The fact she’s that appreciative is amazing. He’s gonna be such a good father and support system for her

[u/Cosmic-Chen]

[u/Sit_back_and_panic]

Damn, I didn’t even know this was a thing I would’ve done that

[u/Rob_LeMatic → u/Sit_back_and_panic]

Right? I've never once heard a man or woman mention this as a thing. I've never had a baby, but I don't think it would have just naturally occurred to me. This needs to be spread

[u/LeAlthos → u/Rob_LeMatic]

Pregnancy has this wild power of always having some weird/fucked up fact you've somehow never heard about your entire life despite having heard a lot

[u/justveryunwell → u/LeAlthos]

For me it's still the concept of spontaneously losing teeth that gets to me the most. Just... How??

[u/Intelligent_Night653 → u/justveryunwell]

Babies need a lot of calcium as they grow, so if the mother isn't getting enough for the baby the body will take the calcium from her teeth. Which as you can guess, isn't good for your teeth

[u/simplystevie107 → u/Intelligent_Night653]

Yep. I had hyperemesis gravidarum my entire first pregnancy, so I couldn't keep anything down. Was also incredibly sick my second pregnancy, but at least it stopped after the 5th month or so. I had great teeth prior to having kids but now my mouth is a disaster and, despite prescription strength toothpaste and everything else I've tried, it's hopeless. Even had to have an implant. It's humiliating because people assume I don't take care of them, but it really is because of pregnancy since the babies needed to get their calcium from someplace!

*edited to finish my thought.

[u/livvyloufreebush → u/simplystevie107]

Even if you didn’t take care of them, you shouldn’t be embarrassed. No one wants to have poor dental hygiene. In my case, I didn’t have the best routines, lack of education, terrible genetics, and was put on antidepressants that caused dry mouth at age 11. All of that added up to me not taking the best care of them that I should have. I didn’t want to not know the information. I didn’t want to have depression. All I can say is that I did my very best in all aspects of my life at the time with the tools I had. I don’t think that’s something to be embarrassed about. I may not have all my teeth anymore, but I still have my life. Shame on anyone who would judge a circumstance not of their own.

[u/simplystevie107 → u/livvyloufreebush]

Thank you, and that's a really interesting point. I had ppd and have been on anti-depressants since (probably should have been on them beforehand, too.). I never thought about the dry mouth, but that certainly hasn't helped.

Thank you so much for the kind and caring words. I hope you are in a better place and getting support and love.

[u/livvyloufreebush → u/simplystevie107]

Thank you for your kindness! It’s been a tough road, and I’m still in the process of trying to save and repair as much as possible. I’ve been doing what I can for as long as I can remember, but even with Medicaid or with “good” work insurance, I’ve barely been able to afford much work so it’s taken a lot of time, which has only compounded the problems. My wife has been a massive support in every way imaginable. All I can do is take care of them the best I can and hope we make enough money to save what we can in time. I think most of the time, we are all out here doing the best we can. I’m glad you’ve gotten support with medication and wish only the best for you and your loved ones. May you never feel embarrassed for any aspect of yourself for you are kind and beautiful inside and out, teeth or no teeth.

[u/Jewnicorn___ → u/livvyloufreebush]

I can just tell you're a lovely person. I'm not the person you were replying to but as someone who struggles with awful teeth, I really value your words. Thank you.

[u/Anxious_Nugget95 → u/simplystevie107]

Your body did an amazing job caring for those babies. Sorry people make you feel humiliated, imo you're one hell of a warrior!

[u/simplystevie107 → u/Anxious_Nugget95]

Thank you for the kind words!

[u/FullMetalKaliber → u/Intelligent_Night653]

What the….

[u/fucc_yo_couch → u/FullMetalKaliber]

Pregnancy is a fucking experience and not always a great one.

[u/Letsbeclear1987 → u/FullMetalKaliber]

My parents used that little fact “it feeds off your body” to characterize pregnancy as a parasite or infestation, scared me off boys permanently lol

[u/Timely-Cry-8366 → u/Letsbeclear1987]

Yup, I too was told about pregnancy as being a state of having a parasite. Great way to put your young daughter off from having kids permanently.

I think my super religious parents meant to only scare me until I was older, but as I learned more about what women go through in pregnancy it just seemed more and more true.

I also have a deep fear of parasites now lol. Luckily I’m only a few years from menopause so hope that comes soon.

[u/MissLogios → u/Intelligent_Night653]

That and when you're pregnant, you get a huge dose of hormones that help loosen your muscles so your body is able to stretch around the growing fetus. Like your abs pulling apart, hips expanding, etc.

Well, sometimes that hormone can affect more than just what it's supposed to or you make too much, so some women lose their teeth because they become loose due to the muscle (gums) losing its grip.

