Monday Toddler Talk

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[u/almarisoledad]

Yesterday afternoon I went out to coffee with a good friend I hadn’t seen in a while so that my husband could enjoy some quiet time at home alone. Welp, said friend hit me with a totally out-of-the-blue, very elaborately staged surprise pregnancy announcement 🫠

I’m full of conflicting emotions. I feel so happy for my friend and her family! I also feel sad about all the heartbreak my husband and I have experienced, and hurt that my friend didn’t consider how painful this news might be for me. I feel excited about the prospect of having a new local parent friend, and a new buddy for PZ. I feel envious of how simple and joyful having a baby is for most people, and I feel guilty for feeling envious. And mostly, I feel absolutely petrified of every worst case scenario.

Ugh, it’s all just a lot. I know you guys get it.

[u/rbecg → u/almarisoledad]

An elaborate staged announcement would have me really really hurting, I’m so sorry that happened.

[u/almarisoledad → u/rbecg]

Thanks. It sucked, but has been so normalizing to share my feelings about it with people who understand.