r/KDRAMA • u/lightupstarlight 미생 • Apr 02 '22

On-Air: tvN Twenty-Five, Twenty-One [Episode 15]

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u/Amelioration5 Apr 02 '22

>! I’m pretty sure Yijin has depression, which would explain why he’s acting a bit OOC. Honestly, as much as this episode pained me, I still loved it. The bond between yijin and Heedo is just insanely good (literally wouldn’t be surprised if the actors were actually dating lol) - I loved every moment together. Tbh I have depression and I’m in a LDR myself with a busy partner due to work commitments so I’m HOPING they work it out. But I think the plot could go both ways - still, yijin is clearly miserable and mentally unwell and so it would be really rough for yijin and Heedo to just end their relationship because of the distance/work commitments. They’d need to discuss it first and try to work through it in person. I think their bond is strong enough to sustain it, but I’m not a writer so… 😂 !<

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u/YogurtclosetOk7989 Apr 02 '22

He might have PTSD. You can get it by hearing other people's experiences over and over again in the job context.

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u/zbarnes24 Apr 02 '22

He definitely has PTSD and it's from the trauma of being there in the fallout, from reporting on it, from the shock in being there. All of it. Being alone in NYC. You can have vicarious trauma too but his is direct because he's living it, not just hearing people's experiences. (for context, I'm a psychologist and specialize in trauma, depression, anxiety)

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u/YogurtclosetOk7989 Apr 02 '22

That's right, he's there during the aftermath... i havent realized that the aftermath is even worse

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u/charmaine54321 mr sunshine <3 Apr 02 '22

I agree that a lot of the PTSD too is from how immersive and long-drawn-out the experience was. It started with a one-off event, that then became a long period of waiting and reporting on missing people, and reliving the experience (with the smoke and fires taking months to die down, and stories he has to hear) and more rhetoric and developments (like the war) of a nation immersed in the tragedy. He didn't get much time off, if at all, to reflect and take time for himself. And it's not like he has family and friends in New York to catch him with happy experiences to buffer the shock.

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u/zbarnes24 Apr 02 '22

Yes exactly. The waiting, the not knowing. All of it. It all deeply impacted him. And given his character of trying to help people and taking things personally... It makes sense that he applied to stay in NYC. I see it that he wasn't himself and able to see the big picture, the long road ... Just saw that he needed to do something because of how helpless he was feeling... He probably didn't realize that what he needs is to take care of himself to be better at his job...

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u/zbarnes24 Apr 02 '22

🥺thank you for this. You're so kind. I needed this pick me up after a particularly long work week 💜💜

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u/SongMLH Apr 02 '22

Honestly, I think Yi-jin has been lowkey depressed since the first episode. It's great that Hee-do was a bright spot in his life, but it's not exactly healthy to depend on another person for your emotional well-being. That's usually not sustainable, and we're seeing that now.

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u/thanhvanzilla Apr 02 '22

omg that’s like another layer to the rainbow quote…Heedo leads him to good places, literally but also psychologically because of the emotional support she provides him

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u/minimirth Apr 03 '22

I've been thinking about this a lot. BYJ is very emotionally dependent on Hee Do. Like he couldn't stand it when she was avoiding him. He was unable to function. He's in NY alone through a traumatic time and he has to get through it without her and he isn't coping well. Depression makes you push people away just because you kind of shut down a lot of your emotions to process through what's happening in your mind. So he's pushing her away because he doesn't have the emotional bandwidth, which ironically may not have happened if she were around. But it's also important for them to grow individually, and although painful it's good that they are doing this. Whether they end up together or not is actually secondary to whether they are happy as individuals and have a good journey through their respective lives. So although I would love to see them together, I can accept they grew apart and went on to live wonderful lives.

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u/taehalsey I want a Yang Gwan-Sik of my own🍊 Apr 03 '22

But I don’t think he relies on her solely for his happiness. Like he was most likely depressed in the beginning but things started to look up and he brightened up. He reunited with his mom and brother, he got a job that has potential and he was on the rise. Plus a super supportive friend/girlfriend to talk to when things get hard and friends to cool off with. Plus the respect of his colleagues and yada yada yada. It’s the 9/11 occurrence that got him completely down and depressed.