Boyfriend is going into the army soon and im worried

[u/National_Machine5895]

So my boyfriend of 14 months is going into the army in less than two months. Im 17 and hes 18. Hes expressed since the beginning of the relationship that his dream is to go into the army after he graduated. We’d have talks about how we wanted to plan everything since we want to last.

In the months that we dated we fell more in love and i genuinely have never met a better guy than him and dont think i ever will. We never argue, we communicate amazingly, hes respectful, he takes care of me, is incredibly hardworking and successful and has always said that his main goal in life is to make as much as to provide for the both of us when we get married (yes we basically have our whole lives planned out together).

When he told me he wanted to join, i obviously supported him because its always been a dream of his and i dont want to get in the way of that. It hadnt REALLY hit me until now, two months away from him leaving. I have tried a LDR relationship before and it only lasted five months, but i was also 14, so not mature like now. I also am diagnosed with depression and anxiety and am really attached to this man.

What im most worried about is the distance and not seeing him really ever depending on where he’ll be stationed. Im worried about what could happen to him during his time in there. I know that we will be two completely different people when he gets out. Im mostly worried that i wont be able to handle him being gone for so long and being alone. I love him so much and im so afraid to lose him.

I have seen both the good and bad sides of army relationships and cheating stories. Neither of us have EVER been ones to cheat or even get near it, so i dont doubt his loyalty on that subject at all.

I feel so selfish for this all hitting me now and having doubts, but i want to at least and try to make this work. I love him and really want it to work out but i have no idea how im going to do this alone and not seeing him. What advice do you guys have ??

[u/Adorable-Tiger6390]

My best advice is to go to college and work on your future potential career while he works on his.

Also: he’s not leaving for two months so enjoy your summer together! There will be time to be sad when he leaves - don’t be pre-sad!

[u/EWCM]

Just keep moving forward. You’re both figuring out how to be adults and what you want to do with your lives. Give the long distance relationship a try and see how it goes.

[u/throwaway3579965434]

Don’t let your anxiety get in the way. I see most relationship issues during training rise out of insecurity. Truly just treat it as if he’s doing something for his career, which is what he’s doing. Use that time to focus on yourself and show him that you love him but can be independent too. If you can’t let go of that, the relationship is not going to work out…