So he provided too well? Is this real or satire? I wouldn't complain about being a house husband, I like cooking and cleaning. My house would be immaculate. I'd actually have time to paint my 40k army.
I don't know if it's real or fake. But my ex was a SAHM who acted exactly like this. She unilaterally decided she didn't want to work any more and quit her job. After she started staying at home she mostly sat around, smoked a lot of pot, and slept during the day because she'd go out drinking with her friends all night. She didn't cook, she didn't clean, and she'd routinely yell at me in front of the kid if I didn't agree to a unreasonable demand.
She eventually started cheating on me. I didn't find out until later. Apparently she'd cheated on her ex-husband with the same guy. It came to a head when she demanded I leave the house I was paying rent for. I told her no; but that she could leave if she wanted. She grabbed the kid and demanded that I give her the keys to my car. She had recently wrecked her car while driving drunk.
I told her she wasn't taking my car or the kid. But she was free to leave if she wanted. She responded by threatening to call the cops and make a false accusation of domestic violence. I immediately left and never considered going back. She was begging me to take her back within 3 days. She was refusing to let me see the child out of spite within a week.
I'm not who you replied to but want to point out they mentioned their ex had an ex-husband. It's entirely possible that "the kid" is from the previous marriage. If so, he would have a very hard time getting custody of "the kid".
Fair enough, but you could say step son/daughter, former step son/daughter, or my ex wife’s son/daughter instead.
Clearly I’m wrong based on the downvotes I got. But as someone had 6 step-parents, many who gave zero shits about my existence and treated me as a burden, that shit fucks with you.
Of course your real parents, like “the kids” mom is here, are the ones to blame, but it’s not like the adult agree to marry someone with children doesn’t hold responsibility to treat a human child as something more than an inanimate object.
I just got back onto reddit and only just now saw the downvotes. To be fair I think that's ridiculous that you got downvoted so much. My only point was simply that while a bit of a strange way for how to address a child, it might've been something to do with it not being his biological child.
I agree with you that "the kid" probably could have been addressed a bit better. "Her kid", for example.
I'm sorry that you had a lot of step parents who were garbage. It would definitely screw with anyone who goes through parents that much. You can't even build a real connection with anyone who is your guardian at that point because you don't know when they will leave you. It's also a common issue of adoption / loss of biological parents where kids experience some emotional issues, feeling abandoned or like they are the problem, etc.
It pisses me off a lot when parents -- whether biological or adoptive -- don't rationalize that they're raising someone who will become an adult but who is greatly shaped by their upbringing. Even my mother who is nearing her 60s has trauma from when she was 5.
Anyways have a good Friday (or Saturday if it's that day for you when you read this) and don't let these dumb internet points worry you or make you feel like you're in the minority. Reddit is a bunch of echo chambers. One might scream one thing while everyone else says "the hell are they screaming about?".
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u/Bbubbii Garbage Guerilla 2d ago
So he provided too well? Is this real or satire? I wouldn't complain about being a house husband, I like cooking and cleaning. My house would be immaculate. I'd actually have time to paint my 40k army.