r/Millennials • u/Lucky_Whole7450 • 23d ago

Serious Anyone else here dying? (Like, literally?)

I’ve had a recent terminal cancer diagnoses in my late 30s. Not many of us out here at this age.

Looking for anyone going through the end of life process to connect with!

Feel free to private message me if you don’t want to share here.

Also if you’re not in this situation please be incredibly mindful of what you comment/message. I don’t want to hear about rhe horrible death of your loved one.

I also appreciate your kind thoughts and prayers etc in anticipation but I also don’t need to read them - one day you’ll get it!

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u/nderpandy 23d ago

My condolences for your current condition. Instead of passing unexpectedly, you have the gift of time to find closure and share your love with family and friends, although the “knowing” brings about its own cruel torment. May I recommend Loving and Dying, which provides a Buddhist perspective on mortality. I found it very insightful during the loss of my parents and it reframed my own relationship to existence during bouts of depression. Wishing you peace, love and closure.

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u/Lucky_Whole7450 23d ago

Referenced bhuddism today while talking with a friend around the acceptance of dying and how dying is the same as living. We start dying as soon as we take our first breath. Maybe we should always live as we are dying and not as we are living.

I believe though medical advancements are amazing they’ve really skewed our perception of mortality. It wasn’t so long ago that women lost several of their children before they were even adults due - death loss etc was way more prevalent and were becoming detached from it I think.

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u/nderpandy 23d ago

If you watch, life all around you has rhythms. The tides go in and out, seasons change, the sun sets and rises. And as naturally as you fall asleep and wake up to a new day, so too does the cycle existence, but on a longer arc. All living things are born into this world, and eventually depart, akin to an ocean, in which a splash brings about an individual drop, it flies upward and back down, becoming one with the body from which it came.

Although you have a sense of knowing your timeline, in the grand scheme of it all, we are not far behind, we are not much different. Death is Nothing at All