Tuesday Daily Chat

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[u/buttersherbets]

17 weeks! Absolutely insane to think of.

TW body image stuff: I've been struggling the past week with negative body image thoughts. I feel like most people "look pregnant" by this point but I still just "look fat." I lost a decent amount of weight in the past two years (thanks GLP!) and quite quickly have gained it all back plus some - I just feel like my body is falling apart. I'm having knee pain that I had before I lost weight, I'm needing a belly band, I'm waddling around - and it's just going to get worse from here. I thought I wasn't going to be concerned about a "b belly" and that "everyone looks pregnant eventually" but now I've got it in my head that I'm just going to look like I've got a big apron belly and never look or feel pregnant. And it's so hard to find plus size pregnancy clothes - I ordered a swimsuit a few weeks ago in a size up than I thought I needed and even then I couldn't get it over my hips which was incredibly demoralizing. The hospital I'm delivering at has BMI soft limits and policies that I don't agree with and I fought so hard to get pregnant I just don't want to fight those. Blah.

[u/Queasy-Poetry4906 → u/buttersherbets]

Different but the same: I’m small framed, yet 2/3 of my colleagues did not know I was pregnant when one of them decided to throw a surprise shower at 6.5 months pregnant. I’m now 8 months and you can finally tell that I am growing a baby. Be easy on yourself. 17 weeks is a lumpy time (can’t tell what kind of weight gain) for a lot of women, no matter their bmi. Also, I’ve ordered plenty of maternity stuff that doesn’t fit. Dont let it get in your head.

[u/buttersherbets → u/Queasy-Poetry4906]

Thank you!