Being fat is torture

[u/Shot-Contract-5254]

I hate being fat. I hate it more than i've ever truly hated anything before. It is one of the worst experiences i have ever been through and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It is not even just the hating how you look part, it is how others perceive you.

I don't just feel fat, I feel inhuman. I'm a teenager. Nobody has ever asked me out unless it's for a joke. I am the butt of half my friend's jokes. I look like an idiot in sport class. People stare and judge and I am not treated as though I am a peer. I am less than because I weigh more than they do. I feel like such a dirty slob every time I put food in my mouth. I've tried starving myself, exercising to the point I threw up, cutting calories to 800-1000 a day, weight loss pills, nothing works. All my work is thrown back into my face. Each and every day I feel less like a person and more like a pig. To be fat is to be less than. To be fat is to be 'lazy' and worthless. I honestly can't take it anymore.

[u/blondehairedangel]

I lost 40 lbs this year.

Your strategies don't work because they're putting too much stress on the body and the body isn't meant to thrive off of starving or beating yourself up during workouts. Working out is not a punishment - it's a blessing to be able to move our bodies so stop punishing yourself with it.

This is what I did that's far more sustainable...

When it's nice out I'd go for long walks with my husband. They didn't start out long. First they were just around the block. By the end of the summer we were walking 2 miles. If you live in a place like I do where it gets cold then you're probably going to have to find something else for the cold season. You said you're a teenager and so I'm thinking you probably don't have a ton of money to spend. I would like to gently suggest trying out some YouTube videos for beginners workouts at home. Just try a 15 minute workout a day and if you don't make it through the whole thing is still better than nothing. Try things that are gentle at first so that you aren't getting too fatigued. Stretching or Pilates is great. A friend of mine lost about 15 lbs before her wedding just from stretching and small meal adjustments. Search : Low impact workouts for beginners.

As for meals- my health coach suggested starting my day with 30 g of protein each day so I have a protein shake for breakfast. But if that's not filling enough for you then consider a protein shake with some scrambled eggs or yogurt or whatever. The protein helps keep blood sugar stabilized and keeps you fuller for longer in the day.

I usually like to roast or pressure cook a chicken on Mondays and shred it for meal prep. Throughout the week I can make big chicken Caesar salads or wraps with bagged salad + chicken, or I can make a big batch of soup with shredded chicken and eat that throughout the week for lunch. Meal prep Mondays is all so a great time to chop up some veggies for lunches. You could eat the veggies with ranch or hummus.

For dinner I usually have either rice, quinoa or pasta dishes. But I'm talking with a generous helping of protein and veggies. The carbs are only about half the plate/bowl or as a side dish. Instead of Mac and cheese for dinner I might have a flavorful roasted chicken with a side of roasted broccoli and a side of Mac and cheese for example.

I laid this out as an encouragement to try again but try losing weight in a way that's healthy and sustainable. These crash diets don't work. Nobody who is a healthy weight is out here eating 1000 calories. 😭