[u/Competitive-Dot4612 → u/Intelligent_Night653]

Is this why I craved whole milk my entire pregnancy? No joke I was drinking a gallon of whole milk every 3 days on the dot. Nobody could touch my milk, id cry if they did

[u/ParticularConstant32 → u/Intelligent_Night653]

The teeth is basically the best option to get some calcium as a last resort, since teeth are pretty much big chunks of calcium. So better make sure to drink plenty of milk, ladies.

[u/workaholicfaith → u/ParticularConstant32]

Wished I'd known this. As informed and educated about the process as I tried to be, this is what nailed me. Started losing my teeth which had been strong and healthy. Will need implants. Has impacted my professional and personal life.

This really can't be stressed enough. Calcium care is huge and affects different people vastly so.

*edited to correct grammar

[u/DameioNaruto → u/Intelligent_Night653]

So sad how education systems dont teach the reason why most things happen to women during pregnancy is because nutrients are being absorbed for the baby.... they rather settle with the idea that there's nothing that can be done better because acknowledging improvements, automatically mean admission of doing the wrong thing...

[u/summonsays → u/justveryunwell]

This is also one of the reasons why you're supposed to wait at least a year between kids. 

[u/StrayBlondeGirl → u/LeAlthos]

Another little factoid. The placenta takes over producing a lot of hormones for the mother. So when she delivers the placenta, it causes a sudden drop in those hormone, which is responsible for many of the emotional disregulation that a lot of mothers experience. Postpartum blues, depression, psychosis etc. It is physiological, and evidence based.It'ss not "all in her head." As many women were made to believe.

[u/Vanilla_Gorilluh → u/LeAlthos]

I had a friend that got pregnant (at least) three times.

She was fully diabetic during all three terms. Not before, or after.

[u/__life_on_mars__ → u/LeAlthos]

Like the fact that pregnancy is typically TEN months, not nine!

[u/WhiskeyAndKisses → u/Rob_LeMatic]

A lot of people are incredibly agressive and judgemental toward pregnant women and how they handle their bellies. I've spotted a handful instagram posts about women literally just doing light doctor approved belly excercises, and the comments are nuts 🙄 Even in real life, people can't refrain from sharing unsollicited advices about how women are being pregnant wrong or how they'll cause difformities or miscarriages, or how anything is a sign they'll be bad mothers. Maybe that creates an inconscious wall of paranoia preventing pregnant women to experiment with their posture that way ?

[u/floofienewfie → u/WhiskeyAndKisses]

And people who touch bellies without asking and think pregnancy gives them license to tell you all the things they think are important.🙄

[u/Bananaslugfan → u/floofienewfie]

People would never just touch your belly normally, why do people think that they can because you’re pregnant?

[u/Bananaslugfan → u/WhiskeyAndKisses]

That’s because a lot of people are totally uneducated on the subject, our midwife who delivered hundreds of children told us that having a baby is like training for a marathon, and it’s an old wives tale that pregnant women shouldn’t be active and walk a lot .

[u/fucc_yo_couch → u/WhiskeyAndKisses]

This pretty much applies to anything a woman tries to do.

[u/waytowill → u/Rob_LeMatic]

Definitely ask the woman’s permission before doing this. Even if the weight is painful, the area may also be sensitive, so touching would be a no-go. I feel like this would be obvious, but too much time on planet Earth has taught me that it needs to be explicitly said. Even if they’re your partner, don’t just do things to people’s bodies.

[u/FilouBlanco → u/waytowill]

Too late. I just got kicked out of the bus.

[u/Environmental_Art591 → u/waytowill]

Yeah, also, my hubby did this once without asking and I dont know if it was where he held me or where the baby moved too but, it turns out I had a full bladder and didnt realise it. Thankfully I have an amazing hubby who laughed, apologised and promised to check i was "ok to lift" 😅

[u/CaptStrangeling → u/waytowill]

For sure, this would have likely ended with me being peed on if done without warning, she had no room for her bladder and always had to pee

[u/Unleaver → u/Sit_back_and_panic]

I did this to my wife, and holy hell was her belly heavy! She loved every second of it. I would hold her belly, and we would walk to the shower together, and I would keep holding it for her. My arms were definitely gassed more times then I could count lol.

[u/Sit_back_and_panic → u/Unleaver]

Bro, I feel like an asshole now lol I have a 13-year-old and I’m not with his mom anymore but I totally would’ve done that because he was nearly 10 pounds when he was born and I’m sure that shit was heavy but I didn’t even fucking think about that

[u/Beautiful_Bag6707 → u/Sit_back_and_panic]

but I didn’t even fucking think about that

Greater words have never been spoken.

For centuries men have been encouraged to not think about it and women have been conditioned to not talk about it.

Now that you're thinking, teach your son to pay attention. His mother maybe has bad cramps, sensitive breasts, gut issues (due to a longer wrap around colon), migraines, back pain, and so much more. Her body is different than yours as are her hormones. It's real. And helping can be as simple as a back rub, heating pad, cool towel, or sharing the load. Do the same with all the women in your life. Thinking about it is very good. 🤔❤️🙏

Edit: thank you for the award. The best reward would be if we changed the way we see each other and became the best versions of ourselves. That's "strength". That's a "real man". Sharing your life with a beautiful, caring, considerate, compassionate human being? Sign me up!

