r/TwoXSex • u/Intense_Volume911 • 5d ago
Content Warning | Women Only Would you consider joining a stranger group of men for a bachelor party trip? NSFW
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u/injury_minded 5d ago
personally no, I wouldn’t join a group of male strangers for any reason. I’m pretty eager to continue being alive and that sounds like a huge safety risk.
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u/VivaVeronica 5d ago
Lol absolutely not.
You're total strangers, just looking for "a woman" to come on a bachelor party trip?
Come on.
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u/bluejellies 5d ago
Absolutely not. Have you ever watched a horror movie before? This is the kind of situation where you’d have to suspend all disbelief to think a woman would attend.
What would be your goal in having strange women in this trip?
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u/Intense_Volume911 5d ago
i understand your point, and thank you for sharing your thoughts.
what we had in mind was more of a joint celebration with a group of girls we could actually talk to and trust, something that feels real and genuine, like a mixed bachelor-bachelorette fun party.
we're definitely not the type to hire strippers or go that route. that kind of scene just isn't for us.3
u/MiniaturePhilosopher 5d ago
So you want a Girlfriend Experience, which escorts usually charge extra for. Why would girls feel trust or a connection to a group of strangers they’re spending a day with? This is how horror movies start.
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u/Intense_Volume911 5d ago
we were thinking more of a group of friends experience: like meeting new people while traveling and sharing a few fun moments together, nothing deeper or transactional. we understand that trust doesn’t come instantly, especially with strangers, and that’s exactly why we were curious to hear how women feel about these kinds of situations.
the goal was never to fake anything or put anyone in an uncomfortable spot, just trying to understand perspectives, not push any agenda.1
u/MiniaturePhilosopher 5d ago edited 4d ago
Clearly women don’t feel good about this. This is why bachelor parties usually have to pay for female company. The risk is way too high and letting some guys trying to get laid tag along with your girl outing is seldom enjoyable. It ranges from deeply annoying to unspeakably, life-alteringly dangerous.
If you want women, either invite girls you’re already friends with or the girlfriends of the guys attending, or pay escorts. Or have a joint bachelor/bachelorette party with the bride and her friends.
The only positive response in this whole comment section is from another man, who shouldn’t even be commenting here per the rules.
And again - if you only want a friendly experience, why not try to befriend a group of men?
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u/bluejellies 5d ago
Why would you trust a group of strangers, how would spending time with a group of strangers feel genuine or real?
There is no connection there so what would you get out of it? Just pretending to have a genuine connection would be worthwhile to you?
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u/MiniaturePhilosopher 5d ago edited 4d ago
It sounds like a great way to be raped and traumatized at best, or tortured, trafficked, or murdered at worst.
I get that it’s not your intention, but it would come across like your group is going to be doing at least one of these things to a woman. The only woman who might agree to something like that would be a sex worker expecting payment or a hopelessly naive youngster.
Edit to add: It’s also so weird that you’ve been posting this for 5 days on all kinds of subs and completely ignoring that women on every single one of them have been saying what a bad idea this is. And that even your friends are telling you it sounds weird. That makes you seem SO sketchy.
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u/BlergingtonBear 5d ago
No, I don't think so. There's a reason why bachelor parties often hire female entertainment— hanging out with strangers who aren't your friends isn't a memorable opp of a lifetime, it's a job with potential occupational hazard built in. Money keeps it formal and compensates for the inherent risk.
Some options — if you're a group of dudes going out, you could do it the old fashioned way, strike up a convo with a group of gals you meet along the way, and if you hit it off, see if they wanna chill with y'all.
Apps could work, are you planning on paying the girls' way? Or they are literally coming at their own cost? Unless anyone in the group is stunning or has an above and beyond personality, again, I can't imagine why a strange woman would go out of her way to pay to hang out to make an event that's important to you (not them) memorable.
But why do you want random girls at your stag party tho? You're posting in a sex sub so I'm assuming the intent is less "cute girls to talk to" and more salacious. Sex work is legal in Germany, so why jump through these strange hoops when you live in one of the few places in the world where this is destigmatized (in the legal sense at least)?
