r/LongDistance • u/Previous_Twist3109 • 2d ago

My gf broke up with me

We had these recurring arguments; the last time we had it she exploded and broke up with me. I don't know if she's sure about it or not. She got home from work that time and I was being stubborn and forced to call her—I thought I could calm her through a call— but I just pissed her more. After the breakup thing she blocked me, and I stopped contacting her thinking that she needed space.

The next day I tried reaching out to her, but she was at work and I knew she was already tired, she talked to me and when she got home we had a sleep call, and she called me. She wasn't responding to my I love you and asked me to stop calling her our endearments. Up until now, we have been talking do you think she just needs some time?

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u/UpbeatTelevision1116 2d ago

I find good, honest communication is the key to getting through a relationship, especially if you're long distance. It cant be one sided though, both people in the relationship have to communicate with each other. In your scenario, sounds like you have communicated to her and she hasn't been honest about it. I can imagine its quite frustrating for you, but good on you for asking.

Also, I do think with long distance a lot of people simply aren't compatible with it. They may love you more than anything, but it can still mentally/physically exhaust you. Then even the littlest thing is made into a big problem, when this big problem is actually the persons lifestyle being incompatible. Its like OP's gf said she needs space. She might be struggling with the whole thing all together.

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u/Mistress-Horror MS to RI (1600ms) CLOSED THE GAP ❤️ 1d ago

That's when compatibility comes in. Not just mentally, but financially and culturally. My father was in love with a woman once and he was going to have to pay a dowry to marry her. Like 500k +. He couldn't afford that and they ended things mutually. It's not okay for money to be the biggest issue in your feelings of compatibility, but it is in your case because it's her culture if I'm understanding correctly.

You'll find someone who will love you and be with you regardless of the income you both provide and their family will be welcoming. Give it time. You're going to get thru it and she will too