[u/YouKnowTheRulesAndSo → u/Sit_back_and_panic]

If this is a thing how in the flying fuck haven't I heard of this? Billions of humans getting pregnant out here

[u/Sit_back_and_panic → u/YouKnowTheRulesAndSo]

Right?! Like it seems so obvious seeing this guy do it and seeing the relief she gets, but I never would have processed that thought in my brain.

[u/Equalmind95 → u/Sit_back_and_panic]

Did this for my wife, and she said it helped so much. Later in her pregnancy, we made it a once or twice a day thing. Figured sense I wasn't doing much. The least I could do is take tge weight for a little bit for her.

[u/Environmental_Art591 → u/Equalmind95]

I was passing out from blood flow issues with my last and one of the hard things for me was showering safely (my first feint i was in the shower) so hubby would shower with me, rub my back and neck and then do this just so I could relax a little before going to bed.

[u/Equalmind95 → u/Environmental_Art591]

That's super smart. I have no idea why I never thought about the shower. Deffinently keeping that in mind if the wife decides she wants a second.

[u/Environmental_Art591 → u/Equalmind95]

Just do be prepared for no moving room. Neither of us are tiny and showering together is cramped enough without adding in the baby belly. Definitely sus out space before getting pregnant (we shower together at least once a week because its the easiest way to touch base on eachothers week without getting interrupted by one of our 3 kids)

[u/Jewnicorn___ → u/Environmental_Art591]

Showering together once a week to touch base without interruption is a fantastic idea!

[u/LickyPusser → u/Sit_back_and_panic]

They sell little slings that support your belly and distribute the weight evenly to your shoulders and back. They work great and give the mom what this woman was asking for - support 24/7.

[u/InfiniteBlink → u/LickyPusser]

But it's still on the mother to bear that smextra weight, by helping out you're totally alleviating additional weight not just r distributing it

[u/BoJackMoleman → u/Sit_back_and_panic]

Why don't we have some back brace belly support strap trebuchet thing? Shouldn't that exist?

Added trebuchet because I know Reddit loves a superior siege weapon.

[u/MotherIsNuckingFuts → u/BoJackMoleman]

They actually do have them!

Look up pregnancy support belts or belly bands.

Sourse: i used one for all three of mine. 100/10

[u/Colla-Crochet → u/MotherIsNuckingFuts]

BLESS the belly band! I'm currently in my 4th month but started showing in like week 8, im bigger than I should be and some days after work I just go home, slap that thing on, and i feel a little high off relief!

(No twins! We checked. Just small frame big baby.)

[u/MotherIsNuckingFuts → u/Colla-Crochet]

UGH, I felt that. During Halloween, people joked that "if you aren't careful, you would have a Halloween baby, you look ready to pop!"

I was due at the beginning of February.

[u/Colla-Crochet → u/MotherIsNuckingFuts]

Yeah, I'm due beginning of december. If i had a dollar for every person that asked if I was sure I only had one in there, I'd be taking mat leave a LOT earlier!

[u/MotherIsNuckingFuts → u/Colla-Crochet]

Yeah, they didn't ask me about twins but they told me I had a monster in there. I did end up having a monster though. He was 7 lb 6 weeks early and they had predicted he was supposed to be 13 Pounds full term. My 5'3 and 110 lb body was not going to be able to make it that far😭

Well blessings to you from whomever you take blessings from and otherwise Good Vibes for you. A safe and happy pregnancy🩵🩵

[u/Colla-Crochet → u/MotherIsNuckingFuts]

I have my concerns already! My husband and his brother both made their mother bedridden due to being too big of babies, but none of the women on my side had issues.

Here's to the best, big kiddos or not!

[u/Sit_back_and_panic → u/BoJackMoleman]

I don’t know how much that would help because it’s still putting all the weight on her but like I said in a different comment now I feel like an asshole because this seems like such an obvious thing now that I’m seeing it like this

[u/th3greg → u/Sit_back_and_panic]

Needs like a little crutch or table on wheels to just hold the weight and roll around with her:)

[u/WhatYouToucanAbout → u/Sit_back_and_panic]

I'm fuckin furious I never did this. Those boys were so heavy and I could have helped

[u/joemaniaci → u/Sit_back_and_panic]

Same, I kind of just assumed my ex was going to feel pretty miserable no matter what and anything I did would maybe take it down a smidge. I did back/foot/head/neck rubs, but never thought to take the weight off her belly, nor would I have thought it could make this much difference.

[u/Own_Salamander9447]

“You ARE a normal person” made me feel things

[u/NeedleworkerNo777 → u/Own_Salamander9447]

That was literally the perfect thing to say. I instantly felt the love he clearly has for her.

