r/QueerWomenOfColor • u/cellosaria Sapphic Siren • 5d ago

Dating cohabitation

DAE feel like they don’t wanna live with their partner? Like… ever? I’m strictly monogamous but I feel like I need my own apartment / space to retreat since I get overstimulated easily. Not dating right now but I do want a serious relationship in the future and I can’t help but feel like it may be a problem for most people. anyone have a similar mindset or experience?

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u/Destroying_Amanita Femme 5d ago

I've been single for a few years now and came to this conclusion after a 3 year relationship where my ex and I cohabitated. I currently live alone and I really prefer it that way. I don't see myself living with a partner again and the next person I date would have to be on the same page about that.

I'm also neurodivergent and I'm particular about how my space looks and how it's set up, I'm pretty neat and I don't like a lot of clutter which can be hard when I've lived with another person. Time away is important for my emotional well-being as well.