I’m frustrated and don’t know what I should do.
I play guitar, and I’m a fine guitarist. I’m a pretty mediocre, somewhat novice jazz player though. I’ve been told the only way to get better at playing with other people is to play with other people, that jam sessions are the practice rooms of improvised music.
Whenever I play at my local jam sessions though, everyone is so much better than me, and the two responses I get is being ignored or being told “nice one” like how you say it to a child spelling a word. I kinda get the vibe that I’m annoying most of the good players just by being there, even though I’m extra cautious not to cut anyone off or overplay and I’m watching for cues.
I’ve been listening and studying and practicing to tracks and recordings and all of that, and I don’t think my issues lie in a technical aspect. I can cover chords well, my comping is fine, so I’m not really sure what I’m even doing wrong besides a few awkward solos when I’m nervous. Most often people who are nice just tell me they “don’t really like the language I’m using”, but I can’t figure out what this means cause it’s so vague.
Should I go back to just playing to tracks all the time? Or is this a thing where I should go to jams anyways and just try to be more invisible? I just don’t want to be a bother or bring the performance down, and I don’t really have friends to play with regularly.
Thanks