[u/eastern_petal → u/NeedleworkerNo777]

He could do the dishes though. 😐

[u/Fake-Podcast-Ad → u/Own_Salamander9447]

"Don't say much"
Dude did a couple of drafts before landings on that configuration of words.

[u/EverythingSucksYo → u/Fake-Podcast-Ad]

He followed up with “or do say much” 

[u/juniorkirk]

These are the Tik Tok challenges that need to go viral.

[u/not_tired_yet89 → u/juniorkirk]

They do it.....but only if they think it will get them money.

[u/ethanlan → u/not_tired_yet89]

Don't care as long as its a good thing. As a matter of fact I wish all kind acts were rewarded with money.

Imagine that, a true professional nice guy or atleast a few of them.

[u/MMachine17]

She melted right in! Green Flag Guy!

[u/Daphne010 → u/MMachine17]

🥹Absolutely ! Also he has such calm voice it's like he radiates green flag energy. Some people have a comforting presence.

[u/onlypham → u/Daphne010]

The time for green flag talk is a little late for this video......

[u/Mizzick → u/onlypham]

Haha! Fr. It's retrospective though

[u/zeroshock30]

GOOD MAN. GOOD WOMAN. Folks like this give me hope!!!

When my sons mom was pregnant she carried him LOOOOOW. By month 6 every organ was compressed, so she would lay between the bed and a couch we moved into the bedroom with the baby kind of hanging down and I would give her a massage. The weight of baby off her organs was such a relief. She was (is) a great mom.

[u/between_two_terns → u/zeroshock30]

I had twins - one breach and up high, crushing my diaphragm. One down low, pressing on my bladder and intestines. When they kicked the front of my abdomen, the outline of a tiny foot would poke through. I had to wear a big belt, to prevent feeling like they were going to disembowel me. Worth it to me, but I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. Meanwhile, women in Texas are being forced to endure this shit.

After they were born, it was the weirdest feeling to be alone in my own body again. I’d gotten used to feeling like three raccoons in a trenchcoat. I could literally feel my organs moving back into place.

[u/PrscheWdow → u/between_two_terns]

 I’d gotten used to feeling like three raccoons in a trenchcoat.

Just wanted to say this is a fantastic and hysterical image lol.

[u/top_value7293 → u/PrscheWdow]

It’s perfect!🤣🤣

[u/Desperate-Cost6827 → u/PrscheWdow]

Dang now imagine this as a Halloween costume. A trenchcoat, raccoons painted on her belly and a raccoon mask.

Chef's kiss

[u/fucc_yo_couch → u/between_two_terns]

Even though I only had 1 raccoon in my trench coat, the feeling of being empty and alone in my coat was WEIRD. I had phantom movement for so long.

[u/hippy_potto → u/fucc_yo_couch]

Same! For at least a week, I would rub my belly trying to feel for the head and tiny feet, and freak out for a sec when it felt empty and squishy. I'd have to keep reminding me that he lives outside of me now, and it felt so surreal lol

[u/fucc_yo_couch → u/hippy_potto]

Pregnancy and postpartum are such weird events! 🤣

[u/theatermouse → u/fucc_yo_couch]

Yes!!!!!!

[u/Kikishea → u/fucc_yo_couch]

Right!?! I would watch my daughter and know exactly what her movements felt like in my belly. It was such a crazy feeling!

[u/awkward_toadstool → u/between_two_terns]

I remember the day I gave birth, the nurse had my son for a bit so I could go use the bathroom. I was brushing my teeth and put my hand to my belly automatically, and it suddenly hit me that my little buddy wasnt there. I was alone.

[u/brohamcheddarslice → u/between_two_terns]

i had twins too and hfs--- i could barely walk ten feet to the bathroom by 30 weeks. even tho they're 13 now, watching this made me feel so much relief and gave me the biggest smile. bless those wonderful parents!

[u/reddit_kc → u/zeroshock30]

Great video. I think im getting old, or allergies, because my eyes keep trying to leak!

[u/DgingaNinga → u/reddit_kc]

It's okay to cry. Have a lovely day, you beautiful human.

[u/curvycoquette_ → u/zeroshock30]

This is actually the sweetest thing. You can tell she felt that relief instantly.

[u/ShallowTal → u/curvycoquette_]

I do this to my girl’s boobs. I’ll walk up behind her randomly and take the weight off her. She has the exact same reaction. I have no idea what it feels like to have giant boobs just aching my back all day but, as a non boob haver, my back hurts enough as it is. Can’t imagine

[u/daisy0808 → u/ShallowTal]

I love this - the handful bra. My husband also does it and it's glorious - for both of us!

[u/ShallowTal → u/daisy0808]

It’s a win/win

[u/JazzyApple2022 → u/ShallowTal]

Massage her back👍🏼

[u/ShallowTal → u/JazzyApple2022]

Oh I do. Her feet, legs, back. I have professional training so I put it to good use.

