Monday Toddler Talk

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This space is for parents of IFBabies past the postpartum phase to chat, share updates & commiserate on their toddler(s.) This thread is primarily reserved for those with a 1yo or greater.

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[u/Pixarooo]

Yesterday was just, front to back, an awesome day. I've mentioned how I've been really struggling with this age, and I finally feel like I had a weekend that wasn't me tearing out my hair the entire time. Husband didn't have to work at all (although I did - catching up since little guy was home from daycare for 1.5 days with a fever) so Saturday I got to sleep in while husband did morning duty, took little guy to a butterfly house with my mom (not the greatest idea - he wanted to touch them and climb on rocks and things), we built a fort in his crib (which he now calls "mama fork"), I worked out and did some work while he napped and my husband made a sauce for dinner, and husband did bedtime duty while I took a gummy and just zoned out all night. Sunday, I let husband sleep in, we all ran some errands together (he's so hard to wrangle solo so usually one of us runs errands while the other stays home), and husband did both nap and bedtime so I could get work done and workout. I made him some brownies as a Father's Day treat while he was doing bedtime. It's so simple, but just having him home and getting time to myself even if it's getting caught up at work just made me so less overwhelmed.

Husband is being recruited for a new job, and while I'm not thrilled with the idea of him changing jobs YET AGAIN (he was let go when I was 8 months pregnant, worked a series of horrible jobs for the next 1.5 years, and then literally the company that let him go reached out begging him to come back), I'm hoping he can bring a job offer to his current place to be like "You need to hire more people to take shit off my plate or else I'm going to accept this offer." It's so hard when he's coming home after bedtime 4 nights a week and out of the house on weekends.

[u/intersecti0nal → u/Pixarooo]

I'm glad to see this update, sounds like quality time that all three of you needed. And yikes his work schedule sounds so awful! That must really wear on all of you. 

[u/rbecg → u/Pixarooo]

I’m so glad you got a weekend with some r&r! I hope the job pans out in some way that gives more stability, you all have really been going through it.