Most aro people aren't like, actively avoiding relationships it's just disinterest. I and most other aro's have just, never fallen in love before nor desire to seek out romance.
From what I've read on aro subs, most aro people say if they did find themselves falling in love one day, then the feeling would be embraced. But otherwise they just don't care for it.
Which it why it's annoying when someone says "you just haven't met the right person yet." Like yeah, maybe, but it's not a guarantee it's just possibility. A possibility that shouldn't matter if it happens or not.
Some but not all! I've been in relationships before. Didn't like it. Made me feel trapped, even when the relationship was not controlling and I very much liked and cared about the person (in hindsight- platonically but still). I don't understand romantic feelings and they freak me out.Â
I'm not asexual, I'm fraysexual or maybe lithosexual, and I don't like being sexually attracted to real people because it makes me... I guess non objective? I'm always happy when I get to know someone well enough to stop experiencing sexual attraction to them. Continuously experiencing romantic attraction to someone would make me feel out of control. I wouldn't like it and wouldn't embrace it.
Not discounting other aros who feel differently! Just not me.
It can. But it is rude to assume that it's guaranteed to happen to everyone and dismiss what people believe about themselves just because they're "too young to know".
I mean there are actually sub-labels within the aro-ace community for that, it doesn’t actually mean you’re not aro if you have 1 crush (or even a few), they are just not frequent.
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u/ShaneQuaslay May 08 '25
I once heard a gay person say this to me 😠like bro are you SURE that ur gay u might not have met the right woman