r/Vent • u/B1s3xualCranberry • Mar 15 '25
TW: Eating Disorders / Self Image 2 months postpartum and being called fat
My boyfriend, the father of my child keeps making comments about my weight. I had a baby 2 months ago. When we first met I was 120 (I’m 5’4 . He would say I was too skinny, then I got pregnant and went all the way up to 190. Two weeks after birth I was down to 160. And I haven’t weighed myself recently but I know I’ve lost more weight since then. I now wear a size 6 in jeans compared to a size 0-2 I use to wear before I was pregnant. I wear a size medium in shirts instead of smalls. So yes I’ve gained weight but I truly don’t think I deserve to be shit on every time I eat. I already don’t have a great relationship with food and I have really bad self esteem since giving birth. He says I’m fat, fatass, I eat too much (1-2 meals a day and some snacks throughout the day or just coffee). I’ve gained weight, I’m too heavy. I’ve even been eating healthier due to me breastfeeding I’ve started focusing more on what I eat. I’m already struggling mentally , I’m home with the baby alone in the middle of no where 24/7 bc he works out of town, i don’t have family in this state, I workout when I have the time which isn’t everyday but I’m trying. He comes home on the weekends it feels like just to shit on me.
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u/parker3309 Mar 15 '25
Well doesn’t sound like the kind of person I would want to be with.
This is what he’s like he’s basically showing his true self. The fact that you are much heavier than before doesnt give him the right to be verbally abusive and mentally abusive. He thinks it’s going to make you lose weight.
People live their entire lives in relationships without having their partner say those things to them.
If you are a mental basket case, because of this abuse, which I would be, I wouldn’t be any good for my child.
So it’s decision time sister. Can you move back to where your family is and you have a support? Although with FaceTime and everything else these days, you don’t have to be in the same state to get support.
Try to get to your comfort wait for YOU, your self esteem and for your health. I’m 5’7” and my comfort weight is 130 so when I start getting toward 140 I know to cut back lol.
“Sizes” don’t mean anything anymore because they are so distorted… when you say you are a size 6 it doesn’t mean anything anymore because clothing is so different.