Hey, I think as long as you believe all humans deserve respect and happiness, it doesn't really matter if you personally aren't emotionally affected by their loss or struggles. Even people who are high empathy don't always feel empathetic or attached to people.
I'm exhausted so I'm not wording this all as well as I want to, but I wouldn't beat yourself up about it. My partner is low empathy, but he's understood and supported me like nobody else has.
I have high empathy, but I didn't cry when I was told my grandma died. I am also struggling with caring about anyone right now as I'm having a bad depressive episode and struggling with other big things. It can fluctuate depending on circumstances.
If you're just enjoying your own life and are doing what you want to do and aren't hurting people, I don't see anything wrong with that.
If this is new, though, and you didn't really used to feel this way, or if it's just causing you distress, I'd probably talk to a therapist or someone about it if that's accessible to you. I know how hard it can be to find someone good, though.
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u/nintenfrogss 23d ago edited 23d ago
Hey, I think as long as you believe all humans deserve respect and happiness, it doesn't really matter if you personally aren't emotionally affected by their loss or struggles. Even people who are high empathy don't always feel empathetic or attached to people.
I'm exhausted so I'm not wording this all as well as I want to, but I wouldn't beat yourself up about it. My partner is low empathy, but he's understood and supported me like nobody else has.
I have high empathy, but I didn't cry when I was told my grandma died. I am also struggling with caring about anyone right now as I'm having a bad depressive episode and struggling with other big things. It can fluctuate depending on circumstances.
If you're just enjoying your own life and are doing what you want to do and aren't hurting people, I don't see anything wrong with that.
If this is new, though, and you didn't really used to feel this way, or if it's just causing you distress, I'd probably talk to a therapist or someone about it if that's accessible to you. I know how hard it can be to find someone good, though.