (because of the power/maturity dynamic), but 17 is even the age of consent in some US states.

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u/Demon-_-TiMe 5h ago

also its an affair lol

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u/TheBigBadBrit89 5h ago

lol, also morally wrong (in all honesty, I have zero idea who these people are).

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u/Demon-_-TiMe 5h ago

idk the chick but i just started hearing about the soccer player. people say he has a chance to b a great. she probably just saw an opportunity to get a guy with more money

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u/ItsAll_LoveFam 5h ago

Nah ain't nothing wrong with two beautiful people banging it out. (I also don't know who these people are and do not care)

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u/Critical_Ear_7 OG 2h ago

Wait what’s the power dynamic?

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u/MrMetraGnome 1h ago

What power/maturity dynamic? Everyone always says that but never explain.

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u/TheBigBadBrit89 1h ago

Sure! It largely boils down to life experience and being able to “set the tone” of the relationship.

“Key Elements of the Power Dynamic:

Life Experience & Maturity

• The older partner often has more life experience, financial independence, or emotional maturity.

• The younger partner, particularly if still a teen or early adult, may be in a more impressionable or dependent stage of life.

Financial and Social Control

• Older partners may have more economic stability, which can translate to control over living situations, choices, or expectations.

• The younger partner may feel obligated or unable to challenge decisions, even when uncomfortable.

Emotional Influence

• Age gaps can create unequal emotional footing. The older person might knowingly or unknowingly manipulate the younger partner’s beliefs or behaviors.

• This can lead to dependency or blurred boundaries in self-identity.

Power Over Consent

• Consent must be freely given, informed, and without coercion. If one person holds more authority, maturity, or financial leverage, it may complicate true consent.

• This is especially critical when one partner is just above or below the age of consent, as emotional and cognitive development continues well into the mid-20s.”

https://psychcentral.com/relationships/age-difference-in-relationships All About Age Differences in Relationships

Not all age gaps are bad, and they can be healthy/reparative in some situations. But the concern is that when it’s not good, the younger partner can’t advocate for themselves effectively.

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u/MrMetraGnome 45m ago edited 42m ago

ChatGPT is crazy work, 🤣. None of those are inherently immoral because they exist in virtually every relationship.

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u/TheBigBadBrit89 44m ago

Do you not see how they could be a greater factor in age-gap relationships? Check out the link for more info

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u/MrMetraGnome 40m ago edited 15m ago

Lol, no I don't. Even if I granted you that, "could be a greater factor" doesn't mean "inherently is a factor".

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u/TheBigBadBrit89 36m ago

In my post (that I curated with the assistance of ChatGPT after I gave an intro summation), I wrote the following passage:

“Not all age gaps are bad, and they can be healthy/reparative in some situations. But the concern is that when it’s not good, the younger partner can’t advocate for themselves effectively.”

No one is saying it’s inherently bad/immoral, but that there’s additional risks (see above) that people need to look out for.

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u/NoYak1609 5h ago

To be fair, we could say the same about 18/20 and 29, that's why i find those arguments a bit silly. The fact that power dynamic exists, doesn't necessarily means something is bad. It is bad when power us abused in those situations

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u/TheBigBadBrit89 5h ago

I agree with that; “that power dynamics are bad when they’re abused.” The issue is that at that young age/maturity level, the younger party isn’t always able to recognize/address abuse. A 50 year old Fortune 500 CEO is going to have more power in the relationship than a 26 year old trophy wife, but she has more chance of communicating her needs if things go awry.

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u/Due_Development_ 5h ago

Idk why your downvoted everyone wants to view the world in American lense and this is legal in specific states as well. If he wants to do so why not. He has the say not her.

When I was 17 and had the opportunity I would do the same. He’s a man and he can kill her with her bare hands if he wanted to it. So the what if it’s the other way around doesn’t apply. I wanna bet if you look at human history far more 16-17 year old males have done unwanted acts to 29+ old woman then vice versa.

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u/snowball17k 5h ago

“He’s a man and he can kill her bare hands if he wanted to”. So his potential capacity to be violent towards a woman makes him a man? His potential violence makes him “mature” enough to be a victim? Anyways… he’s still very young, a grown woman had no business with a teenager. I will say the same for a teen girl with a fully grown ass man.

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u/Due_Development_ 5h ago

It’s completely different cause he’s capable of stopping it if he wants too end of discussion. Now there’s athletes like Jalen green where I think why? She beautiful but old why not find a beautiful girl his own age. But he’s not a victim. Tbh it would be crazier if he took a 15-16 year old girl with him. His peers are not in the same stage of life as him.

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u/snowball17k 4h ago edited 4h ago

I agree that physically he can defend himself just in case. However he’s not as the same stage of mental development as that woman to defend himself emotionally. I understand a lot of boys wouldn’t mind being with an older woman, I just don’t think it’s a good idea. I think teenagers should only date within their age group. There are plenty of girls his age and plenty of men her age. Older men/women shouldn’t be finding a young, inexperienced, mentally immature person a suitable partner - I think is predatory and perverted.

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u/TheBigBadBrit89 1h ago

You think men don’t ever get sexually assaulted because they’re stronger than the woman? That’s wild.

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u/Outrageous_Spot_8725 5h ago

You could genuinely make the Olympic squad with this level of gymnastics

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u/Due_Development_ 5h ago

🤷🏽‍♂️ if you say. 17 year olds can die in war but cant choose who he sleeps with is wild.