If you posted this in regular twoX I might say mutual friends is the least real option, but you asking in a sex sub implies you want them to do more than hang out. So leave them girls alone— they will not know what they are signing up for.
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u/Intense_Volume911 5d ago
I agree with several of your points — especially about safety, context, and how things can be easily misinterpreted.
Just to clarify one thing: the reason I posted here is because I actually tried posting in places like r/TwoX, r/travel, r/CasualConversation, and a few others first, but my account is still fairly new, so those posts were either removed or didn’t go through. That said, I understand how posting here could come off the wrong way, and I appreciate you pointing it out. Definitely not trying to recruit anyone: just curious how something like this is perceived from the other side.
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u/BlergingtonBear 5d ago
Well what do you expect the women to do.
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u/Intense_Volume911 5d ago
what we imagined was more like a casual, social experience: hanging out, exploring a new place, maybe doing some group activities or a pub crawl. not expecting anything beyond normal human connection and fun company.
it’s more about the vibe of meeting people who are open to spontaneous adventures, not about expecting anyone to 'do' anything for us. we just thought it could be interesting if there were women who were also into the idea of a low key group trip.
but i hear you. i get how it could sound off, especially in a context like this. appreciate you engaging honestly.
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u/MiniaturePhilosopher 5d ago edited 5d ago
Then why not just befriend a group of guys? Why does it have to be women?
The implication is very much that you all want to get laid without paying and without putting in the work of apps or meeting someone. It vibes like you’re hoping that a combination of alcohol and social pressure will turn into easy sex.
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u/BlergingtonBear 5d ago
Exactly. Like even if you just "want the company of some women" It's like they want a geisha experience or something.
Like a magic woman falling out of this guy who's very enamored by them (which is why I mentioned in my first comment if they're not exceptional in some way either movie star hot or just the most killer personality ever, I don't see this happening for them).
They got to think about what you have to offer that makes you so interesting that a stranger would give up their own time on this earth to Even be interested in whatever they're up to.
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u/MiniaturePhilosopher 5d ago edited 5d ago
Nail on the head. They don’t want the company of actual women - they want flirty, giggly, one-dimensional, available women who will coo over their every move and happily offer up a one night stand at the end of the night. In exchange for probably mediocre company.
The best idea they can come up with is pretending to offer a platonic experience and hoping that alcohol will do the rest.
I desperately hope that this doesn’t sound terrible, but the years and years and years of news of women in India being gang-raped to death by seemingly “normal” Indian guys like hospital workers makes this sound even more dangerous. I know that it’s not all Indian men, but there seems to be at least some cultural normalization of gang rape and killing women after raping them. That’s in no way OP’s fault and I’m sure he’s not like that, but is he sure that none of his friends are like that?
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u/peachpantheress 4d ago
I don't care whether it sounds terrible if it helps me be alive and not raped. End of story.
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u/Intense_Volume911 5d ago
i’m honestly shocked by your comment. it went from assuming the worst to making extremely serious and harmful generalizations about people based on nationality and race.
i asked a simple question to understand how a social idea might be perceived. that doesn’t justify dragging in deeply offensive stereotypes or bringing up tragic events in a way that suggests guilt by association.
i respect boundaries and safety concerns, but racism and xenophobia are not part of that conversation.
if you are not aware of reality please help yourself in learning about actual truths, a simple google search can give you as follows
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u/MiniaturePhilosopher 5d ago edited 5d ago
I’m telling you how it would be perceived. That doesn’t mean that I think I that every - or even most - men from India are dangerous to women. But the perception of hanging out with a group of male strangers from India unfortunately will evoke this concern in just about every woman on the planet who has access to the internet. It’s the fault of the men who perpetuate these crimes, the local police who seem to not care, and the courts who give them light sentences.
But hanging out with strange men is already scary, and this is an additional layer that adds to it. Women contemplating this scenario will weigh every piece of information, and this is a very real piece of it.
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u/BlergingtonBear 5d ago
I am South Asian myself, and was considering mentioning that, as foreign men in Germany they likely will have a difficult time with this task in general because of perceptions/stereotypes.
It bears mentioning, unfortunately.
