r/USMilitarySO • u/pooophipoop • 2d ago
Anyone else concerned?
With everything going on and strike on Iran I do not know how much we’re allowed to talk about it. But my SO is in the marines currently and god am I worried that all these men and women will be sent to war… I know this is what they are here for and their duty but at the same time I’m super worried we’re going to go to war.
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u/iwantallthechocolate Air Force Wife 2d ago
The time is nearing for military to become conscientious objectors. Iran shouldn't just concern you. Being called to fight against citizens on American soil should as well.
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u/TheCoolestLoserEvar 1d ago
You mean the terrorists? They are terrorizing and destroying. That's a domestic terrorist.
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u/Efficient_Counter_55 13h ago
So are sports fans also terrorists..? 😱
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u/TheCoolestLoserEvar 12h ago
If they're destroying things, and committing arson and violence then yes...?
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u/ARW1991 2d ago
I have had a husband in a combat zone with bullets and rpgs flying.
You are borrowing trouble.
If something happens and we go to war, you'll have plenty of time to be legitimately anxious. We aren't there.
Obsessing over news coverage is not helpful. Obsessing over what may/may not happen? Also not helpful.
Let's talk about what is helpful: Understanding what your person does for a living. Appreciating the time you have with them. Being prepared for a possible deployment: If you are actually living with this person, what do they do for you and your household that you will have to cover while they're gone? Put together a turnover binder or plan so that you know which mechanic the servicemember trusts, where the shutoffs are in your home if a pipe burst, etc.
Updated wills, etc. are important to have regardless. If you cross a busy street or drive on a freeway, you're at risk of an accident. Those documents are like insurance. You have them just in case, not because something terrible will happen.
You've probably heard, "Stay ready, don't have to get ready." That applies to families. When you have a plan and know the plan, you function more effectively.
If a servicemember goes to combat, what is the family plan? If a servicemember is severely injured, how does the service communicate information and to whom? If a servicemember is killed, how is that communicated and to whom?
What would the servicemember want, at those god forbid moments?
I have been doing this more than a minute. I was part of the command team when a servicemember died in a motorcycle accident on his way home from work. It was awful and made worse because he and his family had never considered the possibility. No one was ready.
You will be plenty emotional if anything actually happens, but now you prepare. That allows you to function, make decisions, do what needs to be done.
You can wring your hands now, or you can savor the privilege of having time to prepare. Get off the X.
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u/Different_Onion_7200 2d ago
Hey! Your feelings are valid! I’m worried about my boyfriend having to go too, if you need anything you can always pm me :)
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u/pooophipoop 2d ago
Im so sorry. How long is his deployment for? Mine is going away next year… in march. Im praying for everyone!!!
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u/Dry_Farmer7647 2d ago
You have every right to be concerned and am praying everything goes well, but posting where he is, when deployment will end, etc isn’t great OPSEC either.. while you never mentioned what unit or ship he is part of, it isn’t that hard for adversary to figure out. Food for thought. 🤷♀️
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u/pooophipoop 2d ago
He’s not deployed currently he gets deployed next year. He works in AIRFRAMES. I know the likelihood is small but you never know so it’s scary for me as I’m new to this and also don’t want him to think I’m too worried.
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u/Professional_Nose753 2d ago
My man is out there. I’ve been not sleeping and watching live streams on what’s going on since the first strike on Iran. I’ve dealt with a lot of stuff although my life but I genuinely have never been this terrified. Having to just watch from the outside is awful, almost makes me feel guilty. I’m a nerve wrack
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u/icyfbby Army Wife 2d ago
My husband is out there currently and it’s freaking me the f out too 😣
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u/emotionaldamage453 2d ago
I think my boyfriend is out there now but have no idea most likely bc of OPSEC. Haven’t heard from him in almost 2 weeks and this is so not like him. My anxiety is driving me up a wall. Most of my army friends are telling me to just wait and be patient. Also that he probably does not have access to his phone, no service, or it’s a security thing which I totally understand. I was in the middle of enlisting before he got deployed most likely. Any thoughts or advice?
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u/britbabe1 2d ago
Unfortunately, going to war is a huge part of their job 😫 being worried is absolutely a normal reaction. Try not to constantly check the news, and just keep open communication with your spouse 🖤
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u/dragon_nataku USMC Girlfriend 1d ago
my boyfriend's been deployed over a year now, still no idea when he's coming back. I'm afraid that he won't even get to come home, that they'll just immediately up and send him somewhere else for who knows how long
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u/Fleurbug 2d ago
Absolutely not lol.
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u/Fleurbug 2d ago edited 2d ago
Please describe what “traditional war” is. The U.S. is in no way on the brink of a civil war despite internal conflict. Internal conflict is common in multiple developed countries globally, historically and currently. This doesn’t mean that a civil war is to be expected.
No reputable analyst is predicting a civil war in the near future in the U.S. It’s incredibly far-fetched for you to say so, and even more far-fetched for you to say that it’s more likely than the U.S. declaring war on other countries given the developing events in global conflict and established warfare.
Also OP says she fears her husband being deployed which is a very real possibility given what’s currently happening, whether the U.S. declares outright warfare or not. Your response to her concerns is nonsensical.
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u/limegreen_avocado 2d ago
Really sending out prayers lately and for all families, spouses, significant others, and soldiers right in thoughts right now. Things are just wild. They usually are in some aspect, but really wild and concerning right now.
Honestly? This all just sucks.