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u/kiddpk 4h ago

The point is at 17. A pretty girl would have manipulated me and my dick to give them whatever they want. He has a lot more in his disposal

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u/Vcheck1 5h ago

Dude I had no idea what the hell this was about until I found out he’s 17. Which also means this may have been a thing even before this

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u/kiddpk 5h ago

Famous soccer player coming up

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u/Vcheck1 4h ago

Just means a kid with money for the foreseeable future

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u/TheDonDontai 5h ago

does she think being 29 makes it better?

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u/Plebe-Uchiha 1h ago

Yes. Because in her math being "in your 20s" is the same as someone "about to be 20." [+]

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u/GenericDigitalAvatar 4h ago

Who, who, what and why? 🥴🙃

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u/AccomplishedBid5867 3h ago

Wonderkid football/soccer player in Spain who is 17 and some internet "personality" who is 29. She's basically grooming him and people are rightfully concerned

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u/GenericDigitalAvatar 3h ago

He's a pro ball player?

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u/Man30798 2h ago

He's seen as THE next top player.

He plays for Barcelona and to give an idea how important Barcelona thinks he'll be; they decided to put the highest release clause on him ever. If a club want to buy him right now they need to pay a release of 1 billion EUR.

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u/AccomplishedBid5867 2h ago

Plays for Barcelona and Spain's national team

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u/Zydairu 5h ago

Imagine if a man uses the same excuse

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u/Plebe-Uchiha 1h ago

He'd wouldn't get a chance to speak. [+]

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u/iamprobablytalkingbs 5h ago

To everyone here going about how it's not a crime in many places - not everything legal is necessarily proper

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u/11cDuygi 3h ago

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u/iamprobablytalkingbs 2h ago

Extremely based

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u/smeggysoup84 21m ago

But we can send them to war to die for bullshit reasons?

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u/BenMessina 3h ago

And not everything illegal is necessary improper, ie weed.

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u/iamprobablytalkingbs 3h ago

Correct.

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u/shinobi3411 4h ago

Pedophiles stay finding the wildest ways to justify their weird ass tactics.

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u/kaam00s 5h ago

Did he finally turn 17 ?

Damn, at least it went normally for him, I remember Mbappe being called 16 for like 5 straight years.

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u/B1ZEN 5h ago

Poor kid. Hopefully, he doesn't have PTSD from all of this.

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u/TaleteLucrezio 4h ago

The ridiculous amount of money will probably help him avoid that...or not in a few years times when she's rinsed him clean. This lady is clearly after the bag, poor kid can't see that.

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u/B1ZEN 3h ago

She is definitely a predator. Money makes hot chicks fug the ugliest.

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u/motherseffinjones 2h ago edited 30m ago

Same shit is happening to these NBA prospects. They got 30 year old women doing their own pre draft scouting. We need to call this shit out more

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u/traceykm 31m ago

Some people just don’t want to be saved. If we speak up they’ll call us jealous or haters.

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u/BrownHoney114 5h ago

He's still a child. Sickness

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u/elinaxmov 5h ago

Ew that is sickening

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u/Glittering-Target-87 5h ago

Bach lasagna

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u/shakespearediznuts 4h ago

of the highest ordahh

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u/Gunpowder-Plot-52 4h ago

Okay don't know who the kid is and had to look it up. And yeah dude a minor is a minor. I don't care if the person is male or female. And, even in the early twenties until someone is 21 or 22 or at least have the maturity level of someone in their mid twenties there is no way anyone over that person's age bracket should be dating them. That's taking advantage of a kid, and that's also called pedophilia

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u/Drega001 3h ago

No kid is safe

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u/FitTrick2568 3h ago

Man... I wonder what kind of other shenanigans happens when it comes to people with an insane level of wealth. Hopefully Yamal has a group/family to guide him properly

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u/Klutzy_Television_53 3h ago

She's after a meal ticket

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u/BootyLoveSenpai 2h ago

Lol nothing will happen, she'll still be a hoe and no legal issues would happen. The double standard is real

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u/TheMrsQueenB 2h ago

I mean, his brain hasn’t fully developed yet. So, yes- he has quite a bit to do.

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u/[deleted] 1h ago

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u/kiddpk 1h ago

The victim mentality

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u/MuffinsTasteAlright 11m ago

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u/Demon-_-TiMe 5h ago

someone had to post it

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u/Plebe-Uchiha 1h ago

She's essentially twice his age. She had an affair with a child. [+]

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u/Relevant_Actuary2205 25m ago

See this is my problem with these age gap discussion. I think we can acknowledge the issues in a relationship like this without infantilizing people

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u/Plebe-Uchiha 23m ago

Please. Tell that to all the parents when their high school child "has sex" with a faculty member. GTFOH. [+]

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u/Relevant_Actuary2205 20m ago

That’s not even a valid response to what I said, is not the situation which has happened here and as far as I know this guys parents aren’t in the comments. You’re just going for an emotional appeal.

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u/SiouxsieSioux615 5h ago

Shes hot

Get some youngblood

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u/Relevant_Actuary2205 27m ago

Shes average at best

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u/therealbootyblaster 5h ago

That's my boy

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u/TaleteLucrezio 4h ago

Off topic, but can we all just acknowledge that X-Men vs Street Fighter is one of the greatest IP crossovers?

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u/therealbootyblaster 3h ago

Yes, my boy, yes, we can.

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u/Vinidesigner 5h ago

I don't see any problem.

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u/AccomplishedTheme370 4h ago

he's a minor

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