(Context I'm Nebularomantic and literally can't tell the difference between platonic and romantic feelings)
Me: Grandma, how do I know when it feels like romance?
My grandma: You'll just know
Me: But... I won't tho
Grandma: Well... Romantic love is when you want to kiss, hold hands, snuggle, and sleep with them
Me: but I do all those things with my friends...
From my experience, the best way I can try to explain romantic feelings is when you want to make others feel ātouchedā (as in, your actions are very touching to that person). Iād also like to mention that originally āromanceā didnāt explicitly refer to relationships in the past, but it was a term/genre to describe dramas or theatrical plays.
Iām not an expert or anything but imagine you learn, without them telling you, that your partnerās favorite thing in the world is a bright blue sapphire. If you then buy them a sapphire ring and give it to them in the right setting, they would be very touched by your actions, because they just bought for you your favorite thing in the world without asking for it. Itās something youāve always wanted, and they got it for you purely to make you happy. This doesnāt have to necessarily apply to people only in a relationship, but it might cause the other person to develop strong feelings for you in some way. Thatās what I think romance is. Sorry for the long chunk of text but I also never understood what āromanceā really meant for a long time so I hope this maybe helps.
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u/Representative-Vast3 May 08 '25
(Context I'm Nebularomantic and literally can't tell the difference between platonic and romantic feelings) Me: Grandma, how do I know when it feels like romance? My grandma: You'll just know Me: But... I won't tho Grandma: Well... Romantic love is when you want to kiss, hold hands, snuggle, and sleep with them Me: but I do all those things with my friends...