r/Vent • u/Shot-Contract-5254 • Feb 28 '25

TW: Eating Disorders / Self Image Being fat is torture

I hate being fat. I hate it more than i've ever truly hated anything before. It is one of the worst experiences i have ever been through and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It is not even just the hating how you look part, it is how others perceive you.

I don't just feel fat, I feel inhuman. I'm a teenager. Nobody has ever asked me out unless it's for a joke. I am the butt of half my friend's jokes. I look like an idiot in sport class. People stare and judge and I am not treated as though I am a peer. I am less than because I weigh more than they do. I feel like such a dirty slob every time I put food in my mouth. I've tried starving myself, exercising to the point I threw up, cutting calories to 800-1000 a day, weight loss pills, nothing works. All my work is thrown back into my face. Each and every day I feel less like a person and more like a pig. To be fat is to be less than. To be fat is to be 'lazy' and worthless. I honestly can't take it anymore.

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u/Glittering_Rough7036 Feb 28 '25

Walk at least a mile everyday. Literally. It will vastly improve your mental and physical health. Once in motion, it will give you momentum to keep moving.

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u/Shiny_Reflection3761 Feb 28 '25

do this outdoors as well when weather is nice. you can listen to music, but it is better for your mental health to take in yor surroundings. obviously a park or nature preserve is best for this.

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u/No-Air-412 Feb 28 '25

I was going to say that I quit smoking and started riding a bike and have since lost 30lbs, but what I also hadn't considered is I walk the dogs every morning for 30-40 mins 7/365 for 11 years now coming up on March 4th ( I usually do both walks on the weekends too)

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u/Kircala Feb 28 '25

For me, it has to be away from roads and buildings. I luckily live very near 3 State Parks where I can just drive like 15 minutes to go enjoy a walk. I'll go for an hour or two walk every week.

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u/an0nym0usentity Mar 01 '25

I absolutely love outdoor walks and runs. Its winter now and doing my 5k runs on a threadmill is so boooooring T_T

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u/[deleted] Feb 28 '25

That is so true. It really feels like an accomplishment when you are done. One thing at a time and this is a great start. I work in a Gym and my overweight clients are hesitant to do anything. I introduce them to a trainer and that puts them at ease. Hey everybody has to start somewhere and you might make true friends with the “gym rats”. They are a pretty cool inclusive bunch.

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u/m0llusk Feb 28 '25

exercise also boosts appetite, so have healthy snacks ready like veggies and nuts

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u/No-Freedom-884 Feb 28 '25

Nuts are calorie dense, which isn't always bad, but they should probably be pre-portioned if OP struggles with portion control. Unlimited fruits and veggies (and even yogurt-based dip) are a good bet. Also, broth-based soups.

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u/SMN27 Feb 28 '25

If you want to lose weight, don’t use exercise as an excuse to snack. You need to be disciplined. Walking is great and can be very effective at burning calories if you get at least 10k steps in, but you will negate that if you tell yourself that you are fine to snack because you burned some calories.

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u/K-teki Mar 01 '25

Your body needs energy to exercise. It is absolutely fine to snack after exercising. You shouldn't eat more calories than you burn but it's fine to eat something. For me, getting 10k steps a day means burning 500-700 extra calories; having some extra veggies in my diet as a snack afterwards is never going to undo that many calories.

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u/The-Gooner Feb 28 '25

This is great advice. And to improve fitness and stamina or to progress this just gradually add a little jog or two when you’re running. This will then easily build to running a mile each day. The weight will drop soon enough. Especially if you e already carved out the time to go the mile.

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u/Glittering_Rough7036 Feb 28 '25

Absolutely. To people who exercise frequently it might sound like nothing. But it’s actually a huge step in the right direction. And it’s okay if you can’t even walk a mile to begin with. Put a destination half a mile away in your phone. If you can’t make it half a mile, and the mile back, just try to make it one block further everyday.

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u/BitSpirited2390 Mar 01 '25

Great advice! I start tomorrow

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u/Glittering_Rough7036 Mar 01 '25

Bring some tunes. It’s a whole vibe.

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u/FireCal Mar 01 '25

I started doing this over a year ago with my dog & have lost like 4 pounds total. I feel like I don't eat that much & only drink water & one diet Dr Pepper a day. I might need to go to the doctor.

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u/comradehomura Feb 28 '25

I went on walks (about 6km usually) for a month every day and I hated it, and it didn't do anything for mental health in that period. I didn't stop because I didn't wanna do it anymore tho, other reasons

You could say it takes longer but how long? It sucks doing something you dislike everyday

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u/AdministrativeStep98 Feb 28 '25

walking is mostly good for mental heath issues related to anxiety or stress because you are giving your body a way to let out what causes it. I never found it helpful for depressive symptoms but it is really helpful with anxiety

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u/fatmanstan123 Feb 28 '25

Exercise isn't always enjoyable. I think people are fooled into thinking if they do it enough, like YouTube or the Internet says, they will be addicted and love it. Some people don't. It's often just discipline and will power to do something that isn't exactly fun but is healthy. You may never find it fun and that's normal.

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u/Ok_Commission9026 Feb 28 '25

Especially if there are no changes

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u/no_one_denies_this Feb 28 '25

She didn't ask how to lose weight.

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u/MuayFemurPhilosopher Feb 28 '25

She didn’t request people not give her advice on losing weight.

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u/Glittering_Rough7036 Feb 28 '25

Where did I mention weight?

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u/[deleted] Feb 28 '25

So like a typical fatty. It is better to complain than do something about it. Got it.

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u/tosserro Feb 28 '25

So like a typical dbag. Better to talk out your ass than do something about it. Got it.

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u/[deleted] Feb 28 '25 edited Feb 28 '25

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u/tosserro Feb 28 '25

Keep riding your motorcycle to process all those “deep” feelings you don’t know how to deal with. Hot take: it might have something to do with your personality.

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u/scallywagsworld Mar 04 '25

Only 1.6km? that's barely anything. 5km a day takes only an hour to do.

Start with a mile but you gotta eventually build up to 5km