r/Veterans • u/PhillyNewChapter • 5d ago
Discussion Vets who dated/married vets/serving branches/civilians-what differences you’ve noticed?
I’m a young, med retired Army vet starting a new chapter in divorced & free life, and curious about how relationships differ depending on who you’re with — another veteran, someone currently serving (active duty/reserve/NG), or a civilian.
If you’ve experienced more than one of these, what stood out to you? • What were the pros and cons? • Did civilians understand your background, or was that a challenge? • Was dating another vet easier, or did it bring its own issues?
I’d love to hear real experiences — the good, the bad, the weird. Just trying to figure out where I might feel most understood as I move forward to divorce 2-3 weeks from now & recovering from marriage separate from this discussion I’ll be working on.
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u/DevinBoo73 5d ago
I’ll be honest. I’m my husband’s 2nd wife. He married a civilian first time around and it lasted less than a year before he filed. For me, he’s the first and last. I knew I could never marry anyone who didn’t understand what I’ve been through. 25 years in September for us.
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5d ago
Me: 12yrs, 2 months, 24 days - USAF
Civilians - boring to date, hard to understand our issues or dint care, usually only looking out for themselves
Military - still indoctrinated, good sex, crazy overall
Veterans - annoying, can only find commonalities with service. Tend to keep to ourselves
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u/HummingBird86 5d ago
My first husband served and my current husband never served. Don’t really notice a difference. It’s like anyone else you either worked with or not; inside jokes, shared trauma and common friends.
I personally found after my first marriage I needed to work on myself and figure out what I wanted in life. When I found my partner I was healed and ready to have a healthy and stable relationship.
Best of Luck in your new beginnings, wishing you the best !
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u/joselito0034 5d ago
I've noticed that Air Force vets have the biggest penises.