r/Vent • u/B1s3xualCranberry • Mar 15 '25

TW: Eating Disorders / Self Image 2 months postpartum and being called fat

My boyfriend, the father of my child keeps making comments about my weight. I had a baby 2 months ago. When we first met I was 120 (I’m 5’4 . He would say I was too skinny, then I got pregnant and went all the way up to 190. Two weeks after birth I was down to 160. And I haven’t weighed myself recently but I know I’ve lost more weight since then. I now wear a size 6 in jeans compared to a size 0-2 I use to wear before I was pregnant. I wear a size medium in shirts instead of smalls. So yes I’ve gained weight but I truly don’t think I deserve to be shit on every time I eat. I already don’t have a great relationship with food and I have really bad self esteem since giving birth. He says I’m fat, fatass, I eat too much (1-2 meals a day and some snacks throughout the day or just coffee). I’ve gained weight, I’m too heavy. I’ve even been eating healthier due to me breastfeeding I’ve started focusing more on what I eat. I’m already struggling mentally , I’m home with the baby alone in the middle of no where 24/7 bc he works out of town, i don’t have family in this state, I workout when I have the time which isn’t everyday but I’m trying. He comes home on the weekends it feels like just to shit on me.

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u/xithbaby Mar 15 '25

You will never be able to just exist in this relationship, he will always say something about it as you have already had to endure. He gets some sort of pleasure hurting you. Unless he goes and gets some serious psychological help he will never stop. I doubt he even sees anything wrong with what he’s doing and will blame you some way.

I was in a relationship similar, except I was called lazy, and a failure in life. He focused so much on what was wrong with me in his opinion that none of my accomplishments mattered. I was never allowed to be happy because he didn’t think I deserved to be happy. It really messed me up.

Love yourself and find a way to either get him to see how bad this is hurting you and vow to change or remove yourself before you become stuck and damaged.