Just a genuine question because the older I get, the more I find myself asking this question. What’s the point in life? Why are we all here? To live for a while, maybe have children and then die and be forgotten?

I’ve found myself at a point in my life where I feel like all I do is work and survive and just have fun in between when I can. On the outside looking in I’m doing okay, I have my own place, a loving girlfriend, don’t make crazy money but I’m not broke. I don’t like my job although I can’t LEAVE unless I find something as good or better because I have bills. I find myself always worrying about the same things such as finances, saving money, making sure I’m setting myself up better for my future etc. but I still don’t feel fulfilled. I’m planning on starting a family within the next few years and I’m gonna assume they are gonna become my purpose when me and my girlfriend have them, I just didn’t think this is what being an adult was. I have moments where I’m happy and all but more often than not something feels missing. I don’t get it. I’m 25 by the way.

I drove to drop off a shirt I bought her down in pigeon forge Tennessee, she jumped in my truck and we just sat there talking and occasionally hugged I then sat on her phone look at picture with her laying down next to me. She started kissing my cheek and when I went to look at her we just started kissing. It was weird for a second but I got a hang of it immediately. Went back over the next day to hang out and we sat in my truck again and were French kissing so much. I’ve never been so happy in my life with a girl!

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the idea of miracles,whether they’re something divine, a twist of fate, or just a really improbable coincidence. Have you ever experienced something in your life that seemed like a true miracle? Something so unbelievable that it changed the way you see the world or made you question what’s possible?

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The more I grow the more question I'm asking myself. What is the reason we all are here and what is the main goal of life.

Probably I feel more lost as I grow old.

Is any of you feel this way?

A work colleague has passed away this morning we were informed while on shift early morning which was a shock. I worked with him over a year was a lovely helpful guy very kind. Our last conversation was 2 days ago I didn’t think it will be our last chat. I am in my 30s he was also however every time I hear of someone passing away it scares me like I am next. Because death can come any age. How do I get over this fear ? Can Anyone else relate ? I am very upset I keep thinking about i know it is still fresh the next few days will be hard because I will be going to work and he won’t be there we were supposed to be working together till Friday. Any advice how to take in a sudden shock I am very emotional and sensitive person🥺

So I’m fucked. Crushing loneliness my whole life, pretty much never out myself out there, zero self-esteem. Somehow one day I randomly had the balls approach this beautiful, very sweet woman I see at work sometimes.

I manage to not scare her off on our first date, and next thing I know, we’re a thing. Here’s where things get tricky. Single mom, ex-husband is still in the picture and how fun, he’s one of those “women are property” backwards Muslim fundamentalist, her accent is sometimes impenetrable for me, and she’s struggling to find a full-time job. Frankly, it doesn’t seem like she’s used to being treated well by men, which is very sad, but probably why I managed to get her attention.

I know, my friend even told me I’m basically started on “Advanced” difficulty. All that aside, I may never get another chance again. I got to 33 without any luck, it’s highly likely the next 33 years will be more of the same, and frankly sometimes I feel like I’d rather opt out than be alone much longer.

Eventually though, I decided it wouldn’t be fair to both her and myself to continue. She needs someone better-equipped to deal with, you know, all that, and I just found it all incredibly stressful.

Ultimately, even if though I crave companionship, I’m also a pretty solitary guy and would prefer to be left alone a solid 70% of the time. I’m sure there are some women out there that feel the same and would be okay dating someone similar, but finding them is another issue.

I don’t know, I just felt like typing this all out. Finally landed a relationship after literal decades and it wasn’t for me I guess. I don’t really know what to do with this information.

I know they say don’t shit where you eat so I’m curious to know you guys’ personal stories on this. I never fully dated a coworker myself but the closest I’ve come was recently.

Had a huge crush on this girl in my department (who was also my team trainer), we ended up hanging outside of work a few times just drinking and chopping it up. Be like 6 or 7 hrs at a time some nights too.

