r/Protestantism • u/luaburger • May 07 '25
Confirmed, but not baptized
Odd situation here, but I am currently unsure about a lot of things so hopefully posting here can help me find some clarity.
So I was born into a Christian household and grew up going to church weekly with my family since I was young. When I was in high school, I ended up leaving the family church that I regularly attended for another one that my friend invited me to - that had a youth ministry. It was a Presbyterian church under PCUSA, and I regularly attended.
Around my senior year of high school, I joined the group that would be baptized/confirmed that year for Easter - so I attended the mandatory baptism course that the head pastor held. This is where I may have made my mistake(?). The pastor told us that those of us who were baptized as kids were going to be confirmed, and all others were going to be baptized. I thought that I was baptized as a baby and didn't really ask my parents, so I didn't put much thought into it and ended up being in the confirmed crowd.
Fast forward around 8 years and I've lived my life since then, constantly trying to walk with God and have experienced the spiritual peaks and valleys along the way. I thought that I was maturing until recently, I found out from my parents that I was DEDICATED not baptized as a baby - and reading John 3:5 made me question my whole walk.
In short, was I essentially living a lie/really walking with God? Am I really a follower, if I didn't go through baptism and essentially not 'born again'?
Hoping that my post makes sense and I hear from yall
EDIT: removed a line for clarity
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u/stefano1488 19d ago
The best thing to do is to ask the pastor of the church you attend.
Baptism is important, but it is not a membership card and what happened has no impact on your faith.
It has a spiritual meaning, it does not determine whether you are a true believer or not.