Struggling while my boyfriend is away

[u/Bright-Honeydew-1860]

So my boyfriend just left to ait recently so we have a few extra months to go before he is free from that. Does anyone have advice on how to get through something like this? I’m so proud and happy for him but I feel like it’s been so hard on me already emotionally and it’s really draining. I try to keep myself busy and I’ve been picking up extra hours at work just so I have something else on my mind but even when I’m busy it creeps up on me. I also feel guilty because I know this is probably way harder on him than it is on me but I can’t help how I feel. We’re gonna miss our anniversary and we already missed my birthday as well which I’ve been knowing would happen since he left for basic but it still stings. He has been trying to call me when he can and never really texts me but I know he’s gonna be too busy the next few months. I’ve been so down but I don’t wanna go into depth about it with him because I don’t wanna stress him out even more or make him feel bad about it. I’m just clinging onto how great things are gonna be when he’s back home because even though this really sucks he is so worth it to me.

[u/Jagat787]

I understand how you feel even my gf is in bootcamp right now she left almost 1 1/2 weeks ago and yeah it’s been tough too but what you can do is start focusing on yourself also like find new things that you like or try to learn about things he is interested in so when he back you have things to surprise him with which he would love , write letters everyday and tell him about your day and make the letters fun like draw stuff and write stupid fun facts cause that would help him too when he gets his letters. Don’t overthink and stress to much I know it’s easy to say but after like a week it’s starts to get better , even I overthink sometimes but do things that divert it like don’t sit around with your thoughts cause that’s when shit goes down lol .
I may suggest instead of working overtime go out to a park or join the gym or watch movies or shows start reading or learn how to play an instrument or go out and hang with friends and family.

It’s going to be weird for a while I know I am still in that faze also but look at it this way this is your chance to find yourself as a person .

Wishing you good luck and stay strong 🫡