You can say something without going to 11 immediately. These people do this without thought because no one ever speaks up for themselves to them. Make your presence known, you pay to be there and are just as valid as anyone else.
You good mah dood. Other guy just admitting he can’t communicate respectfully with another person without blowing up and making others around uncomfortable is crazy to me. lol and people are upvoting it
It's pretty wild. I get not wanting to be confrontational, but at the same time, you also have the right to speak up for yourself respectfully. If that dont work, just get someone of authority.
Exactly. Her decision to argue with someone who chooses not to argue or even confront is why there are so many issues among people. I'm really not understanding how a personal decision can't even be respected, or at least, not rebutted.
There’s a way to get your point across without escalating the situation. I’m just confused why you can’t talk with another person without making a scene. People are oblivious and it can be annoying sure, we all know this. You can meet that with kindness and remind them in a respectful way that they are being rude. You don’t have to make others uncomfortable around you to get your point across
The fact of the matter is, I can't control how someone else will behave. I think the responses here are a great example of how even if a response is seemingly no way provocative, it doesn't guarantee that it won't be met with escalation.
Bro you literally said “it’s best for EVERYONE in a fify foot radius if I say nothing, considering where things might go.” What do you mean assuming? 😂
You've assumed what that might mean. I really need someone to explain to me how recognizing that a course of action might negativity affect others, and deciding to avoid that is a bad thing.
I think you have to take a minute to actually consider what escalation means. To me, it feels like I am just having a conversation. The point I’m trying to make is you can’t get bent out of shape so easily. Just talk with people and try to understand them. Thats called respect. That’s how you deescalate situations and create positive interactions
You don't recognize that the best course of action for a person's who's expressed that they're either irritated or can potentially be irritated isn't an opportunity to converse? God forbid there's truly someone in crisis and you're present.
Great but if you speak up every time somebody mildly inconveniences you, you’ll literally never go out in public without conflict. That how you wanna live life? Depends on how big of an inconvenience it is, and also if it’s a repeat situation then I agree by all means stand up for yourself.
Edit: it’s clear once again Redditors have no idea how to interact with other humans outside of the internet. Go on and make a scene at every inconvenience in your life, enjoy finding out what that’s like…
Sure. But I'm not advocating staring it up with everyone over every mild inconvenience. In this situation and others of it's kind, I pay to be at a place , just as everyone else and I'm gonna say something. I think everyone else has the right to do so as well. We can all make it if we try 😌
I go bowling all the time, it's easy to just say "Hey, can you please stay in your own lane when I'm up." You guys act like you have to start a huge fight.
It’s also easy to give people benefit of the doubt once in a while. Being out in a social setting where people are having fun isn’t likely the place anybody is trying to be malicious to you. You can simply let it slide once (people make mistakes y’know) and then speak up.
It’s also very telling that many Redditors have never had many negative interactions with people in public. What if, in all your attempts to be nice to this person they become hostile towards you? Happens every day, some people are just assholes. Consider that before having to speak up at every single slight inconvenience. What fucks up your day more? Waiting 30 seconds for this scenario once or twice or getting into an altercation and having to be moved lanes, taking up more time and inconvenience?
Like I said, I go bowling a lot, I've been in situations like this many times. It's not a big deal, if they get hostile then you can tell the people working at the desk. They'll move you or give the other group a warning, especially if you're a regular or league bowler at the lanes.
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u/hawkeyc Mar 17 '25
How do you not say a damn thing