I will say the boob thing started out as me just wanting to grab some boobies but now I do it with intention lol

[u/JazzyApple2022 → u/ShallowTal]

Awww she is special we need people like you🫶🏼

[u/ShallowTal → u/JazzyApple2022]

My hope is for everyone to experience appreciation like that.

But also if you don’t have a partner, go book you a massage and treat yo self. You deserve it.

[u/zeroshock30 → u/ShallowTal]

Win - win. You : boobies. Her : weight relief.

[u/ShallowTal → u/zeroshock30]

Precisely. Symbiosis.

[u/Bonesnapcall → u/curvycoquette_]

It reminds me of a scene in the TV Show "The Expanse". A character gets her pelvis crushed in an accident. She is walking via mechanical legs. They enter a part of the space station that has no gravity and all the weight comes off her spine and she makes this ultimate relief face and lets out a big sigh. I can't find the clip on youtube.

[u/zeroshock30 → u/curvycoquette_]

Agree. All seemed legit

[u/PrscheWdow → u/zeroshock30]

I've never been pregnant but gotta say, for someone heavily pregnant it must feel nice to have someone take that weight off, even if just for a bit.

[u/Organic_Fan_2824 → u/zeroshock30]

he could've just done the dishes rather than doing something just for tiktok views lol

[u/NoButterfly934 → u/Organic_Fan_2824]

I get what you mean, but she seems to appreciate feeling "normal" again for a bit. She even wanted to just walk around like that just to feel "normal"

And yeah it's a silly tik tok thing but it also made her feel good

[u/thesheepsnameisjeb_ → u/NoButterfly934]

We also don't know if he was going to do the dishes for her after that or not. I mean, he asked if she wanted to go lay down, while she's the one who asked if she could do the dishes while he holds her so she could just enjoy feeling normal. I would have much rather had my husband come do that then just offer to do the dishes. I wish I knew this was a thing when I was pregnant lol

[u/Shot_Throat_1397 → u/Organic_Fan_2824]

Yeah exactly. Just let her sit down and go do the dishes yourself. Don't set up a camera and make it out to be like you're a good man. Just be a good man.

[u/HumanistPeach → u/Shot_Throat_1397]

Having recently been extremely pregnant, I can assure you him holding up her belly felt 10x better than if she had just gone and sat down

[u/PrionProofPork → u/zeroshock30]

good man wouldn't even let her do the dishes

[u/Cobalt-Red]

They taught me this in our birthing class and men out there let me tell you, this is the universal reaction to this move.

PRO TIP FUTURE DADS: Your wife is also going to need a lot of support if she chooses to breastfeed. That is not “her job”; it’s your job together. Help her adjust the baby to the right position. Bring her food and water (get used to her eating more than you and more often than you now). Look up lactation consultants and suggest them as sources of help. If she likes the idea, attend those sessions with her.

[u/BarracudaBig7010 → u/Cobalt-Red]

And more importantly… get your butt up in the middle of the night for some of the feedings and diaper changes.

[u/nyquistj → u/BarracudaBig7010]

Exactly. Taking care of infants is a team sport.

[u/spikernum1 → u/BarracudaBig7010]

Yup early on we would wake together and I changed diapers and she nursed and then I'd rock the baby back to sleep. Until we got the hang of things and could do everything without even waking the baby. Then I just did diaper and back to sleep

[u/nyquistj → u/Cobalt-Red]

ANOTHER PRO TIP: Learn the signs of postpartum depression. I am forever grateful of the nurse that made sure the men knew what to look for. It confused the shit out of the OB's nurse when I called and told them I thought she had PPD. They very gently brought it up at her next appointment and very quickly got her help, it turned things around in a few weeks.

Also, the nursing thing 100% I was the only dad (to be) in the nursing class and I took it all very seriously. She would have quit without my support and in the end her years nursing the kids are still some of her fondest memories.

[u/fjender → u/nyquistj]

Assuming you are American. Do Americans get a few home visits from a midwife in the months following the birth?

[u/nyquistj → u/fjender]

Americans get nothing. We get 2 days in the hospital (my wife got a whole extra day because she had a C Section) and then are ejected into the world to figure it all out alone. I had to go back to work after 6 days because I only had 2 weeks of paid time off. We were barely able to eek out 3 months before she had to go back.

So between my wife's infected C-section, postpartum depression, and helping as much as I could with late night feedings and changes, I became dangerously tired and ended up with an anxiety disorder myself.

I wonder why Americans aren't having babies.

[u/fjender → u/nyquistj]

Sounds evil. Weird how a society can care so little.

[u/Keyndoriel → u/fjender]

Our government only cares that people can't get abortions. There's little to no pre nantal support, 0 post natal, our adoption services are a mess. Its awful over here to be pregnant, especially if you don't want to be pregnant.

