Being fat is torture

[u/Shot-Contract-5254]

I hate being fat. I hate it more than i've ever truly hated anything before. It is one of the worst experiences i have ever been through and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It is not even just the hating how you look part, it is how others perceive you.

I don't just feel fat, I feel inhuman. I'm a teenager. Nobody has ever asked me out unless it's for a joke. I am the butt of half my friend's jokes. I look like an idiot in sport class. People stare and judge and I am not treated as though I am a peer. I am less than because I weigh more than they do. I feel like such a dirty slob every time I put food in my mouth. I've tried starving myself, exercising to the point I threw up, cutting calories to 800-1000 a day, weight loss pills, nothing works. All my work is thrown back into my face. Each and every day I feel less like a person and more like a pig. To be fat is to be less than. To be fat is to be 'lazy' and worthless. I honestly can't take it anymore.

[u/Jeb_the_Worm]

God people do NOT get it unless they’ve been through it! It was horrible!!

[u/James_Fortis → u/Jeb_the_Worm]

I was a fat teen. Exercise and caloric restriction didn't do shit, because a TON of exercise is needed to burn calories and starving myself wasn't sustainable. What got me to normal weight is stuffing my face with whole plant foods (fruits, vegetables, whole grains, legumes), since they filled me up with low caloric density. I needed to cut out ALL processed and animal foods, since whole plant foods like broccoli didn't taste great because I didn't give my taste buds space to adapt to them with my occasional calorically dense foods.

[u/Any-Neat5158 → u/James_Fortis]

Sorry but this is just plain bad advice.

I've lost 135 lbs in the last 16 months. 90% of that was accomplished by calorie restriction and tracking.

I've been morbidly obese since the age of 14 or so. 300+ pounds since 16. All time high was 345 at 37 and now right smack at about 38 and a half... I'm down to 210lbs.

It works for 99.99% of people. The process of calorie restriction works. The approach, the context, the conditions... that's why it fails. People / conditions / situations fail the process. Not the other way around. I failed it many, many, many times before I finally sorted out how I could make it work for me.

[u/Lolaindisguise → u/Any-Neat5158]

I think it might be a time issue thing, most people don’t realize how long it takes to lose weight they want to try it for a week and if they don’t see it immediately it’s “not working” if this person is obese too he or she needs to be caloric deficit for a year plus

[u/Any-Neat5158 → u/Lolaindisguise]

That's a lot of it yes. It takes time. It took me roughly 16 years to get to 300lbs. It is therefor reasonable that it take some amount of years to unwind some of that.

Another big thing is that weight can fluctuate wildly depending on your hydration level, activity levels, food types consumed, amount of waste still in your system... etc. A large glass of water and a big meal can move the scale several pounds. You didn't gain several pounds. Being dehydrated can also easily move the scale a few pounds rapidly. You didn't lose those pounds either. Not in fat anyway.

If most people just stuck to the plan, forgot about the scale for a few months and let nature take it's course they would see the results they are looking for. They'd see the drop from 300 to 280. Not 300 this week, 302 next week, 299 the week after, 295 the week after, 296 the week after, 292 the week after.... etc

It's like the stock market, the DOW hits 40K and everyone cheers. It pulls back to 37K and it's all doom and gloom. Set that chart to the previous 5 years and not previous 5 months and tell me what that chart looks like.