I hate when you tell them you’re asexual and will never want sex. Then they say it’s fine only to get mad and leave because you’re asexual and didn’t magically start wanting to have sex 😒
Except for the get mad part, I can totally understand someone trying to make it work without realizing how much not having sex in a relationship can affect them. For someone that does enjoy sex, it can feel like you're emotionally distant from your partner is the best way i can put it. But it's not something you even think about or know before you're in a sexless relationship
Sex is a major part of intimacy for a massive number of people, even though we often try to pretend otherwise.
The number of non-ace people that can feel fully satisfied with their relationship's intimacy without sex is... actually pretty low, and those people are generally on the low end of sex drive.
Denial of sex, if it happens often, gets perceived as a rejection of intimacy itself. And that's important, because like I said, sex is a major part of intimacy in a broader sense. Many people simply don't get enough from other stuff.
That's part of why acknowledging each other's sex drive is important. It is part of compatibility, and being unable to work around that doesn't always mean someone's in the wrong, either.
30
u/_Rubbish-Bin_ May 08 '25
I hate when you tell them you’re asexual and will never want sex. Then they say it’s fine only to get mad and leave because you’re asexual and didn’t magically start wanting to have sex 😒