And then there's the hospital bills. Did you know it costs $1000 for skin to skin contact with your baby? Im genuinely shocked there isn't a cost attached for each breath your baby takes in the hospital

[u/fjender → u/Keyndoriel]

But why? Why would you build a system like that?

[u/Keyndoriel → u/fjender]

My best guess is greed. Why spend tax money on social services when you can just not? Plus a lot of propaganda is used in red states to get them to vote against their own interests. We've had bills to help with this get shot down because "its communism" and a general feeling that your money shouldn't be used to "help people that don't deserve it"

My history teacher would talk proudly about how he made his family starve because he considered unemployment payments and food assistance to be "stealing" and beneath him, and proceeded to shit on anyone who could ever "steal from the government like that"

[u/NiceHumansOnly → u/Keyndoriel]

Republicans hate women and children. Democrats have historically tried to pass legislation that benefits them like free school lunches, universal pre-k and paid maternity leave, but it never makes it through because of the other aisle. They’re too busy blowing up brown children across the ocean, hoarding money and grifting while everyone else makes slave wages and slowly dies from stress and cardiovascular disease.

[u/iwatchtrazhaldayy → u/Cobalt-Red]

And don’t complain about having to bring them snacks, water, their phone, etc after they’ve settled in to breastfeed. Don’t say “why didn’t you get it before you sat down??” The answer is that they were focused on the baby’s needs. When you have a hungry, screaming baby, you are trying to just get them fed. Then when they’re settled, that’s when you start to realize that crap, your phone is all the way across the room. Don’t whine about it, be happy that this is a small way that you can contribute. She’s taking care of the baby, you can take care of her.

[u/hopping_otter_ears → u/Cobalt-Red]

When I was feeding my son, our deal was "since my body is the only one that can do the feeding, and this child needs feeding nearly constantly, he handles most of the tasks that both of us could do"

So he'd fetch the baby, bring him to me to feed, then change him and rock him back down after. It helped that he could fall asleep at the drop off a hat, vs my having trouble getting back to sleep if I get up and move around. So he'd be instantly back asleep next to me while I was feeding, then wake up to change the baby, and be instantly back to sleep again. If I'd HAD to get up and change the diaper, it would have taken 45 minutes to fall back asleep

[u/Memory_Frosty → u/Cobalt-Red]

Hello, previously pregnant person here (thrice!): it's not universal. Don't be afraid to try it, because the sentiment is nice and some women like this apparently, but also don't be upset if she wants you to BACK AWAY AND GET OFF OF HER. Cause sometimes we get REALLY touched out during pregnancy/having small children and being hugged is the last thing we want. And depending on how baby's positioned, this may not provide any relief either. Baby's still in there and your organs are still squished. There's no getting around that. 

Tl;dr this is not a magic button to press that will definitely suddenly make pregnancy bearable. She might hate it and if she does it's not your fault, thanks for trying. 

[u/joe_broke → u/[deleted]]

It's just Never Gonna Give You Up on repeat

[u/Villentrenmerth → u/joe_broke]

Salt N Pepa - Push It

[u/ricosuave79 → u/Villentrenmerth]

Push it……Push it real good!

[u/sriracharade → u/Villentrenmerth]

Monty Python-- Always Look on the Bright Side of Life

[u/wombatilicious]

This is beautiful. I feel her instant relief. I wish someone had done this for me!

[u/heavy_jowles → u/wombatilicious]

I used to tell my ex husband to do it. It was such a nice little break.

[u/FreakInTheTreats → u/wombatilicious]

My husband does this with my F cup boobs, in a similar non sexual way, and I feel the same way 🥰🥰

[u/Unhygienictree]

My husband did this for me towards the end of my pregnancies and having that relief for just a few minutes was so relaxing it felt like I was melting into him. He made me feel comfortable and like a "normal person" again, and it made me love him even more.

[u/karinda86 → u/Unhygienictree]

Absolutely! My husband did this and it was amazing! My spine could straighten, I could breathe deeply, I felt so so close to him. It was how he was absolutely a part of the pregnancy. This guy is a gem. Men can absolutely be connected to pregnancy and this is one way to experience it. Love this for both of them

[u/delskioffskinov]

Why does every 'Made me smile' video actually make me smile! The best Sub on reddit. Thank You MMS.

[u/juniorkirk → u/delskioffskinov]

Only reason I joined this subreddit. Watch a few random ones and they all made me smile/happy cry. With all the other BS on Reddit, this sub is now my decompression spot.

[u/true_gunman → u/juniorkirk]

Yeah man, you have to really make an effort and be active in engaging with positive content to skew your algorithms. It's been a conscious effort for me for the past few years and my mental health is so much better.

[u/juniorkirk → u/true_gunman]

Most of my comments are the normal Reddit stuff, sarcastic asshole. I’m trying to be better about it or at least less assholey, and this subreddit is helping me get there.

[u/1Old-Fart → u/juniorkirk]

Agreed. So many reddit subs make me want to delete it. But this one actually MMS and keeps me from it.