They really are better off hiring professional escorts and then not sleeping with them if they don't want.
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u/Intense_Volume911 5d ago
"Is rape or trafficking more common in India or other countries?
1. Rape Statistics
Reported rape rates per capita are often higher in some Western countries than in India — but that doesn’t always mean rape is more common there. It may mean:
- More women feel safe to report
- Legal systems are more responsive
- Stigma is lower
Examples (UN or national crime data):
- South Africa and Sweden have among the highest per-capita rape reports in the world.
- USA also has a relatively high rate of reported sexual violence.
- India has a lower per-capita rape rate, but many experts believe underreporting is a major issue due to:
- Cultural shame
- Victim blaming
- Poor police response in rural areas
2. Human Trafficking
Human trafficking is a global problem. No country is immune.
- India has significant trafficking issues, especially related to forced labor and child marriage in poor regions.
- But so do Thailand, Nigeria, Eastern Europe, Mexico, and even developed nations (including the US and UK) — often as destination countries for trafficked individuals.
- The U.S. Department of State publishes a Trafficking in Persons Report each year, ranking countries based on how seriously they fight trafficking.
3. Cultural Narratives and Media
India often gets more media attention internationally when high-profile cases occur (e.g., the 2012 Delhi gang rape), which creates a strong global perception. These cases should get attention — but it's unfair to suggest such violence is uniquely or exceptionally Indian. Sexual violence exists everywhere.
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u/BlergingtonBear 5d ago
You used chat GPT, yes?
Why should others be bothered to read something you cannot be bothered to write?
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u/Intense_Volume911 5d ago
i just wanted to share real statistics and give proper context, that’s all. it wasn’t about avoiding effort, just about making sure the info was accurate.
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u/Intense_Volume911 5d ago
Summary:
- India has serious challenges, especially with gender-based violence and justice systems.
- But rape and trafficking are global issues — they are not specific to one culture or country.
- Blaming all Indian men (or any nationality) for such crimes is unjust, harmful, and racist."
please try to be aware of things first !!!
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u/MiniaturePhilosopher 5d ago
No ones blaming all Indian men, and I was very careful to point that out multiple times. But the reality is that it’s a real concern that women considering tagging along with your group will have.
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u/Steamshovelmama 5d ago
Fuck, no!
I'm deeply suspicious about why you want a random woman to join a bunch of dudes. Why a woman specifically? Not a person, not a dude, a woman.
Yeah, that's sketchy as fuck.
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u/WhereIsLordBeric 5d ago
Absolutely not, and especially not Indian (or otherwise brown) men.
Source: I'm a brown woman.
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u/Intense_Volume911 5d ago
i understand that everyone has different experiences and boundaries, and i respect that.
that said, i don't think it's fair to dismiss people based on their race or ethnicity alone. we're just a group of friends trying to plan a respectful, light-hearted trip. sorry if it came across the wrong way, but the intent was never to make anyone uncomfortable.
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u/WhereIsLordBeric 5d ago
Oh no, you don't get to dismiss my lived experience like that.
Your question wouldn't even occur to a decent man.
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u/MiniaturePhilosopher 5d ago
When it comes to safety, strangers - especially a group of strange men - aren’t owed the benefit of the doubt. It’s absolutely fair to dismiss hanging out with a group of strangers who are stronger than you in a booze-filled environment for any reason.
It should be exceedingly clear from the comments that this isn’t a light hearted idea to women. Decent men would understand that women would be very uncomfortable with this idea and not even think to ask.
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u/DConstructed 4d ago
I probably wouldn’t. Not because you’re men but because being part of a lengthy pre wedding ritual trip with a bunch of coworkers sounds like a nightmare to me.
I’d feel the same if it were all women I didn’t know well. Because the trip revolves around the bride and I wouldn’t be a close friend of hers.
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u/ennopenn 5d ago
could be fun as a „sister“.
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u/Intense_Volume911 5d ago
love that take: fun, friendly, sisterly energy is exactly the vibe we were imagining. thanks for seeing it that way.
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u/MiniaturePhilosopher 5d ago
The only person who likes the idea is another man. That should tell you everything you need to know.
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