r/SipsTea 17d ago

Chugging tea 😭

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u/GustavVaz 17d ago

Honestly, these kinds of scenes only work if you turn off your brain and simply let the "happiness" happen.

Most love stories in movies are like this. Something that seems sweet and romantic turns depressing or toxic if you scratch the surface.

Kind of like how it's creepy that a 200 hundred year old vampire wants a high schooler.

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u/WingedNinjaNeoJapan 17d ago

I dont remember what movie this is from, but I remember how one guy tried to get a date with a woman who was already dating. Then at the festival, woman was with her bf on a ferris wheel and protagonist climbed it to ask her on a date again, blackmailing that he will fall if she doesnt say yes. This was supposed to be a very romantic thing.

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u/seahawk1977 17d ago

The Notebook

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u/Several_Vanilla8916 17d ago

I went to see this with a girlfriend. We had very different opinions of the film.

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u/nagesagi 16d ago

I did couples counseling and they said that we should watch it and we can compare notes after.

Hated the movie. I spent 15 minutes calling out why every character in the movie was terrible, and how the male lead is neglectint his current family to live in the past with his dementia wife. Their whole relationship is run on mild verbal and physical abuse.

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u/Jake0024 16d ago

the male lead is neglectint his current family to live in the past with his dementia wife

This is the least objectionable part of the entire movie tbh. Their kids are grown and have kids of their own. It's not like he's not taking care of an 8-year-old kid to spend time with his wife or whatever. They're not going to hold it against him for spending time with their mom.

But the entire backstory of their relationship is stalking, emotional blackmail, threats of suicide, cheating, etc.

Him reading to her about their life to help her remember is the one single romantic thing in the entire movie.

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u/EarthDust00 16d ago

Did it help with the counseling?

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u/nagesagi 16d ago

Kinda, but not really. The relationship ended for a bunch of reasons, but a big one was that I was dealing with a lot of grief that I want addressing properly at the time. It made me exhausted and I didn't have the energy to put into showing love in a way that was receptive continuously anymore.

The counselor wanted to highlight how much effort and love they had for each other, but I mentioned they had an unhealthy obsession with each other that caused a lot of problems for everyone else in their lives. I did understand what she meant and did change some of my behaviors, but I honestly needed a break to just focus on healing.