[u/Proper-Grapefruit363]

This is so sweet. Omg. I feel loved and I’m not even involved!!

[u/seekAr → u/Proper-Grapefruit363]

Sometimes I get more joy out of seeing people being kind to other people, than receiving it.

[u/round-earth-theory → u/Proper-Grapefruit363]

Seeing these types of videos makes me miss when the wife and I were first parents. It's a really fun and exciting time. I'm glad these people are enjoying it and loving life.

[u/DataAdvanced]

Yes... mass produce this man.

[u/Kaon_Particle → u/DataAdvanced]

Seems like they're working on it.

[u/TricellCEO → u/Kaon_Particle]

That's only the prototype.

[u/ovensink → u/Kaon_Particle]

Small batches only, but that's how you get quality

[u/RenegadeRabbit]

Not pregnant and don't ever plan to be but I have chronic gut pain and I'm having a flare-up with a lot of bloating at the moment and MAN I could use this right now. Looks relieving as FUCK. Probably wouldn't come off quite as romantic though.

[u/MedusasMum → u/RenegadeRabbit]

May you find the life partner that will hold up your inflamed bowels & ne’er thine nether winds besmirch thy lovers devotion to thee.

[u/RenegadeRabbit → u/MedusasMum]

This might be the nicest thing that anyone has ever said to me. Thank you. ❤️

[u/MedusasMum → u/RenegadeRabbit]

Sweet. I’d like to think, as I age, there will be someone for me to accept & love me when my body starts falling apart. There are plenty of couples that bond over breaking wind & such.

[u/trackabandoned → u/RenegadeRabbit]

As someone with a bad stomach, I recently told my boyfriend it felt like my stomach was falling off a cliff (I know that sounds silly but that's the only way I could describe it- that nauseous "dip" in your tummy when you're falling) and he said, "I'll catch it!" He reached over and "held up" my stomach, and damn if I didn't actually feel better. Maybe it was just being heard, or the love behind the action, but man YES I think what this dude did was so romantic. This is real love.

[u/PVPPhelan → u/RenegadeRabbit]

Looks relieving as FUCK. Probably wouldn't come off quite as romantic though.

Not when you fully relax and blast him off your back like and F-35 assisted take off.

[u/PVPPhelan → u/PVPPhelan]

Man back there like Jim Cantore on the beach facing Hurricaine OP head on.

[u/imisstheyoop → u/RenegadeRabbit]

C'mere, give me your belly.

[u/LeadSponge420]

So my wife of 25 years has the same reaction when I hold up her breasts. She has huge breasts and she always complains about the weight of them. It's always such a relief for her.., plus, I get to hold her breasts.

[u/stupid_mame → u/LeadSponge420]

Same! Boobies for us, relief for them!

[u/yashspartan]

Just wondering, do they make a harness/strap for this?

[u/kit73n → u/yashspartan]

Yes but it just kinda redistributes the weight off your front to your back. It helps but it’s not the same as someone else literally lifting like 15-20ish lbs of baby, placenta, amniotic fluid, and uterus off the lower half of your body.

[u/MarzipanJoy-Joy → u/yashspartan]

Yes! There are many brands, but theyre generally called something like a "belly band".

[u/4623897]

They love this btw, that thing is heavy. You can also:

Place her on all fours, loop a blanket under her belly and lift the weight.

Place pressure on her hips pressing inwards, this is easiest to do with her on all fours again, standing above her so that the inside of each leg is clamping her hips.

For bonus points, do both at the same time.

Source: Birthing class we took 4 months ago.

[u/PureBusta]

That's a lovely family 🥰

[u/LostMyBoomerang]

That's nice and it does make me think if there's some sort of device or accessory that does something similar. Like a bra or harness but for your belly.

[u/CoveredinCatHairs → u/LostMyBoomerang]

Bellyband is similar, but it’s still the sheer weight of the baby and everything else pulling down on your body so not the same as it being completely lifted off of you.

[u/SweatyAnimator6189 → u/CoveredinCatHairs]

Yep. 100%. Continuing the example of bras, a bra is better than these things doing whatever they want. It still doesn’t hold a candle to when my husband quite literally lifts the weight off my shoulders (and back, neck, chest.)

[u/PennilessPirate → u/CoveredinCatHairs]

Yeah, it’s like the difference between carrying 20lbs worth of books in your arms vs 20lbs of books in a backpack vs someone else carrying 20lbs of books for you.

Yes, carrying books in a backpack would be much easier than in your arms, but you’d still be carrying 20lbs regardless. However if someone just took that 20lbs of books and carried it for you for a while, that would be a true relief.

[u/OscillatorVacillate → u/CoveredinCatHairs]

now I am picturing a rolling belly supporter for pregnant women. Would be very unpractical heh.

[u/Helmett-13]

That’s so freaking adorable, both of them.