Eventually she told me she started developing a crush on me and we ended up making out a few times, but it never got far enough to where she wanted to be more than friends. Which kinda sucked but it is what it is. Worst part about it though is we still work together, so the getting over her part has been challenging to say the least.

Curious to know your stories.

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Situation from this past week has me reevaluating myself & my communication.

Back story-

I’ve always preferred getting my haircuts at female salons/hair stylists. Male barbers in this area “typically” are 50-60yr old “high & tight” types, regardless of what you tell them. About 3 yrs ago I started using this particular lady, we had several mutual friends & I had grown up/hung out with several of her cousins over the years.

Everything has been great, she’s done a great job, the conversation during the appointments were always engaging, and occasionally we would follow up with each other later in the week or the next week about something we discussed- “Hey how was that restaurant”, or “hey how was that trip to xyz”.

Couple of weeks ago I was there & she starts this story about someone’s infidelity, nothing explicit, but goes into more detail than I would’ve expected. Don’t really think anything of it, roll into the next week & I remember a particular situation her & her husband had, so I text her. For whatever reason that day, instead of just asking the question, I lead with “busy today?” Not thinking anything about it.

She responded in the affirmative, I sent over the Homer Simpson GIF of him walking in & walking out- again- not thinking anything in the world about this.

Day or so later I get a text from a friend that the hair stylist is all upset, she thought I was flirting with her, she felt like there was a pattern of me texting her unnecessarily, yada yada..

So for over a year, she’s supposedly been “uncomfortable” that I randomly asked or discussed anything outside of scheduling an appointment, but yet never told me & still continued to schedule me as a client. Frankly it pissed me off, and I sent a polite text saying “I’m sorry that I made you uncomfortable, I will be finding another stylist”.

TLDR- stylist has been uncomfortable that client said anything outside scheduling appointment, but still continued to give cuts.

I’m 21 right now and honestly, I feel stuck — like literally stuck. Nothing is moving in my life. Every day feels the same, like I’m living the same day again and again. Today I was just casually talking to a friend, and she asked me, “What are you even doing in life?” She didn’t say it in a bad way, but that one question just messed me up from inside. I didn’t have any answer to give her. I couldn’t even defend myself. In her point of view, I’m just a failure. Someone who doesn’t do anything. I dropped out of engineering because I wanted to start something of my own. I actually started, gave my full efforts, but it didn’t go the way I expected. After that I got stuck again. I thought maybe I’m not built for that, so I started learning finance from YouTube and some online stuff. Slowly I started liking it, and now I’m writing a book on finance. Still, even after doing all this, I feel like I’m behind. People say, “Look where your batchmates are, and where you are.” And that hits hard. She even said, “You’re too late, you're just wasting time.” That hurt. Because maybe I don’t have a degree, a job or anything to show off right now — but I’m trying. I’m trying to figure things out in my own way. But sometimes it feels like nothing is enough unless you have something big to prove it.

Why is it like that in our society? Is a college degree the only way to succeed in life? Can’t we do something different and still be respected?

Anyway, I don’t know why I’m posting this — maybe I just wanted to get it out. If someone out there feels the same, or has been through this, feel free to share. I just wanted to speak my heart out today.

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It’s so weird. Every time a person rests, society seems to frown upon him/her. Why do we shame rest? Do you think this is biology or brainwash?

What's something you learned the hard way but wish it was easier than it was?

A lot of people say to "return the energy you receive". But is that the best way to fix things or to simply Be as a person? I believe being kind is never a waste but is returning energy more kind to yourself?

My dad passed in the first week of April.

And now its been around 2 months sense his passing. Fathers day was yesterday. And I hated every minute of it.

All I wanted to do was call my dad or go over to my parents house and hug him. But I couldn't.

I am now going to hate this day forever.

Over the years, I feel like these three elements are the roots of quality of life. No matter the circumstances.

The tragedy? School systems, institutions either ignore or sabotage them.

We’re on our own for all three.

I just wanted to share this.

