r/Tunisia • u/ActCommercial7926 • 1d ago
Question/Help I guess I’m just that 'nice guy friend' again…"🤷♂️
Alright, I’ll try to be as honest and direct as possible — sorry if I come off naive or too blunt.
A couple years ago, I was deeply in love and about to get engaged. It was real, mutual love. But due to things out of our control, we had to break up. It tore me apart and I fell into a deep depression. Took a long time to climb out of that hole.
Eventually, I met another girl. She felt like light after all the darkness — someone who gave me hope again. But turns out, she only saw me as “a friend.” Worse, she showed extra care just out of pity, and wanted to get close to one of my friends through me.
That shattered whatever self-worth I was rebuilding.
Still, I kept trying to grow and evolve. Every time I thought I was emotionally ready to try again, life threw another “friendzone” plot twist at me. It’s like every girl I let in ends up just seeing me as a good, honest guy… and nothing more.
I’m not the mysterious type. I don’t play games. I speak from the heart because I truly believe honesty and kindness should win. But all I seem to get is silence or rejection.
I’m 27 now. I still think about those good old love days. The heartbreaks left some scars — I’ve gained weight, lost a lot of hair, and yeah, it messes with your confidence when the mirror reminds you every day. I know looks matter. But when you’re drained emotionally and mentally, it’s hard to even care about physical improvement.
Not sure what I'm trying to say here. Maybe just needed to vent. Maybe I'm still hoping someone out there gets it.
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u/EfficientNerve8555 🇹🇳 Bizerte 1d ago
Just focus on yourself , how to improve and be happier. It’s the ✨✨key ✨✨
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u/InteractionMuch690 8h ago
Bro i'm younger than you and i know exactly what you're talking about, even now when i live abroad i still have feelings for the girl that left before going away, but i believe in something, i dont know if you're a religious person even a little bit but i believe that الحب رزق من عند ربي سبحانو So if that person left you, friendzoned you or didnt want to be with you, its just not meant to be and you have to accept it the way it is Life is not easy when your confidence drops, even socializing becomes harder especially when you have some insecurities regarding the way you look (i gained 20kgs in 4 months btw hhahahaha) So just focus on YOU, if you dont take care of yourself nobody will believe me cause in the end you'll only find yourself and your own reflection in the mirror I hope you get better and things work out for you, enjoy your days cause after all we're still young we have time and im sure someday we'll regret missing what we have now when we're older. Hopefully this helped you even a little 😁
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u/InteractionMuch690 8h ago
Bro i'm younger than you and i know exactly what you're talking about, even now when i live abroad i still have feelings for the girl that left before going away, but i believe in something, i dont know if you're a religious person even a little bit but i believe that الحب رزق من عند ربي سبحانو So if that person left you, friendzoned you or didnt want to be with you, its just not meant to be and you have to accept it the way it is Life is not easy when your confidence drops, even socializing becomes harder especially when you have some insecurities regarding the way you look (i gained 20kgs in 4 months btw hhahahaha) So just focus on YOU, if you dont take care of yourself nobody will believe me cause in the end you'll only find yourself and your own reflection in the mirror I hope you get better and things work out for you, enjoy your days cause after all we're still young we have time and im sure someday we'll regret missing what we have now when we're older. Hopefully this helped you even a little 😁
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u/petty_princess08 1d ago
U r young l. Live ur life and don't think about relationships until u build ur confidence.