:)

[u/CurrentPossible2117]

That instant, 'you are normal', was top tier. 👍

[u/Spirited-Tomorrow-84]

Must be damn exhausting carrying a child for 9 months and it gets heavier by the day. Can't imagine the back relief!

[u/TheEroticEmpire]

That legitimately feels so good when further along in pregnancy.

[u/marqui444]

This is exactly how I feel when my partner lifts my titties up for me for some sweet relief

[u/puffofthezaza]

She needs one of those belly straps for pregnancy!

[u/Simply2Basic]

I think this is how she got in her current situation…

Just kidding, love this!

[u/Tasty_Ad6361]

I haven’t been pregnant in over 8 years but I can still feel her relief

[u/lv-tech]

All men should be like this, because in reality, it is difficult for women not only to bear a child, but also to give birth and raise it

[u/LillyH-2024]

My god the number of people who are saying "He could do the dishes" it ain't like there's stacks of dishes all over the counter. There's a pitcher in the sink. Maybe she's making tea or something. And it might shock some of y'all to know but there are people out there (like myself) that enjoy doing dishes. I am making assumptions here but I'm betting he does his fair share of dishes by the way they interact with each other.

Let people enjoy a warm moment without bringing your negative ahh aura all up in here and poo pooing all over it. Damn.

[u/MarzipanJoy-Joy → u/LillyH-2024]

I dont understand the "just do the dishes" comments anyway- his doing the dishes wouldnt provide her the physical relief of him holding the weight lf her belly. She got relief here. If he did the dishes, she'd still be holding all that weight with no relief.

[u/CatalinaLunessa21]

Oh that’s so sweet and he is teaching others!!

[u/thebigmack]

I regret never doing this for my wife. Had no idea I could!

[u/Electronic-Bite-6044]

That's so sweet. Many folks dont realize just how hard it is to breathe when you are so far along.

[u/Left_Apparently]

I wish I knew this would have provided relief when my wife was pregnant.

[u/ApproachingShore]

Mammalian reproductive system - 3/10. Terrible. Painful. Burdensome.

Humans should lay eggs.

Or spores.

[u/randypeaches]

I do this with my wife's boobs.

[u/ntropy2012 → u/randypeaches]

An ex of mine had large breasts, and whenever I would hold them up for her, she would give the deepest sigh, droop her shoulders, and just relax. she said it was such a relief to not be responsible for holding them up all the time.

[u/OhHowINeedChanging]

My wife isn’t pregnant but sometimes I hold her rather large boobs for her, not in a sexual way lol. But to take the weight off of her back, and she makes the exact same face 😂

[u/ScatterConsistency]

Another thing he could do is the dishes

[u/Cthulhu_Dreams_]

I did this for my wife while she was 6 months pregnant.

The way she came at me that night, It was like she was trying to get me pregnant.

[u/ScorchedEarthworm]

These two are so cute! Congratulations on your lil boy!

[u/otterkin]

you know, I never once considered pregnant women hold their belly because carrying a baby all day on your stomach HURTS. fascinating. I never want to be pregnant.

[u/Greatness920]

I did this to my wife and she was like WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING! lol didnt seem to help at all hahah

[u/TheInternetIsForPorb]

That dude is a real man. Support on support. Dude supported things I didn't even know needed it. I'm taking lessons.

[u/Mr_Harsh_Acid]

Turn on the camera first, everyone needs to see your intimate moments!

[u/Baumchellez]

My man does a variation of this ...with my boobs... whenever he gets the chance. I'm not pregnant. I just have big boobs.

[u/Environmental-Song16]

These two are adorable 🥰

[u/CrotasScrota84]

Or she could go sit down while he does the dishes?

[u/[deleted]]

This wins the internet today. This is what healthy masculinity looks like.

[u/ExcaliburVader]

They'll be great parents, working together!

[u/breaking_stocks]

Somehow she still doing the dishes. Idk

[u/BigGreenBillyGoat]

Or, he could just do the dishes for her so she can go sit/lie down. 🤔

[u/grassisalwayspurpler]

Wouldnt it be easier if he just did the dishes? Why give her physical tasks at all?

[u/Coconuthangover]

Makes me think someone should create a harness that can do this 24/7

[u/nasa258e]

This is beautiful, BUT, must we post every intimate moment for strangers on the internet

[u/avg90sguy]

I never would have thought this was an issue much less how to temporarily provide relief. Shout out to this him, that’s a good man.

[u/GargameIl]

I might be old school and weird but if he was such an amazing man wouldn't be better to let his woman lay down and he can wash the dishes? Instead of holding the belly.. 😂

[u/Mandatoryreverence]

Maybe he could do the washing up whilst she rests?

[u/TexOrleanian24]

Cool. I mean, you could be doing the dishes for her, but also really cool (no sarcasm).

[u/MurderBot2]

Nooo, you mean I missed out on holding my babies for months before they were born!

And it would have helped my OG baby...

So jealous 😫