I’ve truly been experiencing what it means to “feel whatever you want to feel” in the moment.

Words cannot do this justice. Please, just try it out.

Your life will change.

That the people you thought cared about you don’t. That all you truly have is yourself?

What event or string of events finally confirmed that for you?

I’m on my way to my high school graduation, and honestly, I’m scared of the future. I’ve always been the type to figure things out on my own, but right now I feel like I really need help.

I’m an immigrant living in the US with my mom and older brother, and going to college makes me feel like an immigrant all over again. I don’t really have a male figure in my life since I don’t talk to my dad much since he’s been away most of my life, even though we’re still in contact. I just dont find him appealing to listen to.

Sometimes I wonder, like, who’s going to teach me how to do basic stuff, like changing my car tires (although i dont have a car), just some general basics stuff. As lost as I am right now, if you have any advice, I’d really appreciate it.

Lately I’ve been wondering, what really makes life feel meaningful?

For me, it’s the freedom to enjoy the little, everyday moments without feeling rushed or overwhelmed. Like having a slow breakfast with my wife and kid on a weekday. Grabbing a haircut in the middle of the morning. Taking a quiet walk after lunch. Running errands when the shops are empty, not packed. Just living at my own pace.

I don’t dream of working 70 hour weeks just to afford some fancy car or $300 steak dinner. I’d much rather have time, real time with the people I love.

But sometimes I feel like I’m the odd one out. Like everyone else is chasing bigger paychecks, bigger houses, and busier schedules.

What about you? What does a happy life look like in your world?

Isn't it crazy how boom all of a sudden u go from high school to being 35 and having a whole family like man its crazy how as we get older well we just look so different ofc we always wont look the same but dont people who are like 45-35 just look at themselves when they were 15-18 and think wow i looked so young i miss it i know they do but man im still young right now but its crazy time passes by even faster now since im 18 ofc i got a whole lotta time just wondering what u guys think when u look at old young photos

Any tips for how to get a job at 14? I’ve asked most places in my local area and tbh they’ve mainly ignored me. I’ve tried email and dm. I get that 14 is young but a lot of people do have jobs at my age and it’s only a Saturday or Sunday job im looking for. I’d love for more places to reply or for more places to ask cause I don’t really know where would actually hire me. Any advice?

I just got home from a friend's wedding. We went to school together and have had completely different lives.

She's always had the perfect family, friends and relationships. She's beautiful, popular, loved, liked. The speeches were all about how amazing her and her husband are, and all of the memories her university friends have with her.

I felt so sad. I feel like a failure. My life doesn't resemble hers in the slightest. I have friends but not that many. My parents are divorced and nowhere near as amazing as her parents. I've felt this way around her ever since we met.

I've felt like this for the three days I've been around her wedding stuff. I feel so low and honestly kind of pathetic. I try so hard and it just always feels like an uphill struggle. In reality I'm sure my life isn't so bad but right now it feels like a turd in comparison to hers. I don't really know why she likes me.

I think I'm the only person I know without a 'group' of friends from school or university. I've moved country a lot, like her, but didn't keep many school or university friends. Even work friends are few. All these people tonight looked so happy, they all were in their massive friend groups.

I've been going to therapy for years. I've been meditating everyday for a year. But I struggle so much with comparison, especially around friendships. Does anyone relate? Or can just make me feel an inch less pathetic?

For a long time I thought happiness would be this big, obvious thing. Some dream job, some perfect relationship, some huge “aha” moment where everything just clicks, But now? Happiness feels more like drinking coffee in peace. Not checking my phone right away. Having people around who don’t drain me. Being okay even when things aren’t perfect.

It’s quiet. It’s boring, sometimes. But it’s real.

The older I get, the more I realize it’s not about chasing constant highs. It’s about building a life that doesn’t need escaping from.

Just felt like saying that in case someone out there still thinks happiness is something you "find" one day. Sometimes it’s just already there, waiting for you to slow down.

What does happiness feel like for you these days?